Supporting subs

Posted by Newnorthern

I have learned recently that subs (like me) have feelings too. A lot of iud like humiliation, trusting amd getting cashfucked. The thing is subs are also human. Subs need to protect their income and mental health. I think what I am trying to say here is if I sub only has a small amount or is dipping their toe in findom, don't make them. So recognise we are in a cost of living crisis so tributes may be lower or may not happen at all.

Subs are people. They may need support, understanding and aftercare. That aftercare is your responsibility as a dom. 

The 3 C's

Posted by MajorMaster92

The 3 C’s

Those that follow me on Twitter may have seen or heard me speak of this before, on posts and in Spaces, but I thought it should be something I could elaborate on here on OF. It is a set of standards/rules/model I go by when looking at what makes a good FinDom relationship, although this can very much apply to a majority of D/s relationships. 

3 things I look for and stand by personally, when looking for a good, long lasting sub. 

Now obviously there is things that sit outside of this but for me these are 3 main, ideal, must haves I want so I'll jump straight in. 

• Connection

Most certainly the most important of all in my opinion. Is there that “spark”? Do Dom and sub have same end goal? Do I enjoy using, draining, humiliating, bullying, nurturing this sub, and is that reciprocated.

This cannot be worked on, it's there or its not. You know if you just click with someone, I feel having this goes a long way. It helps define, what limits could be there, what can be achieved, how comfortable each is, can there be relationship out side of D/s (if either want that), what trust is in play, can sub truly give themselves or do they have to hold back. Connection covers so much, and either you've got it, or you haven't. Without this, really, the others will fall out. 

One of the main reasons likely to see a D/s relationship fall apart and even just a normal romantic one…. You just didn't get one another. 

• Communication 

This one speaks for itself, communication, we'd be nowhere in the world without it. Humans instinct is to communicate, regardless of what form that takes. Clear, concise and fluid communication will always lead to a better relationship. The opportunity for the sub to understand how the Master likes to be served, what they enjoy, what they don't like, what they want from service. And this also goes the other way too, 90% of the time, for a majority of subs I've dealt with. Both parties are here for something/s and without discussion, the real reason would be hard to understand. It can aid, greatly, in building upon that first C, connection, and consistency is key here. Way too often I've spoke to subs where great service has broken down, as one party, doesn't commit enough to this. Keeping things fresh, evolving, in line with boths wants and needs (as I fully agree it is a two way street, that obviously the Dom will command that street, but nonetheless, still two way) 

Without communication, and honesty in your communication, alongside consistent communication, things quickly break down. 

• Control 

Now this is something dear to me, and of course, means different things to us all, and it is where these 3 C’s hone themselves in to being specific around D/s / FinDom instead of a conventional relationship. 

Having the right kind and right level of control. Subs expectations of this differ greatly (from my experience) and it is, and always should be, the Doms duty to control this. Whatever form it takes, weather it might be Finance/Bills, the clothes a subs wear, it's schedule, what it sends or when, all the way to the extreams of how it looks, what it eats or who it sees, there are so many levels to it and it's is a crucial 3rd C. 

I fucking love controlling, it feeds my sadism, is shows my power, is let's me be the Dom I enjoy being. And it paves the way for the dynamic of my D/s relationships. It takes time and commitment from both sides but with the right effort, the initial and continual connection, partnered with that all important communication, the sky's the limits. 

So what now?

Be open and honest about what you might or might not like to do or try. Keep it fresh. Work on it. Trust is a huge factor, and that doesn't come over night. 

So, there they are, Major Masters 3 C’s 

Connection, Communication, Control. 

I’d love to hear others input and if they have similar things they look for or do to enjoy both Dom and sub are in a thriving place to continue with the kink they love! 

MM

An official denial

Posted by cynic

I'd like to address some rumours that have been going around in the last few days: that Slave and myself are in fact the same person!

Yes: we are both obsessed with Master Zal (but then who isn't?) and dismayed at his continued and obstinate use of towels and other fabrics to cover up his family jewels.Yes: we are both blessed/cursed with huge cocks.Yes: we both tend to see the (usually unintentional) amusing/funny in some posts and pictures, and have incurred the wrath of several Masters with a sense-of-humour bypass, but luckily survived a number of clumsy assassination attempts.Yes: we never seem to be in the chatroom at the same time
BUT
we are not the same entity!
Sadly, I don't have Slave's devastating good looks or - despite my half-hearted attempts - his bulging muscles. Which is just as well as the world wouldn't be ready for two of us... I mean there are two of us of course, but we are not the same.

Not to mention that it would be in direct infringement of OF's T&C.

So I hope that now I've put to bed once and for all these flattering (for me) but pointless rumours...

A MOVIE - PART 1

Posted by Slave

The first treatment of a Porn Movie that will be shot soon...

SCENE 1

INTEROR - The Safe House

Midday

In a dimly lit bedroom a laptop is gently humming. Exterior sounds of cars, police sirens and people talking. The sound of a cork popping is heard out of shot. Slave enters, walking from a steamy bathroom into the bedroom. He is naked and holding a glass of wine. His bronzed body and glistening muscles dripping with perspiration after a three-hour calisthenics session at a local gym. He smiles. He picks up a poster from the black silk sheets on the bed. He unrolls the poster and pins it on peeling wallpaper opposite the king-sized bed. Slave looks at the image. He groans, he shouts, empty wine glasses start moving and one falls from a chest of drawers.

Slave: NO. NO. NO! You’re kidding me! You’re fucking kidding me!

Close up to slave’s angry but alluringly handsome face.

Slave: Another fucking towel!

The poster is revealed. It shows Masterzal in a locker room, naked, with a white towel draped elegantly over his interesting bits. Slave beats the wall with his hand, his massive muscles strained in rage. The wall shakes and dust falls. The phone rings. Slave steadies himself. He inhales deeply through his manly nostrils. He turns and swaggers towards the telephone, scratching his enormous balls as his massive cock slaps his thighs. He picks up the receiver.

Slave: What?

A distant voice starts speaking unintelligibly.

Slave: When? Are you sure? Are you sure you want this? It WILL change your life. You’ll never be the same again. You’ll probably never walk in the same way again?

Slave replaces the handset and smiles.

If you would like a PART TWO, please let me know.

The Vicious Circle of self-service

Posted by Maskedmasterbe

We have all seen it many times. After serving a lot of subs experience a huge drop and regret their actions.

It's The vicious circle :

Horny Sub –> A Dom makes the sub’s dick itch –> Send to a Dom –> Climax –> Reality check -> Feeling 💩ty -> Swearing to do it Never again -> Horniness -> Relapse -> Let’s try another Dom -> ….

 

Well Sub. You cannot blame Dom ! Yes he used you, yes he got what he wanted and probably doesn’t’ know at all how to manipulate subs without his social media marketing.

You only got yourself to blame !. Why ?

·         * You send to a Dom you knew nothing about

·         * You just followed your brainless dick

·         * You didn’t have a strategy how to serve properly

The regret comes from the fact you didn’t serve a Dom at all. No you only served yourself. This behaviour is self-destructive.

It is the vicious circle of self-service : a self-serving Sub and a self-serving Dom.

By controlling your urges and submitting to a real Dom with who you build a lasting connection you will find real pleasure and purpose.

Yes you know you need to Serve (your body and min remind you each time). The combination of the need to fulfil your primal urges and your weak brain causes it to go really wrong.

If you want to find happiness you need a real master like me to step in and guide you. Even reprogram you to become focussed, immersed and committed. Single minded devotion ! No more regret, no more confusion. The feeling of belonging to real superior alpha master.

Reimbursment opport

Posted by Maskedmasterbe

Reimbursement opportunities. I got some replies from subs stating I need money to pay my event tickets (which were listed as . Clearly these fags are a bit confused as one can only be reimbursed if the money has already been spent.

Now. I do understand why some subs are confused. Often I see on Twitter a picture of a shopping cart and a Dom asking for reimbursement. If the cart has not been paid for, than there is absolutely no reason to ask for reimbursement. In fact the Dom probably hadn’t the money to pay for the item in his shopping cart in the first place. Or the Dom never was going to buy the item but just wanted (begged) cash to pay other bills.

Where is the Dominance when you ask subs to pay for things that you actually can’t afford ?  Honestly, this sounds dumb and desperate

Now back to the replies on my reimbursement opportunity. Every reimbursement opportunity or receipt I post here or on my Twitter have always been paid in full. I don’t need anything. I can pay my own bills and take care of all my expenses.

Now what I do like to see, is that subs spend their hard earned money on me instead of spending my own. It’s a hot game, they thank me for it. And as sub, who do you like to serve ? a Dom that is needy or a Dom that manages his own money properly …

cashfag $ubmit/remorse Cycle

Posted by SoS

My Ma$ter was u$ing a sissy fag the other day... u$ing her/it hard, and while we discussed in chat the purposes of a faggot, the sissy was driven to hand over even more tips.

Today, the sissy deleted her account, as is the habit of fags who are in the cycle of $ubmit and remorse.

It is a condition that just about every cash faggot endures. In my own experience and the experience of other cash fags, it's a very common condition, which is frustrating for Masters, and confusing for fags.

The greatest issues with this condition are:

1. selfishness, and the belief that that fag deserves to have luxuries in life from the money he/it earns

2. fear of financial issues

3. the denial of what the faggot is

This condition can last for years, and some faggots enjoy this cycle, getting hyper horny when the natural urges and needs pull him/it back to findom and into a splurge of hard and fast cash/tips $ubmissions. Then the fag retreats and regrets... until the next time.

For many fags, this cycle of $ubmission and regret is the basis of their findom life, and the cycle has become a sort of fetish in itself. These fags will undoubtedly never be broken out of the cycle.

For other fags, it's simply a stage in their development, where the selfish pride and desires for their own luxuries and extras have yet to be cleansed from their mindset.

We need to take into account that there are various types of fags, ranging from confident and assured fags, to the self-loathing fags who see themselves as the inferiors they are.

This is why the condition of the Cycle is complex. Those who hate and are ashamed of what they are, and $ubmit to Masters because they know themselves to be inferiors, are more likely to come out of the Cycle at the other end, finding horniness in their inferiority, fulfilment in their 'fulltime' subordination to Superior Men, and really 'live' it.  These are fags to be envied by others, as the conflict and struggle of the confusion that they endure is shaken off by those who fully accept their status. They reach a stage of fulfilment in their sacrifices to Men, beyond just the moment of sacrifice itself.

Shaking off that Cycle of $ubmission and remorse is a liberation for a cashfag. All cashfags know what they/we are, and that it is something for life. But, the majority of fags fight it, and continue to struggle with it. Society's conditioning gets in the way, making us believe that we all are deserving and equal. That, of course, is a social fabrication which doesn't exist in reality. But, it fools many fags.

In my own case, my Master has managed to break this Cycle in me, and now i feel a real sense of change and liberation as a loser and cashfag, as a way of life. It takes a good, genuine and insightful Master to help a fag to break away from the Cycle and embrace the reality.

I'm sure that other fags here have their own stories about this, and it would be interesting if you'd tell us about it. 

Some may disagree with my analysis. Or you may be able to add to it. This is just my own observations and personal understanding, right or wrong.

Consent

Posted by docMboot

I find consent really hot.  The idea of a submissive freely offering cash (or body) to use as I please, for no reason other than that he feels compelled to submit, horns me immediately.  This is power exchange.  Raw, taboo, sexy, affirming, full of life.

Of course, there are other darker themes around the same scenes - 'cash ****', 'b*******l', and more.   Trying to find the right line, some are keen to add the word 'consensual' to those terms -- but that seems like a contradiction in terms: just because you can form the phrase doesn't mean it makes sense. I guess what people are trying to get at there is an element of role-play, in the first case, and a form of advance commitment in the second.  This is edgier, but appeals to some I know: edgy because all sorts of law and protections surrounds all of these activities.

A bit of edge spices things up a bit, but a serious risk to my career, or to my credit rating, or even to my financial or other online  accounts, is quite a mood killer. I want to be enjoying the financial domination game, not looking over my shoulder for a submissive who wants to make mischief or worse.  

And sub behaviour is of course the other challenge here.  If your capacity to consent is impaired - because you are deceived, or because you are mentally ill, or even because you suffer from serious low self-esteem issues, then please seek professional help and stay away from this community.  On the other hand, if you fully have capacity, but tend to think with your cock, or you tend to get pissed and start sending tributes, I have no problem with taking your money.

Others will have different outlooks, and a different propensity to edginess.  Find your appropriate level.  As for me, a fully aware, capable consenting adult who serves me - preferably over and over again - is truly, deeply, fucking sexy.

[with apologies for triggering word filter warnings - fair enough]

A Masters Work

Posted by SirSadist

In chat today, an interesting topic came up. Basically, it centered on what a fags responsibilities are toward the man it serves or is owned by, and what, if anything, the Master/Owner owes the fag. Being a man with a strong philosophical bent, I couldn't help but want to devote a blog entry to my own particular viewpoint on the subject.<br />
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Now, before I start, let me emphatically state that these opinions are strictly my own concerning how I choose to operate. I am a firm believer that EVERY real man, master, and owner has the absolute right to interact with his fags in any way he chooses and that his superiority is subject to the judgment of no-one but himself. That's what being a Rank 1 male is all about and he has the right to expect that those fags who serve him perform as he wishes for the duration of his ownership. Men, Masters, and Owners, come in all flavors, as do fags, and as long as the combination works then it is 100% right. My methods may be as foreign to some as theirs are to me but all are worth of respect.<br />
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In my view, though a Master's need to control, use, a***e, and drain fags of cash is the perfect counterpoint to a fags need to be humiliated, degraded, and freely give of its body and wallet, it is not a totally one-sided dynamic. Granted the man holds the power and the fag is simply an object for his pleasure and profit, but that doesn't mean, to me at least, that the fag does all the work while the man simply relaxes and plays. For my part, I expend a considerable amount of time and effort when not operating directly with a fag to ensure that those times which I do are more productive.<br />
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For example: as entertaining as spending time using and abusing a fag is, doing so all day every day is not really practical. So, I hit upon the idea of giving my fags weekly assignments that are separate from any other use I may have for them. Mostly these assignments are fairly mundane, but at other times they are rather complex and comprised of many parts. I deliver the assignment at the same time every week, explaining what it consists of, and outline the time the fag has to complete it (sometimes one day, sometimes a whole week), and detail the penalties for any variance for what was required and/or complete failure to achieve the stated goal. The penalties, as a rule, are financial and can, at times, be quite expensive. If a fag does a good job, and thereby owes no payment, I still reap the benefit of the control I have demonstrated over my property. I will not actually praise the fag beyond a 'good boy' but will at times offer it some small reward, all of which helps further deepen the bond of the dynamic. Should a fag fail utterly, or be fined for any type of non-compliance, then it has to pay promptly, after all, I did my part in designing the assignment and the fag must do its part one way or another. If the fag chooses to succeed or fail at the assignment doesn't really matter in the end, because I am rewarded either way and the fag is as well, according to its own level of chosen performance. It is a perfect balance of mutual effort.<br />
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The point I am trying to make (rather badly I feel) is that I, as a fag-Owner, don't just sit back, relax, and constantly make demands. I expend effort to develop creative ways of putting my fag to use and it, in turn, expends effort to fulfill those duties. Let's face it you can't walk up to any ATM (the non-fag variety), hold out your hand, and get money handed to you; you have to go to the effort of getting out your card, punching in your PIN, and entering an amount. Likewise, fag-ATMs are the same way, you have to present the right trigger (the card/assignment), drive home your right to do so (the PIN/your attention), and then extract your reward (the cash or compliance). In this way, The superiority of the Master/Owner is maintained and furthered while the inferiority of the fag is deepened. A mutual reward/benefit dynamic; the fag gets pleasure from the service and the Master/Owner gets the pleasure of the control and finances of his fag. Just as it should be.<br />
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Some Masters/Owners like to use, a***e, and cash-**** their fags just because they can, and some fags like to be used, abused, and cash-fucked just because they crave it, all without any deeper connection. There is certainly nothing wrong with that as long as it works for both sides. I totally understand that fact. However, it is not something that really works for me personally. Though it's definitely a pain at times, I rather enjoy the creativity of developing new and interesting ways to use a fag beyond just saying 'send me money now'. In my experience, the dynamic of absolute take vs. absolute give, gets tiresome after a while and soon vanishes. My constantly engaging with my fag on some level, via regular contact via text, email, chat, or whatever, assigning specific responsibilities and exacting penalties, keeps the dynamic fresh and interesting and leads to longevity which is vastly more satisfying and ultimately reaps more rewards. I also find that when those occasions occur when face-to-face contact is possible and the physical side of the use and a***e can be explored (as well as the financial accompaniment) the fag can submit to, and endure, much, much, more of those things I enjoy doing to it.<br />
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I'm not sure any of this will make any sense to anyone but me. My explanations are often difficult to interpret because what forms in my mind does not always translate well when I attempt to type it out. Plus, it isn't something that can be fully or accurately explained in just one short missive. But, for those who get the general idea, great. For those who don't, or just don't agree, that's great too. There are more than enough faggots in the world for us to all find those that suit and can serve our individual needs. To all Masters/Owners: my respect always. To all faggots: serve until it hurts.<br />

Be carfull of what you DON'T ask for

Posted by MasterPete

We all have fears and nightmares even Masters (yes we do).   Let me share  with you all, a nightmare  I think some of us many have.   We know many boys/subs/slaves like to say things like "Sir I will do anything for you!" and we think GREAT.  Here's a boy that wants to serve, to give all I need to take all I want to dish out.  So we look at it's profile to see if we can get a handle on what things at what level will get the best for US and it.   Problem! the profile is small and/or almost blank.  This can only end in one of two ways GREAT or frustration for both the Master and boy.

Look on my profile and you will see two of my interests are Corporal Punishment(CP) and another is Cock t*****e(CT).   To all you slave boys out there that have a brain maybe you might think that I want to put these two things together so if you say "Sir I will do anything!"  You can expect that at some point maybe right at the start I will test you out on this.   So your on skype and things move to CP,  

boy: "Sir I got hard hearing your voice"

Sir: (GRATE)  "that hard-on needs to be punished boy" 

boy: "Sir yes Sir"

Sir: "right boy get your belt double it and rap it round you hand leaving about 6"

Sir:  "As you got hard hearing my voice boys penis need to be punished"  (I want to belt your penis)

boy: "Sir yes Sir"

Sir: "You will now belt that penis 6 times HARD!!! boy"

boy: (the sound of a smack)

Sir: "..COUNT! them out boy. Start again"

boy: (the sond of a smack) "1" (smack)

Sir "STOP! do you know how to count out wacks boy!? boy says {1 Sir} start again."

boy: "1 Sir" (smack) "2" (smack)

Sir: "STOP!!! you forgot the {Sir}  start again"

boy: "your ridiculous" (sound of the phone being hung-up)
boy has blocked Master

Now up to the end this I though was going well what  do you think?

This is the nightmare a boy who dose not say what he wants and then buggers off when he gets what he did not want!!! 

Shame on you boy not having the guts to say "Sorry Sir this is not working for me.".