10 Tips for Masters Who Are New to OwnedFags from DorianTheAlpha's blog

My blogs are typically about submission. How to serve better etc.


This one is specifically for Masters new to the site. Read up & enjoy.


Feel free to DM if anything below is unclear.


1. Read the rules.


Read the website rules. Read about kink, about D/s ownership.

Read up on findom.

If you're going to try a new kink a sub proposes. Study it. Ask other Alphas.

Everyone starts somewhere. You are given the power to govern a slave's body, mind, and wallet.

Wield that power responsibly, within the guidelines set for this community.

The only tribute allowed here are those sent with OwnedFags tips. No other tribute methods allowed. Period.


2. It takes longer than you realize.


For every useful sub, there are 20 timewasting pretenders.

For every lasting sub, it takes 20 who are fleetingly useful.

So if you're a math guy: that's roughly a 0.25% ownership rate on every sub interaction you have.

Lots of empty-handed, empty-headed strokers. The truly servile sluts are few & far between.


3. Don't do it for the money.


Ultimately, no one is here for the money (or shouldn't be). It's a fun byproduct of a kink: findom.

Findom is about power exchange through currency transfer. Much like bondage is through mobility transfer.

It's just another vector for a submissive to surrender to its Dominant, whether in session or lasting servitude.

If you need money, get a job or sell items. Desperate Alphas are always see-through, and fail. Just truth.


4. Build relationships with other Alphas.


Focus on the other Dominants here. Chat with them. Learn without being clingy about it.

Some, like myself, occasionally whore out their owned fags.

Especially at first, do not DM any slave here that has a lock; that is officially owned. Never.

If that slave reaches out, message the Alpha first.

Once you create a rapport with the Alpha, learn which owned sluts are allowed to & choose to chat, then do so.

Ultimately, conduct yourself so that you are earning the respect of your Alpha peers first and foremost. Always.


5. Find your style.


Emulation is natural. As with any craft, there will be those you look up to.

Take care not to let emulation become imitation. No one likes a copycat.

Find your original voice within the aspects of others you admire.

Ultimately, the most successful Alphas here are such because they are true to themselves.

For instance, I'm a soft-spoken Master. At times, I get harsh, but it's not My innate voice.

I know that, and I stick to it. Others do the opposite. It's about range & authenticity.


6. Build your brand.


A fair bit of domination is marketing. Content is king, engagement is queen, context is god.

Post as often as you can (without spamming). Find a cadence that works.

Few subs are attracted to empty profiles. Post pics. Make vids. Write blogs. Chat publicly.

Engage with others' posts and content, esp Alphas. Care about this community; not just yourself.


7. Set limits, and respect others’.


Not every sub will be a match with you. Maybe you hate piss play; piss pigs won't align with your style.

Maybe you want to solely focus on findom. Maybe findom is secondary to you.

Many subs focus on real-time meets, and even within that types of meets (eg dungeon play).

Be clear about your desires, your dislikes, and focus on those with whom your dynamic could line up.


8. Recognize the toll this takes.


Drop is real. The defeat, deflation, or other such blues felt in kink.

It can be sub drop following a heavy drain or kink session.

it can be Alpha drop after 15 timewasters exhaust you mentally.

Maybe your personal life is impacting your motivation to dominate, or create content.

Be mindful of the weight of your work here.

Yes, dominance is effortless.

But domination is hard work. And acknowledging that is crucial to lasting success.

Take days off. Communicate them to your slaves. The real ones will understand.

Likewise, sometimes subs need to step away. Not all Alphas accept that, but it is equally normal.


9. It isn't a competition.


It's easy to get caught up in the points. The Pantheon & slave market positions.

I've been guilty of it, as I'm sure many others are.

Domination (and submission) are about the intimacy & thrill of power exchange.

Owning a fag is about fulfilling Your Alpha desires together, through their sacrifice & your domination.

Each dynamic is unique. It's own singular bond. No two subs should compete, even serving the same Master.

And no two Masters should compete, because I'll never be Garboss, SkinbossDan, or Fidelio.

They have their styles, their successes, their subs. I have Mine. That's a great thing.

It's the range of kink, and domination.


10. Have fun with it.


I've learned so much about myself through domination.

How sadistic I can be. How compassionate I am.

If you aren't here to enjoy yourself, and create enjoyment for others (even with pain or struggle)

Then you're likely here for the wrong reasons.

Consider this an extensions of "don't do it for the money".


Cheers.

Comments
DorianTheAlpha
Jun 30
Damn when MoA likes the blog you know you're sayin somn right. Cheers everyone.
DEVASTATOR
Jun 30
Some good points, though I have to disagree with 9.
It is a competition. Or better, it is configured to be as such.
There is a list going from 1 downwards, where 1 is best and... It's a Pantheon of Gods laid out in a range from top to bottom (pun wasn't intended, but fits nicely).
Then, if one doesn't want to consider it as such, is not bothered, attached or whatever, very well, it's just one's personal sentiment.
Some good points, though I have to disagree with 9.
It is a competition. Or better, it is configured to be as such.
There is a list going from 1 downwards, where 1 is best and... It's a ...See more
subcorey
Jul 1
Very well written Master, your eloquence and wisdom shine through as always Sir
servus
Jul 1
There has been a number of writings on the same subject but this one is especially well written, Sir.
Garboss82
Jul 1
Hey Dev - I agree it’s set out in a competitive way and as a Ma$ter you do have a sense of achievement in rising up the Pantheon. However I don’t consider the Masters above me or below me in the Pantheon as my competitors. The way the points are calculated gives everyone a fair crack to rise and fallHey Dev - I agree it’s set out in a competitive way and as a Ma$ter you do have a sense of achievement in rising up the Pantheon. However I don’t consider the Masters above me or below me in the Panth...See more
Garboss82
Jul 1
Sure there’s some Masters I don’t know and some I don’t like, but it’s genuinely pleasing when you see a new bud rise up the ranks
Garboss82
Jul 1
My challenge to the fags and slaves is to produce a similar guide to welcome your kind
loserfaggot
Jul 1
In this very thorough and extremely thought out document, the only thing i would humbly offer that i feel is left out is that Masters should verify their picture. This is important for fags to know that pictures posted really are of the person posting them. Apologies if this has been included and i missed it.In this very thorough and extremely thought out document, the only thing i would humbly offer that i feel is left out is that Masters should verify their picture. This is important for fags to know th...See more
DorianTheAlpha
Jul 1
To be verified is part of the rules, loser; there were a few specifics I opted to consolidate into "read the rules". Not all the rules are compulsory (ie you don't HAVE to verify), but doing so greatly improves the experience here. As such: read the rules. Simple as that.To be verified is part of the rules, loser; there were a few specifics I opted to consolidate into "read the rules". Not all the rules are compulsory (ie you don't HAVE to verify), but doing...See more
loserfaggot
Jul 1
Apologies, DorianTheAlpha, Sir.
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