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Remote controlled fags
Posted by docMboot

The internet allows so much scope for controlling fags.  Some people imagine there's not much you can do as a Cyber Master beyond a bit of verbal. But how wrong they are.


* Financial Domination is an obvious one.  Whether it's handing over cash or handing over control of a bank account, there's real actual financial pain possible without being in the same room as the fag.


* Remote control chastity.  The key to the device can be locked in a box controlled by a bluetooth padlock.  The fag may have the box, but there's no way it's getting the key without the Master's say so.  


* Remote control butt plugs.  Sub has to put it in, but then its arse is under remote control.


* Online cameras.  Fag's house becomes the big brother house.  Master can set all kinds of rules....


* Amazon Alexa.  "Drop in" allows instant access to someone else's Echo -- voice call and microphones.  Speak and hear what's going on.  Great in combination with the cameras.


* Tracking apps.  Use the fag's phone as a tracking device.  Endless possibilities.


I fucking love technology.  I fucking love control.


IF you ARE DOING THIS, you ARE NOT INTO FINANCIAL DOMINATION
Posted by SupremePower

Transactional "Findom" Roleplay


This isn't actually Findom but instead is a fee for service act. The word "sub" is replaced with  "buyer". The buyer is looking to pay for service or goods. Often, the buyer will demand videos, live sessions or pictures, etc.), and the Dom will provide them in exchange of money.  In this type of relationship, it's the buyer who has the real power.


Dominant male and submissive man do a great job of "playing the role"of so called financial domination. The Dom is in charge while the submissive takes his role. These actions usually occur when one or both are horny, mostly the sub and it ends when sub decided to say Bye. Tributes can flow nicely and still the sub holds the power in this situation. In this scenario, Doms who really know how to keep their subs horny, succed.

Findom with a difference
Posted by docMboot

Some people think findom is always exploitative, or is simple prostitution (for good or ill).  Most people on this site know that there is a whole lot more to it. Here is one of the most fun scenes I've done, with a completely different mode of operation.


There was this kid I met through a findom website.  I say 'kid' but he was in his mid-20s and had served two tours of duty in the US Army.  He was a good kid -- but life had dealt him quite a few tough hands.  We chatted a bit and had a bit of a dynamic going on -- but nothing serious.  


One day we were chatting and came up with a new proposal.  I would take oversight of his finances, and use that to control him.  It was a fun prospect.   He found a website that could link to all his bank/credit/savings accounts and give a dashboard overview of all his spending and balances.  It was a 'read only' view: he could give me the password without allowing me to spend his money.


Quickly it became clear that his spending was chaotic.  He was a student and living quite modestly, but had no concept of controlling his spending, or making a budget.  So we went through and created a budget, designed to deliver a small surplus at the end of each month.  The deal would be that half of the surplus was due to be handed over to me, and the other half would go to his savings.


And so, day by day, week by week, I kept oversight of his spending, and made sure he stuck to the budget.  Spending that was out of line incurred a penalty -- an extra amount to be added to the amount owed to me.  When he broke down and paid other FinDoms, the penalty was that he had to add twice as much to his debt to me.  With regular contact, this started to fuck with his head.  Every frivolous expenditure made him feel like he was robbing me, because it reduced the monthly surplus.  He learned to visualise me every time he used his debit card.  He remarked on how invasive and taboo it was to have someone else looking at the intimate details of his bank account.  It was a very intense relationship for a while --- even though we only met once in this period (living on different continents).


The process worked, and he quickly understood how to set a budget, and how to keep to it.  I had no intention of actually taking a pay-out: he was living far too close to the edge for me to think that ethical.  But he believed that I would.  And that was enough.


After about six months, the arrangement came to a natural end with a change of circumstances.  His debt to me was quite significant.  At that point he figured out --- maybe he figured it out earlier --- that I wasn't going to collect there and then.   But the deal is that someday when he's a bit richer, he owes me a pair of Wesco boots.



The kid turned his finances around and now understands how to budget.  He even plays it forward and dominates other subs --- though I think he takes their money.  It was an intense, horny, satisfying experience with real power exchange, without any money changing hands.  Findom comes in many flavours.


A Tip for Newbie Slaves - How to Survive, and Thrive, When ‘Being...
Posted by skyerubberguy

As a newbie you may wonder, when is the best time to consider joining a stable on this site? I have only been on this site a couple of days and wanted to share a reflection on how cope with the first day or two as a lone stray or slave on here and trying to navigate your way around the site, and come to grips with all its features... and possible early pitfalls!

On my first day after registration, someone said to me that it can feel like being ‘thrown into a pool of sharks’, and there is certainly some truth in that so prepare yourself!

However, if you explore that analogy a little further, you can actually find a solution in there too! For me, what I did was, when the first ‘shark’ or Master came along who presented as clearly powerful, dominant, charismatic and communicated a clear projection of an overall decent person with personality (yes, I’m talking about you, my beloved MasterZal, you can start preening your feathers while you smile that knowing smile!)… well, I bought him a beer and asked him about joining his stable. My initial judgement of him was confirmed when he advised not to rush into things too quickly unless I was absolutely sure. This ‘shark’ didn’t bite needlessly then and had some real and genuine empathy for me in my predicament. To be serious, being taken in by Masterzal is like walking into the corner shop and buying a lottery ticket and then winning big time! I simply can’t wait, and am giddy with excitement and butterflies, to begin deepening and strengthening our Master/slave dynamic, learn from him and open myself up to all the new opportunities for growth and personal development that comes with any new special relationship. I feel truly blessed to have stepped through the front door of OF and found Masterzal waiting there to greet me at the ‘welcome mat’ and show me around. How many slaves can truly say that they have had that same intensively positive and encouraging start to their life at OF? Quality conversations and interactions from the get-go! Comments below, please! Or drop me a message and tell me your story, I would love to hear it, both good and less good experiences!

Later that first day I wanted to thank him for his advice and his general good guy vibes (how they gently pull our strings so, eh?!) so I bought him a really nice blue camo computer mouse from his Amazon wishlist. When he later thankedme for it and commented that he would think of me when he used it, which on this site might well be quite a lot, I realised that he hadsussed me out! I wanted him to think about me a lot, every time his Master’s hand grabbed that mouse and clicked. It would feel like it was a little bit of me he was grabbing and giving me a friendly ‘click’ or nudge.Or for every mouse scroll.. like a soft stroke or pat on the head.

Masterzal very kindly accepted my application to join his prestigious stable only 24 hours after joining the site, and was probably quite right indeed to call me a bit of a stray puppy looking for a collar and a short leash! But power and control is always a two-way process, it is never all about one side of the coin. And it made me reflect on my own and my gorgeous beloved Master’s words and actions... who exactly was controlling who and how in this scenario I’ve just outlined? Worth thinking about, eh? Who has gained more from the ‘transaction’?

To go back to the shark pool analogy, my reasoning was this: where is the safest place to be in a pool of sharks? Ask the Remora or Pilot Fish… they swim close to the sharks, eat any parasites feeding off the shark and so have formed an inter-dependent, symbiotic relationship with them… a bit like Masters and slaves when they truly get it right and commit to taking the time to get to know each and walk a journey together. From the point of a newbie slave - as a ‘Pilot Fish’ in a pool of ‘sharks’ - my advice to newbies is this…find the very best ‘shark’ you can, the very best Master who will help you grow and deepen your slave mindspace... and also find great comfort and refuge from predators in these perilous waters! Happy Swimming!

Click here for info on the Pilot fish!"  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pilot_fish

TPE. The first 12 months. Part 1 of 2
Posted by BS37SKINsfaggot

This new chapter of my life as an owned TPE faggot started on January 2nd 2023. And what a year it’s been. The highs and lows of giving up my entire life and being controlled 24/7. Some of you have asked me to write a blog about it.  I hope this helps explain how I got to this stage in my life and hopefully helps some of you in the process.   


Right from day 1 BS37SKIN told me it was full TPE or nothing.  His masculinity and power was taking over my mind from the moment we first talked. Agreeing to a meet within only weeks was the clincher.  Making this real.  The first 4 weeks were intense.  Hard drains both financially and taking the power from me.  Getting deep into my head.  Showing me this is not just what he wants but also what I crave. 


From day 1 he saw what I craved and knew what I was about and tuned my biggest fetish into my uniform.  To be worn at all times outside of work.  (Orange Hi-Vis and wellingtons).  Showing he knew what made me tick as a sub and embracing that instead of changing me into something that I was not.


The first meet.  

Having arranged our first meet on the first week of this new life the day arrived. I can honesty say I have never been as terrified in my life.  Obviously in a truly honest and open TPE as this had become I told him this before he set off on the 3 hour journey to meet his faggot. He could not have been more reassuring to me. Telling me everything will be fine and my limits will be respected albeit pushed.    Knowing he was on his way to meet his property made my heart race so much I swear it was going to bust out of my body.  The fear of what was about to happen was still there but far less.   There was no turning back now.  


Upon greeting my Owner. (Not just my Master) I was on my knees at his boots in seconds.   Showing him my real and true obedience to him.   And then it happened. The chain he had got for me was put on.  The proudest moment of my life to date.  That stupid beaming grin on my face showing him this was all very real for me.  


We went out for a shopping trip to Brighton.   Obviously paid for fully by me.   Levi jeans.  Timberland boots.  Work boots.The best part was going into the Apple Store and buying a tracker.  TPE means just that.  BS37SKIN should always know where I am.  I asked him to do this.  This was me giving up more freedom to show him my devotion is true.  


I must admit. I had no idea how to be “me” on this first visit.  Didn’t know if this was to be a one off meeting.  But stayed in 100% faggot mode.  Only sitting down in public once he instructed me to do so. Before he left he shaved my head fully and instructed me to stay that way for ever. I have shaved my head at 9pm every night since.   


A’s February went on the control was getting deeper and deeper.  Now tracked.  I have to ask permission to leave the house.  Knowing full well he will know where I am.  And a second date in the diary.   All my dreams had come true.  It was only now, I realised how busy my owner is. Giving up so much of his free time for other people and arranging a second meeting so quickly meant even more to me than he would ever know.  Covid gets me in February and without being over dramatic I truly thought it was game over.  Multiple times in hospital.  through it all. BS37SKIN was there for me.  Looking after me, showing real care and getting me through my darkest days.  


As we moved into March the rinsing was more often.  But more so the power exchange was taking a real turn of events.   Now having to ask permission to piss.   A real true connection.  Going further than I’d ever gone before.  Deeper and deeper under his power.  And yet all the time feeling more safe and secure now than I’d ever felt in my entire life.  Taking over my online life and in real time too. BS37SKIN now has full access to my online profiles and takes no time in changing them to show I am his owned faggot.   No longer just a secret between him and me.  This is now my proudest moment.  To have an owner who is happy and proud to take control of me publicly as well as in private.   


April arrives and with it the second meet happens.   This time over the Easter weekend.   It is now not only his control takes full effect but I realise my trust in him is real and I start to love the man I call Sir.  I know what I am to him and will never forget that.  But now I know I love this man my devotion gets deeper and deeper. I finally get to purchase the one thing I’ve been craving to do, my owners Season ticket for the rugby.  Having a real positive impact on his life.   The daily voice mails he sends me keep me wanting to go further and further.   It’s all about the connection for me.  And he has that true connection with me.   As we talk about things outside of all this and get to know each other better.   Much more relaxed in his presence too. A true Owner  I can be myself with.   Brand new uniforms arrive with the logo my owner created for me.   Now fully proud to be seen out wearing my owners brand 24/7 


May.  The power exchange continues.  Now I am given Meal times and bed times.  My love for him as my owner is now deeply cemented.   I never want this power exchange to end.  I have a purpose in life.  His care for my wellbeing is a true credit to his personality and who he is.


June.  A few short weeks until our next meet.  Only this time I get to visit my owner on his turf. We discuss chastity. And agree this not something either of us need. He knows I’d never touch myself without permission and even then at cost. My devotion and dedication is stronger now than I ever believed possible. BS37SKIN now controls when I get up.  When I eat, when I piss and go to bed.   And also when I am allowed out of the house.  


I had no idea just how much this life was meant for me.  Always thought it was a horny idea but not a reality.   BS37SKIN showed me this is just what I was missing.   And truly helped me to get here.   


Being owned and controlled fully. Is not as easy as it sounds.  For either the owner or the owned.   I will explain more of that in part 2 how being allowed to join this community has changed a lot for me.   


Until then.  


Happy New Year Everyone 


BS37SKINsfaggot.  


  

The 3 C's
Posted by MajorMaster92

The 3 C’s


Those that follow me on Twitter may have seen or heard me speak of this before, on posts and in Spaces, but I thought it should be something I could elaborate on here on OF. It is a set of standards/rules/model I go by when looking at what makes a good FinDom relationship, although this can very much apply to a majority of D/s relationships. 


3 things I look for and stand by personally, when looking for a good, long lasting sub. 


Now obviously there is things that sit outside of this but for me these are 3 main, ideal, must haves I want so I'll jump straight in. 


  • Connection


Most certainly the most important of all in my opinion. Is there that “spark”? Do Dom and sub have same end goal? Do I enjoy using, draining, humiliating, bullying, nurturing this sub, and is that reciprocated.


This cannot be worked on, it's there or its not. You know if you just click with someone, I feel having this goes a long way. It helps define, what limits could be there, what can be achieved, how comfortable each is, can there be relationship out side of D/s (if either want that), what trust is in play, can sub truly give themselves or do they have to hold back. Connection covers so much, and either you've got it, or you haven't. Without this, really, the others will fall out. 


One of the main reasons likely to see a D/s relationship fall apart and even just a normal romantic one…. You just didn't get one another. 


  • Communication 


This one speaks for itself, communication, we'd be nowhere in the world without it. Humans instinct is to communicate, regardless of what form that takes. Clear, concise and fluid communication will always lead to a better relationship. The opportunity for the sub to understand how the Master likes to be served, what they enjoy, what they don't like, what they want from service. And this also goes the other way too, 90% of the time, for a majority of subs I've dealt with. Both parties are here for something/s and without discussion, the real reason would be hard to understand. It can aid, greatly, in building upon that first C, connection, and consistency is key here. Way too often I've spoke to subs where great service has broken down, as one party, doesn't commit enough to this. Keeping things fresh, evolving, in line with boths wants and needs (as I fully agree it is a two way street, that obviously the Dom will command that street, but nonetheless, still two way) 


Without communication, and honesty in your communication, alongside consistent communication, things quickly break down. 


  • Control 


Now this is something dear to me, and of course, means different things to us all, and it is where these 3 C’s hone themselves in to being specific around D/s / FinDom instead of a conventional relationship. 


Having the right kind and right level of control. Subs expectations of this differ greatly (from my experience) and it is, and always should be, the Doms duty to control this. Whatever form it takes, weather it might be Finance/Bills, the clothes a subs wear, it's schedule, what it sends or when, all the way to the extreams of how it looks, what it eats or who it sees, there are so many levels to it and it's is a crucial 3rd C. 


I fucking love controlling, it feeds my sadism, is shows my power, is let's me be the Dom I enjoy being. And it paves the way for the dynamic of my D/s relationships. It takes time and commitment from both sides but with the right effort, the initial and continual connection, partnered with that all important communication, the sky's the limits. 


So what now?


Be open and honest about what you might or might not like to do or try. Keep it fresh. Work on it. Trust is a huge factor, and that doesn't come over night. 


So, there they are, Major Masters 3 C’s 


Connection, Communication, Control. 


I’d love to hear others input and if they have similar things they look for or do to enjoy both Dom and sub are in a thriving place to continue with the kink they love! 


MM


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