I have an older post that delves into this in greater detail. Consider this a pocket version.
When you are first approaching an Alpha you want to serve:
1. Send before speaking. Even if only 50 tips. A gesture to prove you're serious, and selfless.
2. Know your Master. Likes, dislikes, style of domination, expectations.
3. Speak clearly, and learn quickly. Always over-communicate unless He says otherwise.
4. Set your limits with Him, and respect His. Within that, obey. Always.
5. Be proactive & creative. Plan, save, earn, send more and please Him however you can.
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The full version explores these and more in greater detail, but follow these five steps and thrive for your Master.
by DorianTheAlpha
This will be a far less prescriptive post.
It is nothing more than thinking aloud.
This post is about findom dynamics, and its impact on a sub. When brash, brazen and sometimes tactless Alphas demand excess, especially from new accounts or new to findom as a whole: they flee. Sometimes that is ghosting, and all too often full account deletion never to return. I'll be the first to admit, I'm guilty of this, especially in My early days as an Alpha. Now as you read this, a natural rebuke is: "if the pussy can't handle Me, then they shouldn't be here." And yes, as Alphas, subs will never know they countless trolls, timewasters, and other toxic trash We endure. And likewise, it is a sub's respsonsibility to hold themselves accountable: understand what is expected before engaging. After all, you wouldn't enter a boxing match without a parry or a punch, but I digress.
So, where is the line between sustainable domination, and negligent cashgrabbing? It is not a set boundary. Some slaves have much to sacrifice and years of experience. For many others, this might be their very first exposure to sociosexual deviance. Even with study & fervour there's still so much you can only learn: sending, submitting, obeying, deferring to a Superior... experiencing findom first-hand.
Alphas constantly hear the same refrain from subs. Something to the effect of, "But Sir, My last experience with findom, an Alpha asked for [insert large number in the sub's opinion] and then ignored Me/blocked Me." Now, they're often telling the truth. Evidently, others lie for attention. Here many Alphas either dial up their chest-puffing demands, or dispose/block the new sub right then and there.
So here lie the chasm. On on hand, earnest new subs get bulldozed by greedy Alphas who'd rather bark & bite than conjure any real sense of a findom dynamic. And equally if not more so, subs who will lie, cheat, whine and wallow without ever intending to truly serve. In this sea of mistreament from both sides, how does O/one navigate the vitriol?
Now this boils down quite simply: waste is dime a dozen. Great Masters & subs are a precious rarity.
My question becomes: how as an Alpha do you challenge yourself to avoid or overcome this (obviously this excludes consensual humiliation etc)? And more importantly, to the subs reading this, particularly new faces: I know you may have been used, even discarded before. What you don't know is an Alphas scars always run deeper. We deal with more trash than a landfill. So your wound-licking falls on deaf ears. Does this mean you deserve to be railroaded again? No. But does it entitle you to different standards? Even less so. How can you too can overcome these pitfalls?
Toxicity is universal. Alphas will set targets for subs owned by others, and mistreat subs who then leave the scene for good in shame or disgust. Many slaves more will fail targets, timewaste, cheat on their exclusive Alphas, so on and so on. A corny ending perhaps, but let's simply all... be better.
As an Alpha, know the difference between push your slave to thrive, and push your slave to leave.
As a submissive, know that your past & predilections do not warrant your failures or misconduct.
Cheers to all, and thanks for reading. Stay powerful Gents.
by DorianTheAlpha
Newcomers and seasoned subs alike... every pet makes mistakes.
It might be a simple slip-up, or a catastrophic failure.
The next time you misstep in your s********n to an Alpha,
follow these steps to find your way back into their best graces.
How to apologize in findom:
1. Send.
2. Admit your mistake, earnestly.
3. Correct the problem to avoid recurrence.
4. If forgiven, thank your Master profusely.
If that doesn't work, repeat. Chances are you didn't do step 1 quite enough.
Best of luck My little pets.
First, let's define them:
s********n: the action or fact of accepting or yielding to a Superior F*rce or to the will or authority of Another.
Servitude: the state of being a slave or completely subject to Someone more powerful.
Now, there are plenty of kink spaces. In them, you can explore deviant bottom acts, without serving submissively.
If you are here, you are here to serve. Look at the website name. Read its description.
This is about pleasing Alpha Masters.
When you act entitled, whine, complain, lie, run, and cheat: you are not submissive.
Nor are you servile. No, you're just vile.
Submissive servitude is very simple, but it is not easy. Simple and easy are not the same thing.
It is simple in that if you follow a single maxim, you will thrive: please your Master, always.
It is not easy, because after the first rush fades, you have a choice: regress to selfish stupidity, or flourish.
A recent failure of Mine is now in the dungeon for a second time. Hopefully, it will read this and learn. Doubtful.
To My better pets, and the useful submissives other Alphas here own proudly: continue.
It's a simple definition, yet not easy to manifest. But when it does come to be: submissive servitude is bliss.
I round the corner... and it's frozen. Locking eyes, overcome by the sheer presence. Their mind melts into Me. Then and there, innately: s********n. Nothing more than a gaze. Overwhelmed by the moment, silent steps take us to a nearby ATM. Only the wind's whistle cuts the quiet, until buttons begin to click. The machine’s wheels sputter hundreds from a slot into kneeling hands... then into Mine. A knowing grin glows against a newly-lit cigar as I feel the grip of domination take hold. Counting out as it's handed to Me, a thick and burning ash builds. Smoke billows around us as the machine slows. Silence once more. Submissive lips kiss each leather boot as a pitiful tongue cleans them carefully in desperate gratitude. Through the toe caps, I can feel the trembling in each lick. Stolid, I tower over My new property. It’s all so easy. Effortless. And as I ash into a begging gaping mouth, I turn to go with thousands anew. In the distance, the faintest whimpering... “Thank you, Master.”
Just as every Alpha deserves.
Bring it to life, betas.
My blogs are typically about s********n. How to serve better etc.
This one is specifically for Masters new to the site. Read up & enjoy.
Feel free to DM if anything below is unclear.
1. Read the rules.
Read the website rules. Read about kink, about D/s ownership.
Read up on findom.
If you're going to try a new kink a sub proposes. Study it. Ask other Alphas.
Everyone starts somewhere. You are given the power to govern a slave's body, mind, and wallet.
Wield that power responsibly, within the guidelines set for this community.
The only tribute allowed here are those sent with OwnedFags tips. No other tribute methods allowed. Period.
2. It takes longer than you realize.
For every useful sub, there are 20 timewasting pretenders.
For every lasting sub, it takes 20 who are fleetingly useful.
So if you're a math guy: that's roughly a 0.25% ownership rate on every sub interaction you have.
Lots of empty-handed, empty-headed strokers. The truly servile sluts are few & far between.
3. Don't do it for the money.
Ultimately, no one is here for the money (or shouldn't be). It's a fun byproduct of a kink: findom.
Findom is about power exchange through currency transfer. Much like bondage is through mobility transfer.
It's just another vector for a submissive to surrender to its Dominant, whether in session or lasting servitude.
If you need money, get a job or sell items. Desperate Alphas are always see-through, and fail. Just truth.
4. Build relationships with other Alphas.
Focus on the other Dominants here. Chat with them. Learn without being clingy about it.
Some, like myself, occasionally whore out their owned fags.
Especially at first, do not DM any slave here that has a lock; that is officially owned. Never.
If that slave reaches out, message the Alpha first.
Once you create a rapport with the Alpha, learn which owned sluts are allowed to & choose to chat, then do so.
Ultimately, conduct yourself so that you are earning the respect of your Alpha peers first and foremost. Always.
5. Find your style.
Emulation is natural. As with any craft, there will be those you look up to.
Take care not to let emulation become imitation. No one likes a copycat.
Find your original voice within the aspects of others you admire.
Ultimately, the most successful Alphas here are such because they are true to themselves.
For instance, I'm a soft-spoken Master. At times, I get harsh, but it's not My innate voice.
I know that, and I stick to it. Others do the opposite. It's about range & authenticity.
6. Build your brand.
A fair bit of domination is marketing. Content is king, engagement is queen, context is god.
Post as often as you can (without spamming). Find a cadence that works.
Few subs are attracted to empty profiles. Post pics. Make vids. Write blogs. Chat publicly.
Engage with others' posts and content, esp Alphas. Care about this community; not just yourself.
7. Set limits, and respect others’.
Not every sub will be a match with you. Maybe you hate piss play; piss pigs won't align with your style.
Maybe you want to solely focus on findom. Maybe findom is secondary to you.
Many subs focus on real-time meets, and even within that types of meets (eg dungeon play).
Be clear about your desires, your dislikes, and focus on those with whom your dynamic could line up.
8. Recognize the toll this takes.
Drop is real. The defeat, deflation, or other such blues felt in kink.
It can be sub drop following a heavy drain or kink session.
it can be Alpha drop after 15 timewasters exhaust you mentally.
Maybe your personal life is impacting your motivation to dominate, or create content.
Be mindful of the weight of your work here.
Yes, dominance is effortless.
But domination is hard work. And acknowledging that is crucial to lasting success.
Take days off. Communicate them to your slaves. The real ones will understand.
Likewise, sometimes subs need to step away. Not all Alphas accept that, but it is equally normal.
9. It isn't a competition.
It's easy to get caught up in the points. The Pantheon & slave market positions.
I've been guilty of it, as I'm sure many others are.
Domination (and s********n) are about the intimacy & thrill of power exchange.
Owning a fag is about fulfilling Your Alpha desires together, through their sacrifice & your domination.
Each dynamic is unique. It's own singular bond. No two subs should compete, even serving the same Master.
And no two Masters should compete, because I'll never be Garboss, SkinbossDan, or Fidelio.
They have their styles, their successes, their subs. I have Mine. That's a great thing.
It's the range of kink, and domination.
10. Have fun with it.
I've learned so much about myself through domination.
How sadistic I can be. How compassionate I am.
If you aren't here to enjoy yourself, and create enjoyment for others (even with pain or struggle)
Then you're likely here for the wrong reasons.
Consider this an extensions of "don't do it for the money".
Cheers.
10 Things Specific to Online Financial Domination
by DorianTheAlpha
#1 - Discipline
No, not the kinky kind. I’m talking about self-discipline. It’s easy to be motivated at the start, or after a heavy drain, maybe you’ve just owned a new fag or two. Not everyday will be motivating. Some days this might even feel like work, down right discouraging. Discipline is what separates the flashes in the pan from the those who stand the test of time (this is true for Dominants and submissives).
#2 - Communication
Online domination is noisy. Very noisy. Being a strong communicator is a key part of succeeding here, but that doesn’t mean being everywhere all the time. Be thoughtful about where you want to focus your own energy, and in those places: be responsive. With your fellow Alphas, with owned fags, with loyal sluts: make time and be thoughtful in your replies. A stale dynamic rarely lasts long. M/s is above all a relationship.
#3 - Decisions
I wrote this point specifically for Alphas new to online scenes. Timewasting: when a sub seeks free attention without any intention to serve you. The more I consider the idea, the more I realize it presumes an Alpha does not choose how to spend that time. When you indulge a timewaster, you the Alpha spend that time wastefully. It’s important to get to know potential servants. See: communication. Decide with intention, and stand firm by your choices while also…
#4 - Learning
Ultimately, the decisions you make are based on judgment. I’ve made decisions I later changed (past blogs, notably). There is a difference between flip-flopping a choice, and growing as a Dominant. No one is above improvement, and yes even as Alphas we can and are sometimes wrong. Whether it’s a fellow Master, a seasoned sub, or a brilliantly written borderline Nobel-prize-winning calibre blog — there’s always more to learn.
#5 - Responsibility & Ethics
I often hear from Alphas that it’s the sub’s responsibility not to self-destruct. And this is true. Ultimately, kinks like findom are power exchange between two consenting adults. That said, the best dynamics here exist because the Master & slave trust each other, deeply. Be responsible with your subs. Be ethical in your domination. Now, you can still leave a bitch battered, bruised, mouth full of ash, piss, spit, and weeping in a way that they fully consent to & even thank you for while begging for more. Intensity & extremes can and should still be responsibly, ethically carried out.
#6 - Community
Is the cash fun? Obviously. Do you know what’s more fun? The people that make this place great.
It’s called power exchange, not tips exchange. If you *need* the money, then you’re starting this for the wrong reasons (that’s just My perspective). If you’re only interested in heartless cash grabbing, you’re going to grow bored quick regardless of your success. Community is what makes OF, more than anything else.
#7 - Respect
Rule 1 - don’t be a dick. And it is rule #1 for a reason. That goes for Masters to Masters, Masters to fags, and fags to fags (obviously most of all fags to Masters). There’s plenty of Alphas here who use a sharp, punitive tone, while also doing so respectfully. Respect doesn’t have to be soft, or cuddly. I don’t agree with all of you. I don’t even like some of you. But being a toxic twat is a surefire way to alienate yourself or worse get banned from the site. Be better. Respect everyone.
#8 - Start
Unsure whether you’ve got what it takes to dominate online? Try it. Do it. Open your account. Verify, read the rules, and dive right in. Worried messaging subs will make you seem weak? Write them. Send PMs. Test what works best. You can only get better. This is the cliché classic “you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take”. It’s especially true of the online space where you’re just an avatar and a handle until you make yourself more than that. So make yourself more than that.
#9 - Stop
I don’t know who told you to start but that was a horrible idea. Stupid.
I joke, but the notion that you need to be always-on and constantly grinding will burn out the best of us. Taking breaks matters. Prioritizing your health & wellness matters. Remember that there’s more to life than the next tip notification or Pantheon climb. Stop and smell the roses. Call your grandma. Read a book. There will be subs & sending aplenty when you return. This message was brought to you by someone who is constantly failing at this particular point and in general maintaining work/life/kink balance.
#10 - Give Back
Donate to the site. There’s no elaboration here. The man’s growing a moustache for a good cause. If you haven’t put up for it: donate. Men’s health is no joke and last I checked we all had a cock between our legs.
Don’t forget to like & subscribe. New merch available soon. (This is a joke)
LOL thought I would take a brake from my normal "Life and times of Master Pete" and this time just flow up on observations others have made.
To feet or not to feet,
To smoke or not to smoke,
To finger or not to finger,
To showoff or not to showoff,
These are the questions dear faggot. Is it nobler to suffer the whining and wingeing of faggots or just to display the "F U Finger", sit back and wait.
The thing is I see lots of faggots and Masters wingeing about what they call "So called masters" just posting pic of their feet and demanding cash then sitting back. I find I agree with the wingers that post a pic of the feet and a demand for cash, it does not make a master. However if you take the amount of cash a master gets/has as a sign of how successful a cashDom is. Then the ones that get the most are the ones that post the most "F U Finger" or "Feet" photo's. Of course we can never know what goes on in private but on the surface it appears that the ones that spend the most time, chatting, getting to know and otherwise doing the things faggots say they like/want, are the ones that lose out.
So with that in mind.
F U faggots, pay your tributes to me and there's plenty of feet and boot pics on my profile.
Your Master Pete.
I know many of you have asked for the next part of "Ugly Tranny." and "How I met my first love." OK these will come.
Many of my blogs hark back to the days when a cold night on the streets of London would not be a problem, but this one comes from a later date when at the fist sign of a grey cloud my joints aches.
Being a lad who was at home with my first computer at 13 I was at the very start of the internet and little did I know that 40(ish) years later I would be having a real time chat including photo's, video and little smiling faces. In fact for years I has resisted the little smily faces but hay life changes.
Moving on to 2016 and I had got to grips with this search engine and that search engine and what is now the ubiquitous google. I am sure I have done some searching I should not have and a few times made sure I was on a public internet service(hot spot). I take the view that if my IP says I am at Athens Airport then who am I. Any why the point is I found findom/cashdom during my on going non stop hunt for good porn.
Finding a chatroom, after doing all the things needed to join the site I started just sitting on the sidelines just reading the way the posts where going. I noted people kept say (a word) to one of the subs in the room and it appeared the sub was reacting well most of the time. I noted some of the people said the word and were not getting a reaction at all. A example that even a self confessed faggot has those it likes, those it does not like and those who just don't do it for them.
It was as I was reading these messages and sometimes saying the word my self and got a reaction I sent a private messages to the faggot, go a replay. We connected on skype and started our private chat. I started to find my self in the finedom world. I started to note that I was chatting more than what you might call demanding. Reading "How I met my first love" you will see that this is how it works for me. My BF and faggots kneel down to me not because I demand it but because it's just the right thing for them to do. I find this way people open up to me, some with "secrets" and "triggers" that don't work every time but they do most times. I like public play abusing a faggot in public and chatrooms but private skype works well and I have a better range of those little smiling faces I said I avoided earlier, some have cute animation. When chatting with the faggot using "the word" I also found one, a red devil with nashing teeth and the "little red devil" was born.
The little red devil. Always wants his way but has a note of mischief, naughtiness and fun just like a little imp. He has a personality of his own like my avatar or calling card. When the faggot see him he knows it's time to play and it's not going to stop until he is payed to go away. That way the faggot can tell me when he need to stop without telling me. Sometimes the little devil will go to s***p for a little while, just to wake up again but I always know when enough is enough (maybe)?
It feels warm and comfortable and leaves a fuzzy feeling inside your tummy, knowing that with each passing second you are becoming more and more entrenched. Every feeble attempt to escape only causes my arms to grip that little bit tighter. You realise there is no hope of escape and you give up.
It is at this exact moment you feel a sense of calm sweep across your mind. You no longer feel the need to fight or resist. It all just somehow feels right now. Almost like you have been waiting for this moment your entire life.
You are home, right where you belong. Safe in the knowledge, that the balance of power, has firmly been cemented in place.
There is no feeling of panic, anxiety or fear. All of that has dissipated and been replaced by feelings of comfort, belonging and security. You have broke through to the promised land.
You will forever be thankful. That I guided you, to exactly the spot in the universe that you needed to be in. But most importantly and above all else.
You feel complete. Your puzzle has found it's missing peice.
Enjoy the ride, but don't be scared. Because the end place is more beautiful than you could ever have imagined.
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