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Stable for new slaves
In the last weeks there was often the discussion about why so many slaves leave OF after a short time and​ if slaves join a stable too quickly. 

I have begun to think about this and will write my personal thoughts - how often it could be wrong for other people, but this should be for thinking about and maybe we can have a discussion about diffferent opinions - please feel free to write your thoughts in the comment field.


Most of the slaves want a Master who​ takes care of him, gives his life a meaning, gives him orders to fullfill and set rules - help him to make his and the life of his Master better.  

If a slave joined OF first time - they are new victims for all the slave-hunting Masters there - you have 10-20 Masters who want you to serve him, set you targets with more and more​ gifts or tips -​ a few of them have not even the deceny to write to you first before they set you a target.​ ​ 

Many of the slaves are really overwhelmed by all of this - some don´t know they can say no to a target, some don´t know how to respectfully say they don´t want to serve that Master - some completely loose control of all of this.  

Many of the slaves are burnt out within a short time and leave OF for this reason - others seek the protection of a Master and join his stable.​ ​ ​ 

Most new slaves dont know what it really means to join a stable - made the same mistake by my first try here - they are now secure from most of the other Masters and have only to concentrate on​ their new Master - but after joining a stable you go from a hundred to zero messages if you have started with more messages than you can read, to, if you are lucky, some from your Master.  

If you're lucky to find the right Master after this short time, he will take care of you and look after how you feel, he will support you and will always be there for you - if not, you are only his ATM and he will only contact you if he think he needs more money - you will be alone with this new situation and nobody will take care of you as you are a owned slave​ and most Master​ respect this and will not contact you. 

I know - many slaves know their Master previously from other sites and come to OF only for their Master (as me), many are lucky to find the perfect matching Master in a short time, but many find out after time they are not lucky - it is hard for them to leave a stable they once joined voluntarily - they must say if they were wrong with their decision or​ other people will think they are too weak for this Master, or they don't want their Master to look weak for loosing a slave.​ 

So, maybe it will help to have a trial period for 2 weeks or so to prove you're a​ good match or not, after this both could decide they will continue or it will automatically finish. (don´t know how this technical would go and how difficult it is to make) - this two weeks could be a "stable light" with lesser restrictions, maybe in this time you could make a mentorship with an experienced slave or a experienced Master the Master trusts. 


I think this could help to made new slaves stay longer on OF, maybe it would be better if more Masters would have the chance to look if a new slave is compatible with them and maybe more Masters would try to be a careful Master to their new slaves.​ 

After these two weeks, both should know what the other wants and each real Master will then set limits and restrictions for his slave as he wants and how he thinks it would work for both. 


I know - this is a FinDom site and many would think they are not here to take care of worthless slaves or cunts, many slaves don't want a caring Master, but they want a hard Master who dominates them and make them into submissive pieces of shit from the beginning - if both want this it would be possible too - the trial period should only be for knowing better what the other really wants - if both know this from beginning they should make what they want.


And a second time - many thanks to SoS for being my lector and translate my thoughts in readable english and for the support of my Master.

GET HORNY FROM U$ING FAGS?
Something i wonder about Masters is - who does actually get sexually aroused by receiving tributes from fags?

 Maybe you don't. But if you do, what is it about it that turns you on?

   

Which of these is You? 

There may be more than one that applies to You. 

You may have other reasons that aren't included here. Please mention them.


1. I get heavily sexually turned on by the power of it.

2. I get a bit sexually turned on by the power of it.  

3. I get sexually stimulated from being worshipped through cash, but not in a massive way.

4) I do it simply because I'm a superior Alpha. I get a buzz from it, but it's not sexual.

5) It's fun and I enjoy it, but it's just an interest I have. It's not sexual for me.

6) It's a way to make some money from fags, nothing more. 

🌟 New Owned Fags Milestone! 🌟
Well, today is the day that the site turned over 250K within a one year period!


Yep that's right, over a quarter of a million quid has been processed by this site within 365 days and I'm buzzing.


Thank you to all who have supported and used this site, especially those of you who have been there from the beginning.


I will never stop innovating and trying to create the best findom site that there is and have a place where we can all have fun and explore findom in a safe environment. 


I just wanted to mark this special occasion with a little blog post, thank you for reading!


🥳🎉🍾🤑💶

Human ATM
its Thursday  February 27th 2020 and i got a text from my sir  about to meet him by an ATM and do a drain live. I had to leave work and went to meet my Sir,  with my card,  by the ATM not that fare from where i work. No word was speaken, i just put my card in the ATM, enterd the code and then Sir took over. Saw him pressed the amount , than gave me my card and took the cash. i said thank you and Sir left me.  It only took some seconds , and i was so horny about the session, where sir drained me live. That was a fucking good drain and hope my Sir will send me more text about meetings by an ATM for drain.
worthless cunt versus proud slave
My Master supports me in sharing a few of my impressions I have of here, since I joined this side a few weeks ago. 

First I must say, I´m not really into Findom, having been more than 30 years into BDSM and so I'm one who's learned the hard way of the Old Guard, and there really are a lot of differences. 

All that I write here is my personal thoughts - you can agree, we can talk about it, or you may think it is totally nonsense.  


One of the first things I discovered is the frequent​ use of abusive words for slaves in Findom - of course, each Master has the right to call his property what he wants (and I´m sure he knows for what reasons),​ but if you don't own the slave (long term or short term)​ is​ it​ really necessary to call every slave a fag or worthless cunt.​  

Especially if the slave is owned, this shows lack of respect for his Master - would you be happy if someone says your car it is shit and worthless? - a Master can allow his friends to call his property as they want, as a Master who knows but not own a slave longer term, it would be also o.k., but if a Master who knows nothing about the slave calls him a worthless fag, to me, this is disrespectful against the Master of the slave. 

Most slaves are not worthless - otherwise most wouldnt have a owner. You cannot determine the worth of a slave from their income - there are things that are​ more important like Loyality, Trust, Obedience - if you look only for money you will never have a good slave. 

There is no way for a slave to react after being​ called worthless cunt, fag or something else without being disrespectful to the Master that called him so - and to many of the self-named masters it is really hard to stay respectful -so the only hope for a slave is that his Master will protect him.


I dont understand why so many Masters into Findom like to make their property feeling worthless - if I'm a real Master I would like to show all others that I own a proud slave - a superior Alpha Male who can handle a strong Beta.  

If you buy a new car and you can choose a Dacia or a Porsche -​ you would choose the Porsche to show your friends how succesfully you are - so why make the Porsche to a Dacia​ - the only reason could only be, you are not able to drive a Porsche.  

Having a sixpack, showing the middlefinger or your feeds, doesn't qualify you to be a Master. 

A slave should mirror the worth of his Master -only good and real Master will ever have good and real slaves.


Many thanks to my Master and especially to SoS, they helped me to translate my toughts in  english for everybody readable.

Poachers
Sometimes i wish there was a dungeon for Masters. i respect all of them even if i serve mostly one, but there is one kind i really hate: poachers. Those i think would be appropriately described as "the most vile of creatures on Owned Fags" and as such, they would deserve a MoA offered all-inclusive lodging in the dungeon.

MoA has gone through a lot of efforts to make it clear what ownership means, but still some "Masters" would try to approach owned slaves in the hope of being served, sometimes even insulting the Owner and trying to lower Him in the eyes of the slave. This is absolutely unacceptable.

I am lucky to be owned by a very generous Owner who is not jealous, and who allows me to serve His friends as well as some other Masters whom i feel inclined to. The only limit is i am not allowed to serve a few Masters who have been offensive to Him or hurtful to one of my slave brothers in the past. This DNS ("do not serve") list is very short (3 Masters at the moment if i am counting well). As such i often pay small tributes or gifts to other Masters as Sir Coinnigh, Sir youngswimmerboy or MoA Himself can witness, but i never do it in the back of my Owner and He fully approves of it. It also doesn't mean i would serve a Master i am not inclined to, except if my Master ordered it of course.

I posted what i thought was a clear warning on my profile months ago stating that i didn't want to be approached by poachers, and that i would take appropriate actions, but this doesn't seem to be enough, maybe because some Masters are so full of themselves that they believe it doesn't apply to them, or just because they don't read profiles, whatever...

So from now on this is how i will deal with poachers who contact me:
- first time i will answer them politely i am not interested in serving them and remind them i am owned (at this stage i would not consider them as poachers)
- if they insist, which makes them poachers, i will ignore them
- if they still insist (for instance by sending me targets) i will let it publicly known they are poachers by posting a negative comment on their profile
- if they go on i will report them to MoA.

The only reason i don't report them sooner is i think MoA has a much better use for His time improving the site than dealing with such scums and i don't want to bother Him unnecessarily.
10 Tips for Masters Who Are New to OwnedFags

My blogs are typically about submission. How to serve better etc.


This one is specifically for Masters new to the site. Read up & enjoy.


Feel free to DM if anything below is unclear.


1. Read the rules.


Read the website rules. Read about kink, about D/s ownership.

Read up on findom.

If you're going to try a new kink a sub proposes. Study it. Ask other Alphas.

Everyone starts somewhere. You are given the power to govern a slave's body, mind, and wallet.

Wield that power responsibly, within the guidelines set for this community.

The only tribute allowed here are those sent with OwnedFags tips. No other tribute methods allowed. Period.


2. It takes longer than you realize.


For every useful sub, there are 20 timewasting pretenders.

For every lasting sub, it takes 20 who are fleetingly useful.

So if you're a math guy: that's roughly a 0.25% ownership rate on every sub interaction you have.

Lots of empty-handed, empty-headed strokers. The truly servile sluts are few & far between.


3. Don't do it for the money.


Ultimately, no one is here for the money (or shouldn't be). It's a fun byproduct of a kink: findom.

Findom is about power exchange through currency transfer. Much like bondage is through mobility transfer.

It's just another vector for a submissive to surrender to its Dominant, whether in session or lasting servitude.

If you need money, get a job or sell items. Desperate Alphas are always see-through, and fail. Just truth.


4. Build relationships with other Alphas.


Focus on the other Dominants here. Chat with them. Learn without being clingy about it.

Some, like myself, occasionally whore out their owned fags.

Especially at first, do not DM any slave here that has a lock; that is officially owned. Never.

If that slave reaches out, message the Alpha first.

Once you create a rapport with the Alpha, learn which owned sluts are allowed to & choose to chat, then do so.

Ultimately, conduct yourself so that you are earning the respect of your Alpha peers first and foremost. Always.


5. Find your style.


Emulation is natural. As with any craft, there will be those you look up to.

Take care not to let emulation become imitation. No one likes a copycat.

Find your original voice within the aspects of others you admire.

Ultimately, the most successful Alphas here are such because they are true to themselves.

For instance, I'm a soft-spoken Master. At times, I get harsh, but it's not My innate voice.

I know that, and I stick to it. Others do the opposite. It's about range & authenticity.


6. Build your brand.


A fair bit of domination is marketing. Content is king, engagement is queen, context is god.

Post as often as you can (without spamming). Find a cadence that works.

Few subs are attracted to empty profiles. Post pics. Make vids. Write blogs. Chat publicly.

Engage with others' posts and content, esp Alphas. Care about this community; not just yourself.


7. Set limits, and respect others’.


Not every sub will be a match with you. Maybe you hate piss play; piss pigs won't align with your style.

Maybe you want to solely focus on findom. Maybe findom is secondary to you.

Many subs focus on real-time meets, and even within that types of meets (eg dungeon play).

Be clear about your desires, your dislikes, and focus on those with whom your dynamic could line up.


8. Recognize the toll this takes.


Drop is real. The defeat, deflation, or other such blues felt in kink.

It can be sub drop following a heavy drain or kink session.

it can be Alpha drop after 15 timewasters exhaust you mentally.

Maybe your personal life is impacting your motivation to dominate, or create content.

Be mindful of the weight of your work here.

Yes, dominance is effortless.

But domination is hard work. And acknowledging that is crucial to lasting success.

Take days off. Communicate them to your slaves. The real ones will understand.

Likewise, sometimes subs need to step away. Not all Alphas accept that, but it is equally normal.


9. It isn't a competition.


It's easy to get caught up in the points. The Pantheon & slave market positions.

I've been guilty of it, as I'm sure many others are.

Domination (and submission) are about the intimacy & thrill of power exchange.

Owning a fag is about fulfilling Your Alpha desires together, through their sacrifice & your domination.

Each dynamic is unique. It's own singular bond. No two subs should compete, even serving the same Master.

And no two Masters should compete, because I'll never be Garboss, SkinbossDan, or Fidelio.

They have their styles, their successes, their subs. I have Mine. That's a great thing.

It's the range of kink, and domination.


10. Have fun with it.


I've learned so much about myself through domination.

How sadistic I can be. How compassionate I am.

If you aren't here to enjoy yourself, and create enjoyment for others (even with pain or struggle)

Then you're likely here for the wrong reasons.

Consider this an extensions of "don't do it for the money".


Cheers.

The Nature of Worth

I hadn’t planned to write this, but a conversation today with one of my fag brothers compelled me to.

Findom is HARD, especially so on owned slaves. While the session sluts get off and move on, those of us who live the life every day from morning to night know what this means. The sheer emotions involved in devoting everything we have to one Man can be overwhelming.

When I hear one of my brothers say that they feel worthless because they feel inadequate it saddens me. Worth is in the eye of the beholder. For an owned slave worth is the value your Master places in you. Not just in the money you send, but in your devotion and submission to Him. You are more than a dollar sign, a real Master understands that. If He doesn’t then it’s time to move on, because frankly you deserve better.

The term ‘worthless’ is a loaded one in this kink. Many of us get off on it as an aspect of humiliation, but it is simply a word to express that we are below the real Men. It doesn’t mean you lack value. What you need to remember is that a real Master cherishes His property. A real Master understands what your sacrifice means. A real Master understands the need for sustainability and pacing.

I wish OwnedFags had a segregated space for slaves to talk freely and openly. These are just some of the concerns and hardships we all face. I am always here to talk things through with any of my fellow slaves, feel free to DM me here, or we can even talk offsite if that is more comfortable for you. I’m sure many of my great brothers and sisters feel the same way. Reach out to us, we’re here for you. Don’t carry such burdens alone.

what are my rights as a cash fag
So I recently needed up in a terrible financial situation and I might don’t know what the flight thing to do is. I’ve been a cash fag for over two years now and I found a master I like that treated me very well and we got along great and I started to fall for him thinking he would actually fuck me and that is a big deal because having a .5 inch dick soft means I am to shy most of the times to try . Anyways longer story short I fell for this master and he wanted more and more control . I gave him passwords to my gmail and to ****** and to my bank application . He monitored me at first but never did he take anything . I continued falling for him and he told me he wanted to meet in person and all that and I didn’t really trust him but I started to think he might be serious . I wanted it to be true. One day not long ago he asked me if he could have access to my computer using teamviewer and I said yes but I had a feeling he was going to take money so i said please don’t take everything I need some money I have bills and so on . Well he didn’t take everything not that time . I did give more than I could afford but I waited it out until I got more money and yes I was afraid I’d lose my health insurance and my credit took a huge hit but I was ok and I felt like I could recover . I hen told him that while it was super hot to give up control I would not be able to do it unless he was ok with me asking for money back . He said it would turn him on for me to beg for money . I guess he didn’t say he would give it but I do remember him saying he would if I was good . I let him do this again and Again but the last time he did it he took more than I was able to afford and he got super angry when he saw that I gave a little bit to someone else as well and decided to not give anything back . Basically I sent over 15 grand in the last he last 90
Days to him and 1.5 grand went to
Someone else and I was blown away that he would take so much and leave me with minus 800 dollars I. My account and not give anything back. I think he v******d our agreement and I tried to ask him for help but he won’t speak to me and was angry that I gave someone else money. I am not sure if I will calm the bank and try and get them to reverse the charges because I don’t want to screw him over either but I am with out a car and I have nothing no money for food for bills no money for a car and I had to turn the rental in . I am so broke and I am so angry and he refuses to talk to me and he said he would give me a grand back but he hasn’t and even if he did it would not do much . What should I do please send me
An email
How to spot a time-wasting faggot

The issue of ‘time-wasting faggots’ came up in chat. I’ve certainly fallen victim to them. A lot in the begginning. 


Here’s a few classic hall-marks of a time-waster. Not all time-wasting faggots will show these traits, but if you spot a few of them, and are engaging in endless messages that don’t seem to go anywhere, chances are you’ve found a time-leech. Remove it immediately.


When you look at profiles:

(1) They’re in the newsfeed lots. Commenting on any Master’s pictures or updates, but never / rarely actually serving.

(2) They have low slave-points (will often have some to give a veneer of service)

(3) If they specifically say not a cash-whore, if this is what you are after, move on



When you talk to them:

(1) They’re into extreme blackmail fetishes, which seem unduly complicated and make little / no sense. 

(2) They stress their need to worship and serve and be owned. But they have a reason why they can’t do it just now.

(3) They’re generally over-enthusiastic in their approach; the decent faggots are polite, respectful and restrained until they know you better.


However, I do need to balance it out with:

(1) No two fags are the same, the best judge of whether it’s a time-waster is you

(2) Some faggots are shy, want to suss a master out first

(3) Most of the faggots on here are good and decent. And have joined this site for the right reasons.Just because they don't want to serve me, or you, doesn't mean they don't want to serve. But the chemistry has to be right. 


Concentrate on those faggots you can build a connection with, and it's mutually rewarding.