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The Mental Game
Posted by TheTechGuy

I think there is a lot that can be said about the mental aspect of any dom, but findom in particular. While I respect those who decide to go the blunt route, I myself prefer the mental games that can be played with subs. Get them relaxed, get them comfortable. Perhaps catch them when they are drinking. Then start picking apart what makes them tick. Mend your words and your tone to really sell it home to them, make them believe that it is not you telling them, but them thinking of it themselves. Guide them in the direction you want, and with some patience and the right words, you could easily take whatever you wanted from them, and all they would do is say thank you. It's especially fun on a sub who is relapsing, since it makes the feelings they experience more potent and makes it easier for you to get what you want.


So how about it, subs? Want a guy who gets in your head? Then reach out to me.

Exposure subs
Posted by Maskedmasterbe

We all know there is a world out there of men that are turned on by being laughed at, humiliated, and exposed. In this short blog I want to focus on exposure subs and my findom.

b*******l is real and is getting more and more into findom. The master exposes the sub online (without consent). The sub is paying master to remove every single piece of info that is in the public domain. Myself I am not into non-consensual play.

Than we have exposure subs begging to be exposed. They want to get exposed, they actually kick on seeing their pictures and what they are doing all over the internet. If a master exposes the material which was send to him, than he actually helps realising the subs fantasy. It is as if the sub send a script to the master. I don’t see any power exchange here, there is no thrill for the Dom. If you are paid to expose the sub, it is rather being paid for a service. Yes I have exposed subs on their the demand for which I was paid. But I see it more like some marketing stuff. It’s a play which needs to be handled carefully, the last thing I want is to give the  Sub some power. Also it gets boring after a  while. Okay, not all exposure subs begging for attention are the same, if an exposure sub submits to a Doms superiority a relation can be developed like..


 Sub is tributing for you attention


 Sub is promoting his master


 Sub I getting mindfucked by his master and is showing his respect by tributing

I am sure there are more elements that can be added here, so comment or share experiences (let focus on he positive ones here).

 

 

Hot Takes
Posted by DorianTheAlpha

Hot Takes


A few thoughts to stir the pot:


  1. A big cock and/or being fit is fun, but hardly defines dominance.
  2. Meaningful conversation and timewasting differ. The latter happens far more.
  3. Doms can also (and often are) time wasters when reaching out to subs.
  4. Manners matter, both ways. Manners can exist within intense, harsh, vulgar dynamics too.
  5. Power exchange that lacks formality or framework is just friendship with money transfer.
  6. Bottoming from the top is as common as topping from the bottom (if not even more common).
  7. Honesty matters just as much with a Master as with their sub, especially if they are a switch.
  8. The chat should have a daily theme/prompt to stir banter & minimise drivel.
  9. Much of the content here is an echo chamber; it is okay (and important) to constructively disagree.
  10. MOA should grow a Hulk-Hogan style handlebar stache next Movember.


Feel free to challenge below (or call out if you find these to not be hot takes/you agree).


Cheers

Saturday= silent sendings day😍
Posted by enslaved

_Saturday is    Silent sendings day. Chose a Sir or Sirs you like and  send him or (them)a silent tribute. A  gift for no reason except:  I like you, This can go both ways from a sub to a Sir and from a Sir to a sub, Domination and s********n goes both ways. Even in online  findom. A sub will will be in heaven when receiving a hug, some extra attention a few special words, a teddy bear or a gift from his Master or a nice Sir.

Everyone knows where these tips will end up, it's only a special attention for those who are really trying to bring you more well being and happiness. 

Silent stands for giving a tribute without being ordered to give. Wwithout asking a to tribute. Not just giving a tribute  to complete a target on time! Giving a tribute for the joy of findom, serving and giving,

As for all my findom ideas, games and  suggestions for findom fun ; ask your Master first if you are  owned, Ask him before sending a tribute to other Sir(s),

Suggestion to Sirs ; may I suggest you to allow your owned slave to play  & have some with othersTake it from me, it's the best way to keep your sub fulfilled submitted, satisfied, honest and faithful.

More info, tribute ideas & serving games on my other blogposts on my profile,

Every sub has his ways to play, to Submit & to serve. Sirs are different and want different things. Find your match & most of all:

take care & have lots of great, hot findom fun.


Time away & Return
Posted by KinknInk

I'm sure all Master have been here, but i needed a break away. 

Being a Master is time consuming, yet so worth it. Hence why i'm back in full form as i love this lifestyle far too much. It feeds my ego and lust for life. There is nothing more i love than outting someone in their place and having that rush of superiority over themMy question is, how do all the Masters keep themselves going all year round, no breaks?

And for those inferiors reading, heres my new number - +447706843632 come say hello, you won't regret it.....

Truth - pure truth
Posted by German_Alpha

Its been decided as soon as i was born. Im superior. Holy. Godlike. I’ve came in to this world to be worshipped and served by the peasants. It was my faith. Obey your holy GOD. Bow down for me and pay your FAGTAX, make me happy, do what your destiny is: worship an alpha, finance his luxury, do as he pleases
Why We Celebrate Pride
Posted by HadrianTemple

On Friday June 29th, 1969, a Black trans woman Marsha P. Johnson and a white butch lesbian (probably Marilyn Fowler) triggered the single most important act of LGBT resistance by igniting the Stonewall Riots. The Stonewall Bar on Christopher St in New York City was a shitty Mafia-run bar that lacked a l****r license, but it was one of the few bars that more effeminate gay men (termed ‘queens’ in the language of the period) and butch women could get into, although they rarely let in more than 2-3 males dressed in women’s clothing (termed ‘drags’ at the time) for fear of attracting police attention.

Later in the evening, police showed up to raid the bar on the pretense of looking for “cross-dressing men”, since cross-dressing was a crime, as was any form of gay sex. The police routinely harassed gay bars, raided them, beat up gay men and trans women, and if someone were convicted of a morals offense, it was guaranteed to be published in the newspapers in articles that identified the target by name, thereby outing them at a time when being gay or trans could easily get one fired. 

When the cops showed up (led by Seymore Pine), they shut down the bar and f****d those inside to leave, but detained 5 people they suspected might be cross-dressing, f*****g them to undergo humiliating inspections at the hands of policewomen. The policewomen determined that 2 of the 5 were ‘real women’. The remaining three were Marsha P. Johnson, a well-known Black trans woman; ‘Maria’, a young drag on her first-ever night out in women’s clothing, and a third person who’s never been identified. 

At some point during the process, Johnson got fed up and threw a shot-glass at the mirror behind the bar (not, as some people have said, a brick). About the same time, the police were dragging out a white butch lesbian wearing men’s clothes (which was as much of a crime as men wearing women’s clothes). Although sometimes identified as popular singer StormĂ© Darlarverie, this was almost certainly Marilyn Fowler, a much less well-known figure in the community whose name appears in the arrest records. Fowler struggled with police and called for the crowd to help her. 

These two moments of resistance ignited the crowd of bar patrons milling around outside to start rioting. They began slowly, shouting and throwing pennies at the cops. As things escalated, Johnson and Maria were f****d into a paddy wagon, but Maria was able to jump out and escape capture, while Johnson wound up handcuffed but also got away. The crowd escalated to throwing bricks from a nearby construction site and the police retreated inside the bar and barricaded the door. When the crowd retaliated by ripping up a parking meter to use as a makeshift battering ram, Pine ordered one of the police women to crawl through a back window and get to a phone to call for back-up. 

When more cops showed up, the scene devolved into a running street battle between the street youth and the queens on the one side and the unprepared cops on the other. Furious queers brawled with the police on more than one occasion rescued people the cops were attempting to arrest. The street youth took advantage of the confusing street layout of Christopher Street; they would taunt the cops and when the cops charged them, they would run down the block, around the corner, and then re-appear at the opposite end of the street, mocking the inability of the police to stop them. They formed Rockettes-style kick-lines and taunt the police with an insulting song: 

We are the Stonewall girls

We wear our hair in curls

We don’t wear underwear

We show our pubic hairs

We wear our dungarees

Around our nelly knees

Central to the rioting was a strategy of ridicule. The NYPD were icons of masculine power, so the rioters turned the tables on them, making a dramatic show of their own effeminacy and their supposedly- predatory sexuality to invert the normal power dynamic. It was the effeminate ‘failed men’ who were defeating the hyper-masculine police and rendering them impotent.

Friday night was not actually the end of the rioting. Saturday night saw a much larger crowd form; the Friday night crowd was perhaps 500 people at most, but on Saturday night an estimated 2,000 people were involved in fighting the police. The crowd began making explicit declarations of “Gay Power” and some began to kiss each other in public, a truly radical gesture that horrified the more ‘straight-acting’ butches, who were able to pass for straight and therefore tended to advocate for staying in the closet. 150 riot police were able to f***e the crowd out of Christopher Street, but were not able to control the surrounding streets until the crowd finally began to disperse around 3:30am. At one point, Johnson climbed a lamp-post (in a dress) and dropped a handbag containing something very heavy onto a police car, smashing its window and prompting it to drive off immediately. 

On Sunday, the Mattachine Society, a ‘homophile’ organization that advocated for respectability and assimilation, posted a sign at the Stonewall Bar calling for peace, and the police turned out in very large numbers, effectively thwarting attempts to orchestrate another riot. But the following Wednesday, when the Village Voice published an insulting article about the riot, a crowd of 500 anger gays formed in front of its offices (which were on the same block as the Stonewall) and debated burning down the building. The Black Panthers sent a contingent, eager to learn how a group of gay men had been able to thwart the police so easily. When the rioting erupted again, it was less festive than on Friday and Saturday. A number of business were vandalized and quite a few people were injured by the police. In the words of Dick Leitsch, then president of New York branch of the Mattachine Society: 

“7th Avenue from Christopher to West 10th looked like Vietnam. Young people, many of them queens, were lying on the sidewalk, b******g from the head, face, mouth, and even the eyes. Others were nursing bruised and often b******g arms, legs, backs, and necks
.The exploiters had moved in
blacks and students who want a revolution, any kind of revolution 
swelled the crowd
but ‘graciously’ let the queens take all the bruises and suffer all the arrests.”

Wednesday night’s riot was brief and intense, lasting only about an hour before the police were able to disperse it, and proved to be the last. But within a few days, the New York LGBT community same an unprecedented explosion of organizing. A few days after the riots, a leaflet began to circulate titled “Are The Homosexuals Revolting? You Bet Your Sweet Ass We Are”. Less than two weeks later, a meeting of the Mattachine Society swelled to more than 200 participants, many of whom loudly rejected its strategy of respectable protesting. The Gay Liberation Front began organizing dances, giving LGBT people a place to congregate that wasn’t controlled by the Mafia; when a bouncer at a Mafia-controlled bar punched a lesbian in the face, the GLF organized a dance-in at the bar and intimidated the Mafia into allowing them to dance there peacefully. The Gay Activists Alliance focused more on building LGBT consciousness and on getting the city to stop harassing LGBT people. Johnson and fellow trans woman Sylvia Rivera organized STAR (Street Transvestites Action Revolutionaries) and managed to set up a brief-lived halfway house for homeless trans people to live in.

A year later, activists led by Craig Rodwell organized the First Annual Christopher Street Liberation Day march, marching from the Stonewall Bar to Central Park. Rodwell cannily recognized that such an event would help further LGBT consciousness and identity-formation, and he was right. Two years later, that parade became the first “Gay Pride” Parade. At the time, ‘gay’ was frequently used as a catch-all term for people who today identify as gays, lesbians, bisexuals, trans people, non-binaries, and queer. 

It’s important to remember that Gay Pride events commemorate the Stonewall Riots. The whole principle of Gay Pride is rooted in an act of resistance that ultimately sparked a world-wide movement of liberation. While LGBT people enjoy greater visibility, legal rights, and social acceptance than we did in 1969, I think it’s important to remember that we are not truly accepted. In many ways both large and small, mainstream society still sees us as being a problem. There’s still, for example, a desire to make gay and lesbian relationships conform to monogamous standards instead of acknowledging that our relationships tend to follow different rules. There is obviously a great deal of political pressure being applied to trans people by the GOP, stemming from a refusal to accept that trans people understand their gender identities better than anyone else. One recent study found that bisexual girls tend to have rates of teen pregnancy because they feel pressure to engage in unprotected heterosexual sex as a way to prove they are still women despite their attraction to other women. Pride is still an act of resistance because straight society forces it to be. 

And never forget that Stonewall began with acts of resistance by a Black trans woman and a white lesbian, and it grew into a fight driven by effeminate gay men, many of whom were sex workers. These people got the ball rolling on the legal and social struggle for acceptance. White gay men are prone to forget that the rights and the freedom from the closet they currently enjoy are things they owe to some of the most marginalized members of our community. As gay men gain greater access to positions of power and influence, it’s vitally important that we help boost the less fortunate segments of our community up through political action, charitable donations and patronage, social support, and whatever other tools we have at our disposal. 

None of us are free until we’re all free, because if we leave room for trans people to be ostracized, that room we leave will eventually be used to ostracize us. If we don’t fight for poor LGBTs to get better access to health care, why should they fight for our rights? If we allow cops to k**l our Black brothers and sisters with impunity, there’s nothing to stop them from killing the rest of us. It took a concerted struggle 52 years ago to defend the repression of the NYPD, and it’s still going to take a concerted struggle to win our equality.


Extending limits and budget for findom; hot or not?
Posted by enslaved

I have read this rom several subs: extending our limits on what we do as as a slave, how we do it and the frequency we do it is hot. Extending our findom budget is hot.  Is it?

Another something I am wandering, is that something you do by your own or when having a dominant to help you doing this. Is it like spending less to save and serve more?


your opinion, experiencees and suggestions are  very welcome.


My new findom Twitter: https://twitter.com/enslaved2serve



Reimbursements
Posted by SwissMaster

Yesterday I was very pleased being approached by a sub who asked if he ll get an opportunity to reimburse me something. As we have all our expanses, it wasnt hard to think of something he could cover which he immediately did (Bravo, good boy!) And I was thinking about this form of service. While other tributes maybe spent on additonal luxus for myself a reimbursment is more about my everyday expenses and just because of that "more" a part of my life. I guess thats the thrill/the satisfaction for the sub...he knows he can become a tiny part of my life and humbly serves, fulfilling what findom is: I spend, you send! ;)


For all other good bois out there...stepp up, you ll get your own chance! ;D


On tribute
Posted by delta

In a prior post I reflected on why so-called "Masters" end up begging their "slaves," for money; and how, on account of that, "slaves" end up dominating "masters" by telling them what to do in exchange for money (because ultimately slaves pay for something). If the two parts enjoy being in that position, that's fine. Who cares? But I guess the very idea of Tribute (which is supposed to mediante slave-master relationship) fades away to be replaced by a mere Tip. A tribute must come from the slave's deepest necessity to satisfy his master and make him happy.  Maters should never ever ask their slaves for money. Slaves should always offer tributes, not plain money. Of course money can be a tribute but the meaning of tribute should not be limited to just $$. A slave must know what makes his Master happy. A tribute can take the shape of money, but it needs to come from the slave's will and the deepest of his heart without being asked for. It cannot be an exchange although at the end the slave will feel accomplished because he has made his Master happy. The nature of being a slave has found meaning, purpose and raison d'ĂȘtre. That must be enough for the slave. But it will never be enough for the Master. Tributes feed slave-master relationship. Plain Money for the sake of money turn it into a market transaction between a buyer and a seller. Why is it so difficult to find a slave who understands that?  
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