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The Nature of Worth
Posted by subcorey

I hadn’t planned to write this, but a conversation today with one of my fag brothers compelled me to.

Findom is HARD, especially so on owned slaves. While the session sluts get off and move on, those of us who live the life every day from morning to night know what this means. The sheer emotions involved in devoting everything we have to one Man can be overwhelming.

When I hear one of my brothers say that they feel worthless because they feel inadequate it saddens me. Worth is in the eye of the beholder. For an owned slave worth is the value your Master places in you. Not just in the money you send, but in your devotion and submission to Him. You are more than a dollar sign, a real Master understands that. If He doesn’t then it’s time to move on, because frankly you deserve better.

The term ‘worthless’ is a loaded one in this kink. Many of us get off on it as an aspect of humiliation, but it is simply a word to express that we are below the real Men. It doesn’t mean you lack value. What you need to remember is that a real Master cherishes His property. A real Master understands what your sacrifice means. A real Master understands the need for sustainability and pacing.

I wish OwnedFags had a segregated space for slaves to talk freely and openly. These are just some of the concerns and hardships we all face. I am always here to talk things through with any of my fellow slaves, feel free to DM me here, or we can even talk offsite if that is more comfortable for you. I’m sure many of my great brothers and sisters feel the same way. Reach out to us, we’re here for you. Don’t carry such burdens alone.

Cashfag pay raise
Posted by coloslutty

Even though i'm an unworthy faggot, i recently was given a promotion at work accompanied by an undeserved pay raise(rise). 


i've blogged before about how payday can be difficult for a cashfag -- seeing that bank account go up, and feeling the urge to dispose of it by sending as much as reasonably possible to better men.  What goes up must come down, and all that.  Well, an increase in salary would only make things worse!  The selfless fag wants none of that for himself. 


The solution was clear and easy: send 100% of the increased income to masters.  If a fag was able to survive sustainably and serve superiors comfortably before the pay raise, then the fag doesn't need to keep any of the raise and can send all of it away. 


Knowing that the increased pay would be tributed to superiors, i was motivated to negotiate for an even higher salary.  Since it was all destined for Alphas, it would be wrong of me not to ask for more, if more could be given.  To my surprise, though the negotiation was tough, they accepted my counteroffer.  i was proud to accept the higher salary and to try hard to find more opportunities to submit it all to deserving masters. 


DUNGEON PUNISHMENT FOR SENDING
Posted by SoS

Having been in the dungeon for 48 hours (thank you to MoA for the hospitality...), it's right that I write about the reason, and to express a public apology to my Master Garboss.


There are probably very few fags/slaves on OF who've been put in the dungeon as punishment for sending to their Master, and few Masters who've sent them there for doing so. But, my Master is not like most others.


My error was to buy a 1000 tips crown on Easter Sunday for my Owner, to show my love and pride in Him as my king of kings. I wanted it to be a surprise, so I failed to ask permission.


The rule under which I live is something that I know very well:

 

Send His money when HE decides.

Send His money how HE decides. 

I do not decide when, how, or how much.


An ATM does NOT make those decisions. 

Only an ATM's user and Owner decides how His ATM is used.


This rule is fundamental to His control.

I am not a fag that begs to send His money in order to satisfy my own selfish urges. This would be me using Him for my own selfish ends.


Whether I'm horny or not is unimportant. He decides when His money is withdrawn.


The essence of Findom in our relationship is Power, Control, Subordination, Obedience. This is how Findom fits into a Power Exchange relationship. It is a wonderful relationship, and my Master is also probably my best friend, who always wants what is best for me.


Even though W/we discuss all sorts of things in our lives, confide in each other on private and personal matters, share many interests and provide mutual support in many ways, non of these aspects of our relationship alter or impact on the fact that I am His ATM faggot who works and sacrifices to earn His money which all goes into His savings and investments.


With such a special relationship, it is important that His rules over my life are adhered to in full, and gratefully respected.

I am so proud and constantly grateful, and know how very fortunate I am to be in His exclusive $table.


I apologise wholeheartedly to my wonderful Owner and the most important Man in my life. 




Unhappy in FinDom
Posted by SKINBOSS8

Unable to break the habit?


There are reason's and there is a cure for your unhappiness.


 Possible Reason;

serving the wrong Dom

Lacking control of a nurturing Dom

Not manging finances.

Selfless, wanting to buy for yourself?

In denial of what you are


SOLUTIONS.

Seek a Dom that connects with you

Manage money better Prioritize.

Accept your natural subordinate role.

Find joy in reducing spending on yourself.


THE FACTS!

It is your nature. YOU WILL NEVER be able to change it. Fighting it cause stress  and unhappiness.

Accepting it as your purpose is the path to HAPPINESS.

Learning to live your life in service with your earnings is the right and only direction. 


🌟 New Owned Fags Milestone! 🌟
Posted by MasterOfAll

Well, today is the day that the site turned over 250K within a one year period!


Yep that's right, over a quarter of a million quid has been processed by this site within 365 days and I'm buzzing.


Thank you to all who have supported and used this site, especially those of you who have been there from the beginning.


I will never stop innovating and trying to create the best findom site that there is and have a place where we can all have fun and explore findom in a safe environment. 


I just wanted to mark this special occasion with a little blog post, thank you for reading!


🥳🎉🍾🤑💶

Sustainable Sending
Posted by subcorey

A message inspired by an earnest discussion among several fags in chat.

Sustainable sending simply means sending what you can afford to send. A straightforward notion yet quite difficult for many finsubs to master. It is the key to long lasting servitude and financial stability. A concept drilled into me years ago by the first Dom I served that I always keep top of mind is: a broke fag is a useless fag.

What cash slave hasn’t stroked to the idea of a massive drain? Dropping hundreds or thousands in a single ruinous session. It can be arousing beyond measure, yet it can leave you feeling broken and resentful. At its worst it results in slaves deleting profiles and ghosting their Masters.

Too often fags are guided by the little cocklet between their legs, which can lead to bad decisions. While  you should always strive to please your Master, both in tribute and in other ways; you need to play the long game. How best can you serve Him sustainably over time? Aim for years of service, not just a few weeks of mindless stroking.

Take the time to figure out what you can actually afford to send. It can seemingly take the fun out of it, but coming up with a budget will help keep you from overdoing it. There will always be slaves who can send more than you, that’s just a fact. Focus on what you are able to affordably send rather than trying to compete with those with deeper pockets.

Even seasoned subs can fall prey to sending more than they should. When it happens it's imperative that you communicate to your Master that you will need a period of recovery. If He is a wise Dom He will understand, if not then it’s time to move on. Smart Masters will want to cultivate a lasting relationship, not drain you into oblivion then hang you out to dry.

The best Masters know how to guide their fags in sending sustainably. There are always those who will push a slave past its limits, but it's still up to the slave to inform the Master that they can’t afford to send more. We're all adults here, both the Master and the slave share responsibility. The slave not to oversend and the Master not to ruin the slave.

Now that doesn’t mean you should waste a Dom’s time simply to pinch some pennies. Don’t accept targets you can’t complete. Don’t promise more than you can send. If you're having trouble managing your sending, try asking your Master to require permission to send to help keep you grounded. If you can’t send more until your next pay, ask how else you can please Him. True submission and servitude extends beyond tip counts.

Be the best fag that you can be for them, but do it sustainably so you can continue to do so for years to come. The Masters may be in control, but that doesn’t mean you can abrogate your own responsibility to keep your head above water.

How to fully control Your sub in 9 steps
Posted by disciplineguyla

1:  You  need to get into his head.

-Learn his fantasies and what turns him on.  Use this information against him and to Your advantage.

-Find out what humiliates him, and to what level.

-Make him show his loyalty to You regularly. Reward him, even if it’s just with positive attention when he does show loyalty.

- Aside from family, close friends and work, give him 0% privacy.  Don’t hide this process from him, make him partake in handing it over to you in ways that demonstrate how he is “losing the privacy.”  

-Make him need You for everything.  Point out how You help him, how You guide him, and how You accept the negative things about him.

- h******s, especially while they are resting can help transfer messages, ideas and ideals about You deep into their faggot head.

 

2:  Punish him often for everything, no exceptions!

- Don’t let him get away with anything!  When You let your sub get away with something. You are telling him that You don’t care for him and that what he did was ok.

- You can Spank, paddle, or whip him.

- Humiliate him past what is easy for him.

- Long term bondage. 

- Corner time.

- Food restrictions.

- Writing standards/lines.

- Write a book report or essay.

- Ground him/take away privileges.

- Wash his mouth out with soap.

- Make him do anything he hates.

- Get creative and make the punishment match the crime.

- Never use separation or the threat of leaving/ending Your control over him as a punishment.  That is counterproductive to the end goal (trust and service) and is detrimental to the faggot.

 

 

3:  Routinely discipline him.  This is different than punishment.

- Spank him once a week, just because You can, not too hard, not too soft.

-Humiliate him often.

- 5-10 minuets of corner time a day can do wonders for him, like a sub’s meditation.

- If he is stressed, give him a break and put him in some comfy bondage for a while.  You may or may not want to integrate impact play with this.  For lots of subs, some pain can really help elevate their mode for the rest of the day or longer.

- Routine discipline will save You time and energy in the long run.  You will have to punish him less as a result.

- Taking care of You can be part of his discipline.  Have him do Your laundry, cleaning, etc. 

 

 

 

 

4:  On some level, even if it’s small, keep Your sub horny for You.

- Talk sexy to him.

-Sexualize non sexual things/activities You are interested in. He will see whatever it is You’ve sexualized as such and be more interested/eager to engage.

- Have Your sub do some or all of Your body grooming. This can be Your baths, Your nails, shaving, trimming, waxing, etc.

- Scare him by telling him when and what You’re going to do to him in the near future.  Always follow through.

- Send him text messages with orders to do something sexual.

- Make him give You orgasms.  This is different from sex.  This is a service.

- Let him rest on You to smell You as You watch TV or read.

- Give him underwear/items of Yours to smell as he sleeps.

- h******s, especially while Your sub sleeps can help with this too.

 

5:  Control Your own feelings of guilt.

-      Your sub needs You to be strong “with” him.  You may, and in most long term cases, should, show vulnerabilities in Yourself for other aspects of Your life. However, when it comes to him and Your control over him, be firm!

-      Some meanness and cruelty will be needed from time to time to help break Your sub down, or to keep him broken down.

-Your sub may not want everything You give him/ do to him, but he needs it, or most of it at least.

-      Letting Your sub get away with insubordinate behavior because You feel guilty adequately and severely addressing it is weak.  You need to control that shit.

-      Sub faggots need a real man who is close to them to guide them.  Sometimes real men need to show the fag that they are inferior.  This can’t always be done by talking.  And if it is done my talking, the talking can’t be politically correct/kind.

-      Humiliation/breaking him down, teaching him to serve long term, these are all things he needs.  You are filling his needs.

-      Remember, You both need to be happy.  But happiness comes from different places for different people.  If there is communication, and Your sub has communicated that he needs this life to be happy, then You are doing him a service and loving him by breaking him down and controlling him.

-      A good sub is hard to find. Don’t let the guilt of giving him what he needs stop You from doing so. What he needs may be overwhelming for him and he may break. If he does be there for him.

 

 

6: Humiliate/degrade/break him down on some level daily, some days more than others.

- Have him wear a small butt-plug for a time, wifi enabled if possible.

- Have him be naked or close to it, around You and or Your friends.

- Make him wear a collar or other symbol of inferiority.

- Make him wear a chastity device sometimes.

- Teach him “tricks” like sit, how to drop to his knees to kiss Your crotch, etc.  In public or with friends randomly call out a trick every now then. Make sure Your sub does this flawlessly without hesitation.

- Make him masturbate for You.

- Slap him in the face.

- Spit on him.

- Treat him as an inferior in public.  (Ex: he carries all bags, opens doors, eats Your leftovers, holds Your drinks, ties Your shoes  etc.)

- Make him eat his own cum sometimes.

- Talk down to him in front of others

 

7: Rearrange his life/time to better serve/please You.  Make sure this does not interfere with his time with loved ones or work.

- If You want to change his body to Your liking, do so.  Control his workouts, diet etc.  Make sure and be realistic with this one.

- Make sure he is available during some of Your leisure time each week so he will be able to serve You during those times.

- Put him on a resting schedule.  Lots of fags are not able to adequately manage their sleep times.  The better rested he is, the better he will serve You.

- Go through his closet/things and throw away/put away any clothing You don’t like him to be wearing.

- Sign him up to learn new tasks or prefect tasks/skills that will help You.  (Ex: massage classes, cooking classes, pet care, etc.)

- Change his grooming habits to Your liking.

 

 

 

8: Help Your sub be grateful for everything he has.  Make sure You are at the top of that list.  One great way to do this is to deny him things.  Yep, it’s time to say “No.”  Subs need boundaries, and saying “No” is a great way to help them with those boundaries.

- You can take away certain foods, comforts, leisure time, sex, masturbation, etc.

- Make him show his gratitude to You often.  Often, faggots will show this to You in their own way. But, most faggots will need some help/instruction on exactly how to show their gratitude to You.

- Make him explain why he deserves something. If he can’t explain why well enough. Then take it from him.

- You can take things/items from him that You know he does not need, but likes.  (Make sure he can afford for You to take them and that they are not of an additional value such as sentimental etc.)  Let him know from time to time that You enjoy something that You took from him.   By taking things away from him, You are in a sense rewarding him when You give them back. Also, nothing he has is his forever. You may need to re-take things and privileges away from him periodically so he knows they are a privilege and not a right.  Think of it like taking a food bowl away from a dog.  Your sub needs be docile enough that You can take his food bowl away from him as he is eating. He will not make a fuss and patiently wait until the food is returned

- Offer him a reward of getting to have something back. Make what you give him back relevant to what You make him do to earn it back. 

 

 

 

9:  None of these actions will work without real trust.

- If Your sub is Your partner, let him know how much his sub-ass completes You and Your power.

-  If Your sub is not Your partner, make sure You two are real friends, or at least care for one another on a deep level.  Let him know that You appreciate how his inferiority completes you.  The more You two know about and do with each other, the more thoroughly You can control him.

-Part of trust on the sub’s side is trusting that You will follow through when You say You are going to do something to him or are going to make him do something.  Follow through always!

 -  When a sub fully trusts You, he can submit to You his mind and privacy. This Lets You go in and re-arrange/manage his life.

- Subs need constant reassurance.  Let him know that no matter what, he is Yours.  If a quality sub feels disposable, he will look for another Dom who appreciates his surrender.

- If Your life is getting too hard for a bit or You need help with something, trust that Your sub will be able to take over for You and act in Your best interest until You are back in shape.  Giving subs this responsibility will either make him feel trusted and good, or upset that You are not actively controlling him 100% of the time.  If he gets upset and does not step up and take over for You, then drop him like a hot potato.

-Talk to Your sub often.  Ask him how he is feeling, and let him honestly know how You are feeling on anything and everything.

 

 

 

Please note:

 Do not ever deny him from being with core friends or family.  In fact, you need to encourage that.  Make sure he understands that the happiness that comes from being with them is “second” to the happiness that he brings them. Make him understand that if he pulls away from loved ones while he is under Your control, his loved ones will suffer. Inevitably, this will be very good for him.  Now, for Your own piece of mind, make sure that his bonds grow with his family and core friends.  A sub without a support group is a liability.  If things go sour between you two, and Your sub has transitioned over the past few years to serve You in every way, then he will be devastatingly lost when his submission to You ends.  That is not a humane thing to do with a sub.  As a Dom, it is Your job to guide the sub.  Most subs will get lost in their submission to their Dom.  This is a beautiful thing.  But with that comes responsibility for the Dom.  You not only need to be thinking in Your best interest, but Your sub’s best interest too.  This includes his mental health both with You, and during the transition if and when you two separate. 

 

 

Important: The following is a list of things to control a sub only. Please do not implement these ideas if You do not care about and are not committed to Your sub.  This list is not all inclusive of how to treat Your sub. This list leaves out the important kind necessities that Your sub needs such as reassurance, love, respect, being protected, allowed to be protective of You etc.  These ideas are for a long term 24/7 arrangements, not a scene.  Not everything will apply in every case, and there may be things on the list that will not work for You.

How to spot a time waster
Posted by Knoxx

In this blog I will provide a list of ways to spot a time waster in order to help new doms make money and expel these wastes of space. A BDSM time waster is someone that pays you for your services then cancels the transaction or strings you along thinking they will eventually pay you but never do. I just want to provide my list of tips because I feel time watsers they have a sense and can tell when a dom is new and tend to hone in on him. They screw over this poor new dom who is just trying to break through. So if I can just help a few new doms avoid time wasters I will be so happy. 


1. Profile names. Do avoid profiles that have the name Paypig, Pig, or Findomloser, Humanatmmachine, do not trust them. In my experience just when someone puts pig or cashcow in their name they are fake. If for example you are on twitter look at what he has tweeted and if he is constantly tweeting things about tributing his Master but there is no link to the Masters profile, the Master doesn't exist. 


2. So I have been conned by time wasters in the past that say they are into teamviewer wallet fucks. So I thought fair enough they get turned on by the loss of their control over their computer, so I saw the logic. So I use to buy loads of stuff off my wishlist only to find the next day they had been canceled. In my experience subs that like teamviewer are fake. What you should do before you session with one these guys is say ok will send me 100 tips and anything extra we can do on teamviewer. If he says no I only enjoy being rinsed on teamviewer, he is a time waster. At the end of the day if he is prepared to spend "100's" on you but will not cough up a tenner in tips then that is a definite red flag. 


3. If a slave professes to be into financial domination and calls himself a pay pig etc etc and he says he enjoys being rinsed, wallet fucked, stuff like that, he is a liar. I have only had an experience with a couple of genuine financial slaves and these people never use terms such as paypig, or wallet fuck. What they will do is they will tribute you for no reason. They will randomly buy you something off your wish list. That is a financial submissive. Not someone in live chat that proclaims they want to be wallet fucked or rinsed etc etc. Actions speak louder than words. 


I hope this can help you.


Knoxx.



Faggot 101 - #1: On Doubt and Hiding
Posted by LordCumalot

Almost every faggot, whether it is owned or whoring around, whether its new to the scene of has been around for ages, wether its a cashfag or a fuckhole, has its weak moments. Every faggot comes to a point, where it doubts what its doing is right. And where it feels like hiding from its Alpha(s), running away, backing off.


And that is alright. Even the BEST and most SUBMISSIVE cunt is still a human being. And every cunt is entitled to take its emotions seriously. Even more, the fact that a fuckhole reflects upon what it is doing, and what its role in life IS, is an important part of being a faggot and an (owned) slave!



So, what to do in these weak moments? How to deal with a situation that can (and most likely WILL) deeply affect your relationship with your Master, Owner, Alpha or God?


TAKE YOUR EMOTIONS SERIOUSLY!

If a fag is feeling overwhelmed or scared, it shouldn't just try to ignore those sentiments. Even if that might be a helpful copingmechanism in that specific moment, it WILL come back to haunt you later. Then, with an even stronger urge to run away!


TALK TO YOUR MASTER!

The best way to deal with these situations is to talk to your Master! A GOOD Master shows interest in his faggots, and wants them to feel as safe and heard(!) as possible. A GOOD master will allow you to work it through, and find a way that works for you both. Only THEN will you be able to become the best cunt you can be!

Talk to your Alpha! Tell him about your doubts, your weakness, accept the fact that you're struggeling and share your feelings. Only then, your Master will be able to walk you through it


TAKE YOUR TIME!

Last but not least, you should make sure to NEVER rush any decisions in a time of weakness. If a cunt runs away, hides and doesn't respond to messages, a Master is probably NOT happy about this behaviour. Take your time, tell your Master you need some time to think, and DON'T rush any decisions. 



A deep, intense and long-lasting faggot-Alpha relationship should be based on trust, communication and mutual(!) respect. So trust in your Master to support you in times of struggle!







10 Tips for Masters Who Are New to OwnedFags
Posted by DorianTheAlpha

My blogs are typically about submission. How to serve better etc.


This one is specifically for Masters new to the site. Read up & enjoy.


Feel free to DM if anything below is unclear.


1. Read the rules.


Read the website rules. Read about kink, about D/s ownership.

Read up on findom.

If you're going to try a new kink a sub proposes. Study it. Ask other Alphas.

Everyone starts somewhere. You are given the power to govern a slave's body, mind, and wallet.

Wield that power responsibly, within the guidelines set for this community.

The only tribute allowed here are those sent with OwnedFags tips. No other tribute methods allowed. Period.


2. It takes longer than you realize.


For every useful sub, there are 20 timewasting pretenders.

For every lasting sub, it takes 20 who are fleetingly useful.

So if you're a math guy: that's roughly a 0.25% ownership rate on every sub interaction you have.

Lots of empty-handed, empty-headed strokers. The truly servile sluts are few & far between.


3. Don't do it for the money.


Ultimately, no one is here for the money (or shouldn't be). It's a fun byproduct of a kink: findom.

Findom is about power exchange through currency transfer. Much like bondage is through mobility transfer.

It's just another vector for a submissive to surrender to its Dominant, whether in session or lasting servitude.

If you need money, get a job or sell items. Desperate Alphas are always see-through, and fail. Just truth.


4. Build relationships with other Alphas.


Focus on the other Dominants here. Chat with them. Learn without being clingy about it.

Some, like myself, occasionally whore out their owned fags.

Especially at first, do not DM any slave here that has a lock; that is officially owned. Never.

If that slave reaches out, message the Alpha first.

Once you create a rapport with the Alpha, learn which owned sluts are allowed to & choose to chat, then do so.

Ultimately, conduct yourself so that you are earning the respect of your Alpha peers first and foremost. Always.


5. Find your style.


Emulation is natural. As with any craft, there will be those you look up to.

Take care not to let emulation become imitation. No one likes a copycat.

Find your original voice within the aspects of others you admire.

Ultimately, the most successful Alphas here are such because they are true to themselves.

For instance, I'm a soft-spoken Master. At times, I get harsh, but it's not My innate voice.

I know that, and I stick to it. Others do the opposite. It's about range & authenticity.


6. Build your brand.


A fair bit of domination is marketing. Content is king, engagement is queen, context is god.

Post as often as you can (without spamming). Find a cadence that works.

Few subs are attracted to empty profiles. Post pics. Make vids. Write blogs. Chat publicly.

Engage with others' posts and content, esp Alphas. Care about this community; not just yourself.


7. Set limits, and respect others’.


Not every sub will be a match with you. Maybe you hate piss play; piss pigs won't align with your style.

Maybe you want to solely focus on findom. Maybe findom is secondary to you.

Many subs focus on real-time meets, and even within that types of meets (eg dungeon play).

Be clear about your desires, your dislikes, and focus on those with whom your dynamic could line up.


8. Recognize the toll this takes.


Drop is real. The defeat, deflation, or other such blues felt in kink.

It can be sub drop following a heavy drain or kink session.

it can be Alpha drop after 15 timewasters exhaust you mentally.

Maybe your personal life is impacting your motivation to dominate, or create content.

Be mindful of the weight of your work here.

Yes, dominance is effortless.

But domination is hard work. And acknowledging that is crucial to lasting success.

Take days off. Communicate them to your slaves. The real ones will understand.

Likewise, sometimes subs need to step away. Not all Alphas accept that, but it is equally normal.


9. It isn't a competition.


It's easy to get caught up in the points. The Pantheon & slave market positions.

I've been guilty of it, as I'm sure many others are.

Domination (and submission) are about the intimacy & thrill of power exchange.

Owning a fag is about fulfilling Your Alpha desires together, through their sacrifice & your domination.

Each dynamic is unique. It's own singular bond. No two subs should compete, even serving the same Master.

And no two Masters should compete, because I'll never be Garboss, SkinbossDan, or Fidelio.

They have their styles, their successes, their subs. I have Mine. That's a great thing.

It's the range of kink, and domination.


10. Have fun with it.


I've learned so much about myself through domination.

How sadistic I can be. How compassionate I am.

If you aren't here to enjoy yourself, and create enjoyment for others (even with pain or struggle)

Then you're likely here for the wrong reasons.

Consider this an extensions of "don't do it for the money".


Cheers.

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