My secret? Well it's probably down to severely diminished sexual appetites and desires.
The pandemic turned out to be a watershed moment for me: before I used to have a healthy sex drive and life, but since then it just ebbed away.
In 2023 I probably only had 4 or 5 sexual encounters and I can't say I particularly enjoyed them either: it was more going through the motions to prove to myself that I could still do it.
Will things go back to how they were? I don't know and honestly I don't even know if I would like to.
Said that, I still enjoy spending time on here... There are some cracking guys, slaves and Masters, and I enjoy the banter... and I might still occasionally open my wallet! LOL
Here I go again ; one more way to serve ! I can’t help it ; my creative brain loves findom !
A nice, hot option & many serving opportunities to Submit & serve,
For subs :
The Reimbursementsoption is wonderful option of the site to Submit and serveAlpha men,
This means participating in a refund with the amount of your choice. For your own Master or any Sir you like & want to please. An advice tor owned subs; ask your Master first before making a reimbursement, Unless you were alreadt given permission to serve other Sirs,
I wouldn’t want you to end in the dungeon because of my serving ideas & games
For Sirs :
Please add your receipt & give subs the possibility to serve & reimburse your receipt.
Reimbursing completely or a part of the price & amount, subs choice, An additional way to serve
you and be a little in your life to take part of your needs or your wishes, Isn’t it therole of a slave?
A bit like buying from your wishlistsbutexcept it is you who decide what you buy and when.
If I may say Sirs : be e nice, add yourreceips & allow us the the hot fun and joy to take part on your those reimbursements opportunities, Thank you Sirs.
More tribute ideas & serving games on my other blogposts on my profile,
A summary of my findom s********n, proposals,games & habits :
_Monday =
tribute day ; Master decides what, how much & when. Unowned (no Master?) Ask a Sir you like what kind of tribute you may give him
_Tuesday= rest day ! 1 day in the week to recover a bit, keep findom fun & hot.
here is nothing more boring than doing the same thing every day!
_Wednesday= wishlist
wednesday : on most Sirs profile & ont the wishlist group
among the other groups
_Thursday= £10 thursday .
_Friday= fagtax
_Saturday= do your thing
_Sunday= reimbursement day
Just my own habits & ideas for those who like games & creative s********n,
Still & Always :
MOA Master (the site owner) will be given a tribute whenever MOA will be written on the chat.Unless the very few times I don't have tips no more.
See my previous blogpost about this game!
I would like to suggest all users who likes this site to participate on this findom game to help the owner of the site and its many costs. There's also a donations option
It's quite simple; I live my life for the benefit of others. In my family and social circle, I was always the one that would be on hand to patch things up, to make things right, and to restore the peace. Families and friendships have fuck ups, and me, being the sensible and emotionally grown up one, sorted it all out.
Then, just over seven years ago, when I was 36, my f****r died within a week of having a massive stroke. My families world, and mine, was blown apart. I hit rock bottom, and 6 months later, I was in therapy. I was suffering from PTSD and self-harming. Slowly, we healed, got through it, but I changed after that. I am not the person I was. Four years ago, one of my brothers died, acute a*****l poisoning. Once again, I was left supporting the family, this time more mindful of my needs, but still being the strong one. We waited over two years for an inquest - the longest of my life. After that inquest, I crashed, again, PTSD back, rock bottom. Slowly, with support of others, I got to who I am, and made a life changing decision.
I decided to ditch my career path as it was then, and retrain. I am working my way through my counselling degree, whilst also studying various courses to support that. My pledge and vow is that when qualified, I will donate 33% of my time to pro bono work, either agencies or private, in order to allow those in need to get help quickly. My main areas of work will be Men's Mental Health, Grief, and Sexual and Gender Identity.
I already volunteer and counsel for free, run support groups for men suffering from bereavement, and am an advocate for men's mental health. My desire is that the world is a beautiful place, and we are better off being in it that leaving it too soon. We are here to enjoy life, not to be burdened by our minds, to die slowly on the inside.
On top of that, I look after an infirm relative and work a day job. Some of you will have seen the crazy hours I do.
I am not here demanding your money - simply putting across that I give my time and effort to helping other's become the best they can, to live life. I work for them. Hard. Simply put, this is WHY I am worthy of your money - to get back from society, a society of those who recognise that they aren't deserving of what they have, and we, as a group of superiors, do. I deserve to have the income and comforts that I don't get because I work for the greater good of society.
Remember that, when you see I am online - I accept any tribute, big or small. Remember tho, I am NOT a push over, this doesn't make me soft. I am a dominant, hung, filthy, strong master, who has the ability to develop a deep psychological connection with you, to protect you, and to guide you in the journey.
Some may say I have divulged too much here - I believe in a two way, transparent street. My naturally dominant, superior nature, combined with my knowledge that I am deserving, has created what I am here, a CashMaster
10 Tips for subs New to OwnedFags
I recently wrote a similar piece for new Masters.
This one is specifically for submissives new to the site. Read up & enjoy.
Feel free to DM if anything below is unclear.
If you approach Me inquiring about this article, I won’t presume you want to serve Me.
Note: some Alphas will disagree. Ultimately, s********n is about serving your Alpha.
So do what they want first and foremost. This is simply a basic set of guidelines.
I’m well aware of the similarities to the Alpha version; it’s meant to be a converse piece.
1. Read the rules.
Read the website rules. Read about kink, about D/s ownership.
Read up on findom.
If your Alpha commands a kink or task you don’t know: ask about it. Learn about it.
Don’t play dumb. It’s see-through.
Everyone starts somewhere. You are born with the purpose to worship your Superiors.
Thrive in that purpose exuberantly, within the guidelines set for this community.
The only tribute allowed here are those sent with OwnedFags tips. No other tribute methods allowed. Period.
2. Do not waste time.
I almost put this first (but reading the rules is truly critical).
Simply put: don’t waste an Alpha’s time. Don’t waste anyone’s time.
Can Alphas be pushy or talkative too? Of course. That’s not an excuse.
It’s important to get to know each O/other. That’s not an excuse.
As a sub, the onus is on you to be useful and earn an Alpha’s presence. Always.
Send before speaking, even if only a beer (which represents 50 tips or £5).
If an Alpha reaches out, don’t drag on the conversation. Serve, or decline.
Here is a short list of common excuses that signal to an Alpha a sub is time wasting:
* Scared to serve because a past Alpha mistreated or manipulated them.
* Unsure how all this works, so needs you to explain every little spoon-fed detail.
* Leads the chat with their own desires, especially time-intensive ones like cam or real-time.
* Wishes they could serve, but has to ask their other Master offsite.
* Wants to get to know you, then after a short exchange, vanishes once time to serve.
* Would definitely tribute, except their jobless or a student, so don’t have the money.
Which leads quite naturally to:
3. Tribute. 99.9% of dynamics will require it.
There are Alphas who dominate without requiring tribute. It’s an extreme rarity.
More so, you should still be offering them gifts to show gratitude.
So tribute. Be useful. Be proactive.
Every day, your sacrifice restarts. There is no entitlement. There is no earned credit.
Be clear what you can afford. Then push yourself to the very edge of that limit, for Him.
Findom is about power exchange through currency transfer. Much like bondage is through mobility transfer.
It's just another vector for a submissive to surrender to its Dominant, whether in session or lasting servitude.
For almost every Alpha —especially this website’s community— it’s essential.
s********n is sacrifice. Sacrifice hurts. That’s the point. And it’s clearest with tribute.
4. Communicate.
If tribute is the heart of s********n, communication is the brain.
Have a request? Tell your Master.
Found a new limit? Tell Him.
Feeling regret, guilt, sadness, worry from sub drop? Share it.
Feeling horny, eager, masochistic, desperate? He will use it.
Not interested in an Alpha’s DM? Tell them by declining politely.
Do not ghost. Do not leave an Alpha on read. Be better.
Learn how your Alpha likes to be referred to. Use it.
Does He want certain words in ALL CAPS, or Capital Case, or $tylized perhaps?
Do the little things (on top of the fundementals).
I have yet to encounter an instance that cannot be solved with tribute and communication.
Sometimes only one is needed. Often some combination of the two.
5. Respect every Alpha. That doesn’t mean be boring.
D/s is a simple acronym to portray that every Dominant is above any given sub.
As such, owned, new, seasoned, cynical, or otherwise: respect every Alpha.
That means be courteous in chat. Reply in DMs.
A simple “Sorry [Sir/Boss/Master/God] but I am not interested. Have a good day.” goes a long way.
That doesn’t mean you always have to tiptoe around Alphas, or feel scared to engage.
Chat with Us. We may poke fun. We may taunt. That’s part of the D/s community.
It will teach you about the Alpha mind, and about yourself.
An Alpha is usually more generous with an amusing slave than a vapid cunt.
6. There are many types of subs. Know what you are.
There are owned subs who live to serve their one true Master.
There are owned sluts who are loyal to a Master, but serve many.
The Master knows this, and sometimes even encourages it.
There are community/session whores who serve freely, to all.
Some subs like the games here. Others enjoy camming. Some love tasks.
Some subs fuck their Alphas non-stop. Some live at the glory hole.
Others are straight & married to women. Others are asexual.
Subs clean apartments. Subs get filmed tied up in dungeons.
Kink is a massive spectrum. For every sub, exists an Alpha.
If you’re completely new to BDSM, take a kink quiz online.
Once you know what you want, and what you are:
7. Express your wants & limits clearly.
Lasting s********n begins with finding the right fit.
Many Alphas reach out to new slaves.
Verify your account.
Complete your profile.
If you just took the aforementioned quiz, post the results to your profile.
Add as much *concise* detail as possible. No one wants to read a brick of text.
Be clear about the type of Alpha or dynamic you enjoy.
Be clear about any limits, experience, and considerations you have.
If you’re stuck, go to the Slave Market and observe the top slaves’ profiles.
Do not copy them.
Use them as a reference to construct your own original thoughts.
8. You will fail. Learn from it.
I’ve seen spectacular fuckups from subs.
And smaller day-to-day mistakes.
This might be an innocent hiccough, or a willful blunder.
Either way. To revisit #2, the best apology is said with tribute.
Then own your failure, and explain to your Alpha you know what went wrong.
Moreover, explain how you will improve, and grow.
Then commit to that growth, and do not repeat your mistake.
9. Building dynamics takes time.
For every Alpha you crave, there will be others that demand your servitude.
For every Alpha you serve, there will be others you crave.
For the Alpha who owns you, you may want to also serve others.
I cannot speak to numbers here.
I’ve never discussed this with My subs to know how many Alphas reach out.
It’s a part of being a useful sub. It’s appealing to other Alphas to see a slave serve its Master.
So, be useful, and be prepared for it to be noticed.
10. It isn't a competition.
It's easy to get caught up in the points. The Pantheon & slave market positions.
I've been guilty of it as an Alpha, as I'm sure many others are on both sides.
s********n (and domination) is about the intimacy & thrill of power exchange.
Finding the right Alpha for you isn’t just about W/who’s on top (pun intended).
Is success attractive? Obviously. Does it signal a certain experience? Generally.
Are those in the Pantheon top 25 on here regularly, and actively? Almost always.
Use points as a general indicator, not as an ultimate measure.
I know lasting ownerships for Dominants who aren’t “famous” here.
And I know subs who serve sublimely but aren’t top of the slave market.
As much in finding your Alpha(s) as in measuring your own success serving them.
If your Master is pleased, you will know.
If your Master is displeased, you will definitely know.
Celebrate other subs’ serving Him well. That’s the point. Don’t be jealous.
Those are your beta brothers, serving your Alpha: his desires fulfilled.
That’s all that matters.
Obvious bonus: The reality is unique to you and your Alpha (and have fun).
This article is a general guideline: you should serve, obey, and listen to your Master(s).
As I’ve said: kink is vast. The same goes for ownership, session play, and everything in-between.
If you aren’t happy, tell your Alpha. If he is unhappy, do all you can to learn why (if unclear).
Then fix it. If it doesn’t work, He can remove you from His stable, or you can leave yourself.
Don’t delete your account. This place isn’t nearly as scary as it seems. It’s a beautiful community.
Stick around, and remember:
s********n is between you and Him. Everything else here is secondary.
This isn’t a place for friction or frustration. It’s about pleasure.
Finding pleasure in pleasing your Master.
Cheers.
Hi everyone,
As mentioned before (https://www.ownedfags.com/blogs/1575) there are going to be a few rather large updates to the site over the next few months, this blog will detail when you can expect them to happen.
1st April - Removal of explicit content
No this isn't an April fools.
As stated in a previous blog we will be moving away from having explicit content on the site.
I would ask all users to please go through their images and videos and to delete any sexually explicit material before this date and change profile pictures/cover photos if needed. If you don't want to go through your own content that's fine, explicit content will automatically be removed on this date anyway.
From this date no explicit content can be uploaded to the site, unless it is via DM.
Users will also not have to submit ID documents to upload content, only to withdraw Tips.
April - New card processor/word filter changes
From early to the mid-April, I expect to launch the new card payment system with REVOLUT.
This will mean cheaper card processing fees for the site, as a result the withdraw fee for Dom’s will be lowered.
We will also be able to remove most words from the word filter, however mentioning other payment systems will still not be allowed.
We have a Tip system here to protect both Dom’s and Sub’s, if you want to discuss anything else then please take the conversation off site where you acknowledge the risks.
May – Site name change and re-brand
The rebranding of the site is expected to be around May time. The new name will be announced sometime before this, however expect the new logo and website URL to go live around this time.
Thank you,
MoA
I truly enjoy providing satisfaction to others. So throughout the years, I found myself looking at Dom/sub kinks. From bondage to hypn o, pup play to h*********n – it was a heck of an anonymous, virtual ride. But as fun as they could be something was missing. It was all still abstract, irreverent, and transient by nature. I craved something more real. I didn’t know anyone else that was into these things, especially as I was brought up in a conservative community, so I was left to my own devices to delve deeper.
After years of exploring, trying different kinks and interests, I discovered Findom – it was a kink that I never even considered previously. Upon coming across some random videos on Pornhub of an unnamed Master, I found the thrill of giving up such control beyond the standard BDSM cliches exciting, adventurous and, most of all, hot. It was a fetish I felt a sudden magnetism to and in turn was obliged to investigate.
sub-story (pun intended) – Surprisingly, or not, I actually enjoyed being picked on by the hot guys in school when I was younger (although at the time I was confused as to why I enjoyed it so much). From superglue pranks and classroom teasing to taking my money in the playground. The range of tricks they pulled was pretty big. Albeit I hated and despised the verbal a***e and homophobic comments, the pranks and money grabbing parts were actually fun for me. I just never told them.
Unsure where to begin, I fell upon a different subscription site and signed up to a few different Alphas to get a vibe of who would suit and what works best. It was a BIG learning curve and I began to grasp very quickly as to what my limits were and what I hoped to get out of being a good sub. But most of all, how much I truly wanted to serve a Master who honoured consent, communication whilst being embroiled in the fun, yet encouraging me to cater to his every whim.
Not too long after I joined that site, I found a Dom who I felt I could serve truly. I think what drew me to him was that he was keen to build a long term connection with his subs rather than wanting to use someone in an unsustainable way...and then ghost. Yet taking my money at will (in a manageable fashion) and humiliating me through out-of-the-box challenges was his game. And I love games. I love silly. This Alpha offered all of that. He directed me to OwnedFags and I haven’t looked back. He created a mutually beneficial Master/slave relationship; I gave him the control, he gave me the pleasure of appeasing him. It is the most satisfying thing to indulge in and a true thrill to allow Findom (among other kinks) to envelop me whilst I embrace being a slave, and attempting to be a good one at that, with every ounce of my being.
Every kink is to be celebrated, not judged. Every Master/slave connection is unique and not to be boxed. There shouldn't be one rule that fits all as long as the terms work for all parties. Embrace the community, rather than a***e it. The LGBT community have spent centuries being boxed into societal constructs, resulting in judgement and persecution. We can finally see the light and do as we please (for the most part).
Do not be a dick who pushes us back into the dark ages.
At the behest of our most dear MOA, a fictional short (given my non-fiction at best gets mixed reviews)...
Some stories begin about a quiet girl, moving to a small rainy town. Vampires hide in plain sight. Tribal werewolves are stolid custodians of the land for generations long since passed. Love and lust fuel conflict and calamity, where the only thing more powerful than fleeting life is love's immortality. This is not that shitty story. No, this tells a far more gripping tale... one of obedience, of struggle, and of two owned fags quarrelling on command.
It all begin in the dead of the night. A man, some say more than that, had been out at the pub. It'd been a long day in a longer year, and the evening's end whispered. Though he spends his day working, he couldn't help but drift back to it for a quick chat. Sure enough, some light banter was afoot. A sissy and a tame fag were exchanging pleasantries. The banality of it all simply did not suit the Supreme. He stepped in swiftly, "Sos. Subcorey. The two of you will duel. I want to know whom among these lowly bottoms would be the top. Amuse the Master of all." The soft music that wandered through the café's dim lit air stumbled to a halt as the vinyl's needle fell out of the groove. The barback, a long-time member of the café by the name coloslutty, stopped breathless as he wiped the countertops.
MOA's voice boomed, "All the tables to the wall. I want a space in the middle. Time for some fun..."
The two slaves knew what was to come next. Sheepishly, they stripped down to the nude. The café snickered with laughter in anticipation. In the corner, stood a brooding figure, chomping a thick, long, dark cigar. Clad in leather, only two steely eyes cut their way across the room. He gave MOA a nod. No more was needed. In the other corner, a headless figure sat, with his pen floating across the page. He seemed to be noting the events at hand. He too gave MOA that same knowing nod.
Permissions set. There would... a tussle. The naked fags stood just a few paces apart. The café tense with eager excitement.
Seconds of silence felt like hours. An entire room of baited breaths... and then, "Begin!" MOA sternly shouted.
With a feral pounce, sissy lunged beneath corey's lumbering arm, to quickly take his back. Regardless of being lowly slaves, watching two men wiggle and writhe in struggle had the whole room in heat... whispers of approval quickly turned to bellowing cheers, save the two respective owners who watched on in silence. The sissy clung the corey's buxom chest, but the Canadian faggot used every ounce of his heft to shake off the dainty damsel. Losing no time, the slut leapt back at corey, wrestling face to face, their lips just inches apart. Seeming half dance, half distress both fags' little cocks quickly began to twitch. Despite the hunger to win, it was obvious everyone in the room was savouring the ecstasy at play. With a burly toss, corey picked up the sissy and tossed her to the floor, landing on top of her. That heavy stomach pressed down on her delicate frame, but her lithe limbs kept his control at bay. Mounted, the little whore seemed almost wanting the thick fag to press down upon her, but she knew she needed to win for her Master. A quick twist of corey's dicklet, and he squealed in agony... quickly MOA stated, "I'll allow it."
With corey's tiny cock in the slut's hand, she knew that leverage would be her only way to victory. A barreling leg struck away the sissy's grasp, and corey crawled back up to his knees. Sweat began to sprinkle the floor. Two alabaster bodies glistening as the sheer endurance of tussling began to set in... Sheepishly, the sissy ambled forward toward corey gasping for air. In reply, corey hardly managed to defend her assault. The only body parts clearly still at the ready were their puny cocklets, now leaking precum across the café floor mixing in with the many droplets of sweat...
Through the crowd, came a mountain of a man. Strangely, he was naked wearing only a pendant on a string. A piercing sapphire amulet with cyan and white rings.
MOA ceased the fighting, "Stop. Chub stands before us. Chub... say what you must."
The towering titan spoke, "Why not bumper cars instead?"
And then they played bumper cars and neither won. The end.
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