It's often the case, those who are naïve about how and why communities like ours, often use terminology that to them is inflammatory or has negative connotations in everyday society.

Any gay man who may have been bullied to a lesser or greater degree at school will tell you the term "faggot" is used in schools, and will have been called that now and then in the past - regardless if they were "out" at school or not,.

It often gets used to demean anyone who "doesn't fit-in" so viewed by the majority as weaker, geeky, nerdy, gimpish, or just inferior in that context.

But what about this context? (of a findom community)

The first group of people who question the use of "Fagot" (for obvious reasons) tend to be gay men. Society has come a long way, but some words are still used in a way that is upsetting for the people who are the targets. It is understandable many terms are going to get people's backs up, but with change comes evolution and progress.

I have always used the term "Queer" to describe myself, it also means unusual, quirky, singular or different. It is an adjective, not historically a noun. That's a choice others have criticised, as it's been used to insult them in their own lives, and I respect that. 

As a gay man myself, openly gay and not ashamed of it to say it .and stand by my choice to use it in my own interpretation of the term, and aim to educate others about it's re-appropriation..  

I've had fights over my sexual identity and others have died in our names to defend our entire existence, sadly many still do.

Back to education... it needs to be written down somewhere- because at some point we'll need to explain the circumstances of this social metamorphism of word-play and linguistic repurposing, From detriment to empowerment.


So, on Faggot!...

"Faggot" is a term (Similar to "Queer", "Dyke" or "Nigger") once used by those who hated us to denigrate us all, reclaimed by some within the LGBT community as a term self-defining submissive use to identify as.

Fags and Faggots of the world, we salute you!