I truly enjoy providing satisfaction to others. So throughout the years, I found myself looking at Dom/sub kinks. From bondage to hypn o, pup play to h*********n  – it was a heck of an anonymous, virtual ride. But as fun as they could be  something was missing. It was all still abstract, irreverent, and transient by nature. I craved something more real. I didn’t know anyone else that was into these things, especially as I was brought up in a conservative community, so I was left to my own devices to delve deeper.

After years of exploring, trying different kinks and interests, I discovered Findom – it was a kink that I never even considered previously. Upon coming across some random videos on Pornhub of an unnamed Master, I found the thrill of giving up such control beyond the standard BDSM cliches exciting, adventurous and, most of all, hot. It was a fetish I felt a sudden magnetism to and in turn was obliged to investigate. 

sub-story (pun intended) – Surprisingly, or not, I actually enjoyed being picked on by the hot guys in school when I was younger (although at the time I was confused as to why I enjoyed it so much). From superglue pranks and classroom teasing to taking my money in the playground. The range of tricks they pulled was pretty big. Albeit I hated and despised the verbal a***e and homophobic comments, the pranks and money grabbing parts were actually fun for me. I just never told them.

Unsure where to begin, I fell upon a different subscription site and signed up to a few different Alphas to get a vibe of who would suit and what works best. It was a BIG learning curve and I began to grasp very quickly as to what my limits were and what I hoped to get out of being a good sub. But most of all, how much I truly wanted to serve a Master who honoured consent, communication whilst being embroiled in the fun, yet encouraging me to cater to his every whim. 

Not too long after I joined that site, I found a Dom who I felt I could serve truly. I think what drew me to him was that he was keen to build a long term connection with his subs rather than wanting to use someone in an unsustainable way...and then ghost. Yet taking my money at will (in a manageable fashion) and humiliating me through out-of-the-box challenges was his game. And I love games. I love silly. This Alpha offered all of that. He directed me to OwnedFags and I haven’t looked back. He created a mutually beneficial Master/slave relationship; I gave him the control, he gave me the pleasure of appeasing him. It is the most satisfying thing to indulge in and a true thrill to allow Findom (among other kinks) to envelop me whilst I embrace being a slave, and attempting to be a good one at that, with every ounce of my being. 

Every kink is to be celebrated, not judged. Every Master/slave connection is unique and not to be boxed. There shouldn't be one rule that fits all as long as the terms work for all parties. Embrace the community, rather than a***e it. The LGBT community have spent centuries being boxed into societal constructs, resulting in judgement and persecution. We can finally see the light and do as we please (for the most part).

Do not be a dick who pushes us back into the dark ages.