I really didn’t want to write this, but I need to get something off my chest, and be warned, I am not going to sugar coat anything and I will tell it how it is.

Next year it will be 10 years since I set up Owned Fags.

I built this place from the ground up, on my own and to a lot of negativity and a***e from other sites and people that were around at the time thinking that they ‘owned’ the findom scene.

It took me a lot of work to get the site to where it is now, and I have spent thousands of my own money and fuck knows how much time and stress making sure that this place was a success and continues to be. Thankfully now the site pays for itself and all I need to do is keep building and innovating.

I literally never get away from this site, if I am not sat at my desk working on it then I’m looking at it on my phone while I’m out, answering emails on the go etc. I go to bed thinking to myself ‘will I wake up to any drama’, I have to plan my holidays and breaks around pay-out dates etc, it’s a lot for one person to handle.

That is why I have some mods and they help with the day-to-day tasks of moderating content which really would be a full-time job on its own if I didn’t have them, so let me please thank the mods for the great job they do because without them I really couldn’t cope.

Now, the problem I have is users that join and think they can say and do whatever the fuck they want. I’m sorry but no you can’t and no it does not suppress your ‘free speech’, you do not have free speech on a private platform. If you want to invoke your right to free speech go shout outside.

Like I said before I have invested an awful lot into this site, still do, and it is a huge part of my life. Imagine if you had to constantly read others trash talking your hard work, yourself, or other people, it would be absolutely exhausting and it would start to take a toll on you.

If you’re on a site like Facebook or Twitter, heck even Owned Fags, you can simply block someone and move on – I do not have that luxury. If someone is constantly bringing a negative vibe to my day, then I see that and I can’t escape it. So, yes, I will remove people that fuck me off and I am not sorry for that.

Think to yourself what it would be like if every day you went into work dreading how it was going to be because of a few people. You’d probably try to look for another job or move teams, right? Again, I don’t have that luxury.

Owned is only a small site with less than 4 thousand members, a small number of people can make a big difference, and if it’s a negative one then sorry you’ll be gone. I don’t care if you feel it’s unfair, that’s how it is. I am not going to spend my time having lies spread about me or having me and my site trash talked.

If we were as big as Twitter and I wasn’t the only one running the place and having to see it all the time then I probably wouldn’t take it as personally, but that’s not the case. We are a small site with a big focus on community, and if you’re acting in a way that damages that vibe then you’ll be told to go.

I’m 36 now, my tolerance for bullshit and petty games is very low, so if you’re not enjoying the site then just fucking leave, it will absolutely continue on without you. I used to be very tolerant and put up with more than I should, but that time has ended.

Now I’ve had my rant, enjoy the rest of your day 😁