One way to think about a findom relationship is like a game of blackjack. Each hit in blackjack deals an extra card and increases the player’s score. Each tribute in findom benefits the Master financially and enhances the power dynamic between both Master and sub. In both cases higher is better, but only up to a point. Subs can “bust” too and one aim is to get as close to “21” as possible, without going too far.
Though unlike in blackjack where the target is fixed and obvious, every sub’s “21” is different and dependent on circumstances. If today is payday, then my “21” will be higher. If my car exploded yesterday, then it will be a lot lower. If a Master successfully gets into my head, then he can push it higher. Figuring out the right level requires communication, honesty, trust and intuition on both sides.
Getting it wrong can lead to the quitting and relapsing cycle, and this is definitely a problem that I’ve faced a few times in the past before joining this site. Getting caught up in a hot cashdrain and not realising until I’ve sobered up afterwards that I’ve gone too far. It was absolutely my fault, I don’t blame the Masters, but I do think that the best Masters should try to get to know their sub’s situation as best as they can and try to avoid this.
Boss SimX is absolutely fantastic at figuring out where my “21” is, and guiding me to push it higher while not letting me “bust”. I feel completely safe under his control, and he is inspiring me to serve consistently and sustainably and to be a reliable asset for him long-term. Thank you for always having an Ace and Jack in your hand, Boss.
For as long as I can remember, I’ve always felt an innate need to serve. Findom, for me, is not an addiction or something to be ashamed of, but a part of my personality. It hasn’t always felt like that but I’m starting to learn, with SimX’s help, that this is who I am.
The best thing I can do is to direct my service towards an Alpha who truly deserves it. I’ve been a bit slutty for the last few months, and while I served some great Doms in that time, there were none that I wanted to develop a findom relationship with. Until I met SimX.
Almost immediately, I knew he was different. I appreciate his focus on tasks, service and sacrifice rather than purely being focussed on financial gain. I most definitely am a wallet for his use, but also way more than that too. He always has many different ways for me to be useful which, given my need to serve, greatly enriches us both.
He also understands the Dom and sub role to a far greater extent than anyone else I’ve ever spoke to about it. I’ve learnt so much about myself, and continue to learn every day. And SimX has very generously shared details and insights about himself to me too.
No matter how much I serve him, send him, sacrifice for him and work for him, SimX will always be giving me considerably more in return. A few quid for my entire identity. Thank you, Boss, for the opportunity to serve in your stable. It is still very early days, but I look forward to discovering what the future holds together.
Owned Fags is a male only site which deals with adult themes
You should only view this site if you are over the age of 18, male and are not easily offended.
