Chapter 1: The Encounter
Darius stood at the edge of the crowded ballroom, sipping his champagne as he observed the swirl of activity around him. As a rising star in the corporate world, he was accustomed to these events, but tonight felt different. There was an energy in the air, a subtle tension that prickled his senses.
His eyes scanned the room, pausing on a man across the way. Tall and imposing, he commanded attention without effort. His dark hair was impeccably styled, his tailored suit exuding confidence and power. Intrigued, Darius couldn't tear his gaze away.
Their eyes met, and a jolt of electricity shot through him. He felt an unexpected flutter in his chest, a sensation he hadn't experienced in years. It was as if he could see right through him, stripping away the layers to reveal his deepest desires.
Embarrassed by his own reaction, Darius quickly averted his gaze, focusing on the elegant chandeliers overhead. But the memory of those piercing eyes lingered, igniting a spark of curiosity within him.
Lost in his thoughts, he didn't notice when he approached until his voice cut through the hum of conversation like a knife.
"May I join you?"
Startled, Darius turned to find the mysterious stranger standing before him, his gaze intense yet inviting. He hesitated for a moment before nodding, unable to resist the pull of his magnetic presence.
As they exchanged pleasantries, he learned his name was Nathan. His confidence was palpable, his words measured yet captivating. Darius found himself drawn to him, unable to shake the feeling that their encounter was more than mere chance.
As the evening wore on, they continued to converse, their connection deepening with each passing moment. Nathan's charisma was intoxicating, his touch sending shivers down Dariusās spine.
Before he knew it, the night had slipped away, leaving Darius breathless and exhilarated. As he bid Nathan farewell, he couldn't shake the feeling that his life was about to change in ways he never imagined.
Little did he know, this encounter was only the beginning of a journey that would push him to the very limits of desire and obedience.
The 3 Cās
Those that follow me on Twitter may have seen or heard me speak of this before, on posts and in Spaces, but I thought it should be something I could elaborate on here on OF. It is a set of standards/rules/model I go by when looking at what makes a good FinDom relationship, although this can very much apply to a majority of D/s relationships.
3 things I look for and stand by personally, when looking for a good, long lasting sub.
Now obviously there is things that sit outside of this but for me these are 3 main, ideal, must haves I want so I'll jump straight in.
Connection
Most certainly the most important of all in my opinion. Is there that āsparkā? Do Dom and sub have same end goal? Do I enjoy using, draining, humiliating, bullying, nurturing this sub, and is that reciprocated.
This cannot be worked on, it's there or its not. You know if you just click with someone, I feel having this goes a long way. It helps define, what limits could be there, what can be achieved, how comfortable each is, can there be relationship out side of D/s (if either want that), what trust is in play, can sub truly give themselves or do they have to hold back. Connection covers so much, and either you've got it, or you haven't. Without this, really, the others will fall out.
One of the main reasons likely to see a D/s relationship fall apart and even just a normal romantic oneā¦. You just didn't get one another.
Communication
This one speaks for itself, communication, we'd be nowhere in the world without it. Humans instinct is to communicate, regardless of what form that takes. Clear, concise and fluid communication will always lead to a better relationship. The opportunity for the sub to understand how the Master likes to be served, what they enjoy, what they don't like, what they want from service. And this also goes the other way too, 90% of the time, for a majority of subs I've dealt with. Both parties are here for something/s and without discussion, the real reason would be hard to understand. It can aid, greatly, in building upon that first C, connection, and consistency is key here. Way too often I've spoke to subs where great service has broken down, as one party, doesn't commit enough to this. Keeping things fresh, evolving, in line with boths wants and needs (as I fully agree it is a two way street, that obviously the Dom will command that street, but nonetheless, still two way)
Without communication, and honesty in your communication, alongside consistent communication, things quickly break down.
Control
Now this is something dear to me, and of course, means different things to us all, and it is where these 3 Cās hone themselves in to being specific around D/s / FinDom instead of a conventional relationship.
Having the right kind and right level of control. Subs expectations of this differ greatly (from my experience) and it is, and always should be, the Doms duty to control this. Whatever form it takes, weather it might be Finance/Bills, the clothes a subs wear, it's schedule, what it sends or when, all the way to the extreams of how it looks, what it eats or who it sees, there are so many levels to it and it's is a crucial 3rd C.
I fucking love controlling, it feeds my sadism, is shows my power, is let's me be the Dom I enjoy being. And it paves the way for the dynamic of my D/s relationships. It takes time and commitment from both sides but with the right effort, the initial and continual connection, partnered with that all important communication, the sky's the limits.
So what now?
Be open and honest about what you might or might not like to do or try. Keep it fresh. Work on it. Trust is a huge factor, and that doesn't come over night.
So, there they are, Major Masters 3 Cās
Connection, Communication, Control.
Iād love to hear others input and if they have similar things they look for or do to enjoy both Dom and sub are in a thriving place to continue with the kink they love!
MM
Rules of play:
Tribute upon arrival
Sub must be caged and willing
Obey my commands
I am happy to explore fetishes with you after a conversation about what you are wanting to explore. Hotel meets are good, can travel and host sometimes depending on the notice of arranged meet.
I was born to make you feel small and insignificant- you will honor and obey all my commands. You were born to serve
You are weak- you will always be so. You deserve nothing- you are a slave. You need not telling for you already know this.
You dream of being crushed- you yearn to be a manās toilet- you are weak
You mouth is for cleaning, your body is for destruction- you have no power- you have no control.
You chase us- but we pity you- you are worthless
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I knew he was gay. Weād known each other for ever, he was a good dude, one of the gang. He wasnāt a follower, but he was a follower of me. We were little and people referred to him as my shadow. I remember we went to a friends birthday party and he went to the buffet for me. Filled it with sausage rolls and crisps and egg sarnies and Mr Kipling lemon slices. One of the girls called him my servant and he positively beamed. We were doing romans at school and he said: āHe is my general, Iām his cup bearerā.
Later, when we went drinking and partying, heād buy my drinks, heād buy drinks for the girls I was chasing too and even at one point, one of them referred to him as my little bitch. Being my mate, I told her to fuck off, not to speak to him like that and well, it ALL kicked off.
Next day, hungover and eating toast in his mums kitchen, black eyes and cut lips all round, heād recounted the story to his mum, gone to the toilet and sheād told me to be gentle with him because I was his first love.
Being in a reflective mood this morning, sitting in Costa, I think back. Iāve always been, assertive. Remembered. For example, here, in this busy coffee shop, my morning order is always just, there and my different afternoon order is always remembered. Itās always ready even when I patiently wait behind the other customers. Jo remembers. I remember calling him a good boy once and thought he would cry with joy.
I hate people self titling themselves as āAlpha or Masterā. These titles should always be given by others. Anyone referring to themselves as these things need to self validate. Maybe some will comment as such on this blog. Who knows. Make your own decisions.
Now knowing my friend for all these years, maybe he was in love, maybe he was infatuated, but I think it was more than that. Even as boys, he just wanted to serve me. It was his thing. And guess what. Itās perfectly fine because I loved and supported him and still do. If he wants to serve. Then Iāll let him. Thatās what makes him happy.
We finally got a house. A little gang of us living in this š©ty house. It was great. Girls, Partyās and more. But still, heād bring me tea. He even did my washing. TO BE CLEAR. I never once asked him to.
Years later, he got married and I was sitting at a table with a bunch of his new husbands friends. One of them, a giant bear found out who I was and said: ā YOU ARE THE MASTERā.
It turns out, My friend had spoken about me to his now husband and he in turn had shared worries about me to these very friends. Putting me on this pedestal, this watch list, on this table so his friends could scare me away. Over a few bottles of red, my new bear of a friend told me all about this dynamic, this way of relating, this master/sub slave fag thing. It was eye opening, a little scary but actually, made so much sense. SO MUCH SENSE.
So now, here we are. My friend is still my friend. I donāt let him serve me as now, I know itās servitude and I just want to be friends with him. He is one of the best. His husband has less fear/concern over me but to be honest, this guy is more of a fag than my bud has ever been!
Life is an adventure, an adventure we share with so many. Why am I here?
To learn, to grow as a human. Understanding each other is the first step to inner peace. Iām a successful straight happy chap. Iām not at the bottom of the food chain. Iām not here to add to your feelings of inferiority or fuel the fires of your low self worth. If you, like my friend, are a serving kind of chap. Looking for a new āhead of the queueā, say hello. You can buy me some adblue for the Mercedes and Iāll help with that need to pay, to serve.
This was my beginning.
Feel free to connect and share yours.
So far for my new year's resolutions:
ā diet changes
ā gym routine
ā chastity, although self locked
š” serving and servicing (x2, thanks gym membership) and definitely need more
š” bondage, but always need more of that too
ā travel
I feel like I'm doing pretty well so far in general, but could work harder...
My secret? Well it's probably down to severely diminished sexual appetites and desires.
The pandemic turned out to be a watershed moment for me: before I used to have a healthy sex drive and life, but since then it just ebbed away.
In 2023 I probably only had 4 or 5 sexual encounters and I can't say I particularly enjoyed them either: it was more going through the motions to prove to myself that I could still do it.
Will things go back to how they were? I don't know and honestly I don't even know if I would like to.
Said that, I still enjoy spending time on here... There are some cracking guys, slaves and Masters, and I enjoy the banter... and I might still occasionally open my wallet! LOL
* finally make the diet changes I need and get in the gym more often to be a healther, fitter sub
* more time spent in chastity, ideally most of the year* spend more time serving or servicing, letting the submissive need take over
* a lot more bondage, combined with other things on this list
* travel more - either for tourism or for meet ups/play
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