We've all heard the saying 'What doesn't k**l you makes you stronger."

The words even form part of a very popular song released in 2012.

But why is it when someone we know is going through a rough time we seem to instinctively fall back on this 19th Century German saying?

The Original “Aus der Kriegsschule des Lebens. Was mich nicht umbringt, mach mich stärker”

(Out of the School of War of Life, What does not k**l me, makes me stronger)

While being a positive affirmation that many need to tell themselves from time to time. When going through that rough patch, when its all they hear from everyone around them it becomes increasingly annoying to the point friendships fall apart which just prolongs the agony

In Findom from time to time it becomes easy to forget that real people exist behind the online persona's and each have things affecting us daily. Some are so big they make international news, others slightly smaller and on a local level.

But for most of us we do not let on we are going through problems, either because we're struggling to come to terms with the issue and what it means or we just feel so overwhelmed by it we don't know who to turn to or even how to begin to seek support, often defaulting to that fake everything's fine smile and standard reply to avoid hearing a clichéd response.

Sometimes the best thing to do is be the supportive influence a person needs, and listen to what they say, don't fall back on clichés to fill a silence just remind them you're their for them and find other-ways to distract them from the problem so they can relax and eventually open up about it.

Once you let an issue stop eating you from inside only then can you and those closest to you help deal with it