That 'swing' you mention is, I think, perfectly healthy. Not wishing to serve, not feeling that 'need' to please, it's very human. I've taken periods of time out from the world of findom and BDSM, sometimes for years at a time. It was much needed, and now, being here, there are days and weeks when no amount of leather, boots, biceps or feet will rock my boat.That 'swing' you mention is, I think, perfectly healthy. Not wishing to serve, not feeling that 'need' to please, it's very human. I've taken periods of time out from the world of findom and BDSM, som...See more

I don’t “struggle” but I do bore of it from time to time. I swing in and out, but not because I don’t want to do it, but because sometimes it does nothing for me.