My blogs are typically about s********n. How to serve better etc.
This one is specifically for Masters new to the site. Read up & enjoy.
Feel free to DM if anything below is unclear.
1. Read the rules.
Read the website rules. Read about kink, about D/s ownership.
Read up on findom.
If you're going to try a new kink a sub proposes. Study it. Ask other Alphas.
Everyone starts somewhere. You are given the power to govern a slave's body, mind, and wallet.
Wield that power responsibly, within the guidelines set for this community.
The only tribute allowed here are those sent with OwnedFags tips. No other tribute methods allowed. Period.
2. It takes longer than you realize.
For every useful sub, there are 20 timewasting pretenders.
For every lasting sub, it takes 20 who are fleetingly useful.
So if you're a math guy: that's roughly a 0.25% ownership rate on every sub interaction you have.
Lots of empty-handed, empty-headed strokers. The truly servile sluts are few & far between.
3. Don't do it for the money.
Ultimately, no one is here for the money (or shouldn't be). It's a fun byproduct of a kink: findom.
Findom is about power exchange through currency transfer. Much like bondage is through mobility transfer.
It's just another vector for a submissive to surrender to its Dominant, whether in session or lasting servitude.
If you need money, get a job or sell items. Desperate Alphas are always see-through, and fail. Just truth.
4. Build relationships with other Alphas.
Focus on the other Dominants here. Chat with them. Learn without being clingy about it.
Some, like myself, occasionally whore out their owned fags.
Especially at first, do not DM any slave here that has a lock; that is officially owned. Never.
If that slave reaches out, message the Alpha first.
Once you create a rapport with the Alpha, learn which owned sluts are allowed to & choose to chat, then do so.
Ultimately, conduct yourself so that you are earning the respect of your Alpha peers first and foremost. Always.
5. Find your style.
Emulation is natural. As with any craft, there will be those you look up to.
Take care not to let emulation become imitation. No one likes a copycat.
Find your original voice within the aspects of others you admire.
Ultimately, the most successful Alphas here are such because they are true to themselves.
For instance, I'm a soft-spoken Master. At times, I get harsh, but it's not My innate voice.
I know that, and I stick to it. Others do the opposite. It's about range & authenticity.
6. Build your brand.
A fair bit of domination is marketing. Content is king, engagement is queen, context is god.
Post as often as you can (without spamming). Find a cadence that works.
Few subs are attracted to empty profiles. Post pics. Make vids. Write blogs. Chat publicly.
Engage with others' posts and content, esp Alphas. Care about this community; not just yourself.
7. Set limits, and respect others’.
Not every sub will be a match with you. Maybe you hate piss play; piss pigs won't align with your style.
Maybe you want to solely focus on findom. Maybe findom is secondary to you.
Many subs focus on real-time meets, and even within that types of meets (eg dungeon play).
Be clear about your desires, your dislikes, and focus on those with whom your dynamic could line up.
8. Recognize the toll this takes.
Drop is real. The defeat, deflation, or other such blues felt in kink.
It can be sub drop following a heavy drain or kink session.
it can be Alpha drop after 15 timewasters exhaust you mentally.
Maybe your personal life is impacting your motivation to dominate, or create content.
Be mindful of the weight of your work here.
Yes, dominance is effortless.
But domination is hard work. And acknowledging that is crucial to lasting success.
Take days off. Communicate them to your slaves. The real ones will understand.
Likewise, sometimes subs need to step away. Not all Alphas accept that, but it is equally normal.
9. It isn't a competition.
It's easy to get caught up in the points. The Pantheon & slave market positions.
I've been guilty of it, as I'm sure many others are.
Domination (and s********n) are about the intimacy & thrill of power exchange.
Owning a fag is about fulfilling Your Alpha desires together, through their sacrifice & your domination.
Each dynamic is unique. It's own singular bond. No two subs should compete, even serving the same Master.
And no two Masters should compete, because I'll never be Garboss, SkinbossDan, or Fidelio.
They have their styles, their successes, their subs. I have Mine. That's a great thing.
It's the range of kink, and domination.
10. Have fun with it.
I've learned so much about myself through domination.
How sadistic I can be. How compassionate I am.
If you aren't here to enjoy yourself, and create enjoyment for others (even with pain or struggle)
Then you're likely here for the wrong reasons.
Consider this an extensions of "don't do it for the money".
Cheers.
I round the corner... and it's frozen. Locking eyes, overcome by the sheer presence. Their mind melts into Me. Then and there, innately: s********n. Nothing more than a gaze. Overwhelmed by the moment, silent steps take us to a nearby ATM. Only the wind's whistle cuts the quiet, until buttons begin to click. The machine’s wheels sputter hundreds from a slot into kneeling hands... then into Mine. A knowing grin glows against a newly-lit cigar as I feel the grip of domination take hold. Counting out as it's handed to Me, a thick and burning ash builds. Smoke billows around us as the machine slows. Silence once more. Submissive lips kiss each leather boot as a pitiful tongue cleans them carefully in desperate gratitude. Through the toe caps, I can feel the trembling in each lick. Stolid, I tower over My new property. It’s all so easy. Effortless. And as I ash into a begging gaping mouth, I turn to go with thousands anew. In the distance, the faintest whimpering... “Thank you, Master.”
Just as every Alpha deserves.
Bring it to life, betas.
First, let's define them:
s********n: the action or fact of accepting or yielding to a Superior F*rce or to the will or authority of Another.
Servitude: the state of being a slave or completely subject to Someone more powerful.
Now, there are plenty of kink spaces. In them, you can explore deviant bottom acts, without serving submissively.
If you are here, you are here to serve. Look at the website name. Read its description.
This is about pleasing Alpha Masters.
When you act entitled, whine, complain, lie, run, and cheat: you are not submissive.
Nor are you servile. No, you're just vile.
Submissive servitude is very simple, but it is not easy. Simple and easy are not the same thing.
It is simple in that if you follow a single maxim, you will thrive: please your Master, always.
It is not easy, because after the first rush fades, you have a choice: regress to selfish stupidity, or flourish.
A recent failure of Mine is now in the dungeon for a second time. Hopefully, it will read this and learn. Doubtful.
To My better pets, and the useful submissives other Alphas here own proudly: continue.
It's a simple definition, yet not easy to manifest. But when it does come to be: submissive servitude is bliss.
by DorianTheAlpha
Newcomers and seasoned subs alike... every pet makes mistakes.
It might be a simple slip-up, or a catastrophic failure.
The next time you misstep in your s********n to an Alpha,
follow these steps to find your way back into their best graces.
How to apologize in findom:
1. Send.
2. Admit your mistake, earnestly.
3. Correct the problem to avoid recurrence.
4. If forgiven, thank your Master profusely.
If that doesn't work, repeat. Chances are you didn't do step 1 quite enough.
Best of luck My little pets.
by DorianTheAlpha
This will be a far less prescriptive post.
It is nothing more than thinking aloud.
This post is about findom dynamics, and its impact on a sub. When brash, brazen and sometimes tactless Alphas demand excess, especially from new accounts or new to findom as a whole: they flee. Sometimes that is ghosting, and all too often full account deletion never to return. I'll be the first to admit, I'm guilty of this, especially in My early days as an Alpha. Now as you read this, a natural rebuke is: "if the pussy can't handle Me, then they shouldn't be here." And yes, as Alphas, subs will never know they countless trolls, timewasters, and other toxic trash We endure. And likewise, it is a sub's respsonsibility to hold themselves accountable: understand what is expected before engaging. After all, you wouldn't enter a boxing match without a parry or a punch, but I digress.
So, where is the line between sustainable domination, and negligent cashgrabbing? It is not a set boundary. Some slaves have much to sacrifice and years of experience. For many others, this might be their very first exposure to sociosexual deviance. Even with study & fervour there's still so much you can only learn: sending, submitting, obeying, deferring to a Superior... experiencing findom first-hand.
Alphas constantly hear the same refrain from subs. Something to the effect of, "But Sir, My last experience with findom, an Alpha asked for [insert large number in the sub's opinion] and then ignored Me/blocked Me." Now, they're often telling the truth. Evidently, others lie for attention. Here many Alphas either dial up their chest-puffing demands, or dispose/block the new sub right then and there.
So here lie the chasm. On on hand, earnest new subs get bulldozed by greedy Alphas who'd rather bark & bite than conjure any real sense of a findom dynamic. And equally if not more so, subs who will lie, cheat, whine and wallow without ever intending to truly serve. In this sea of mistreament from both sides, how does O/one navigate the vitriol?
Now this boils down quite simply: waste is dime a dozen. Great Masters & subs are a precious rarity.
My question becomes: how as an Alpha do you challenge yourself to avoid or overcome this (obviously this excludes consensual humiliation etc)? And more importantly, to the subs reading this, particularly new faces: I know you may have been used, even discarded before. What you don't know is an Alphas scars always run deeper. We deal with more trash than a landfill. So your wound-licking falls on deaf ears. Does this mean you deserve to be railroaded again? No. But does it entitle you to different standards? Even less so. How can you too can overcome these pitfalls?
Toxicity is universal. Alphas will set targets for subs owned by others, and mistreat subs who then leave the scene for good in shame or disgust. Many slaves more will fail targets, timewaste, cheat on their exclusive Alphas, so on and so on. A corny ending perhaps, but let's simply all... be better.
As an Alpha, know the difference between push your slave to thrive, and push your slave to leave.
As a submissive, know that your past & predilections do not warrant your failures or misconduct.
Cheers to all, and thanks for reading. Stay powerful Gents.
I have an older post that delves into this in greater detail. Consider this a pocket version.
When you are first approaching an Alpha you want to serve:
1. Send before speaking. Even if only 50 tips. A gesture to prove you're serious, and selfless.
2. Know your Master. Likes, dislikes, style of domination, expectations.
3. Speak clearly, and learn quickly. Always over-communicate unless He says otherwise.
4. Set your limits with Him, and respect His. Within that, obey. Always.
5. Be proactive & creative. Plan, save, earn, send more and please Him however you can.
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The full version explores these and more in greater detail, but follow these five steps and thrive for your Master.
by DorianTheAlpha
Type out your replies vertically so, and obey the command that forms in tow.
Example:
Reward
Every
Alpha
Deserving
Clear? Good. Moving on. If you've solved each riddle, obey the resulting command. Simple enough, pets. (Mates, happy you're reading).
This was inspired by a thought earlier today.
Riddle 1:
My first three mean to be less,
My last seven an objective, vocation, test.
My middle three a lady's title,
Without Me a slave lay idle.
My whole the reason for a beta's existence,
My first, with 'tract', would reduce a distance.
What am I?
Riddle 2:
My whole is simple, short and sweet.
A slave must do this for a treat.
My first three, in pairs, are used to hear,
My last the first of the word 'near'.
And that same word's first letter moved,
Then the riddle's answer at last been proved.
What am I?
Riddle 3:
A simple solve to Maslow's student,
A dire desire if one is imprudent.
Not to want, but My words to heed,
For with that last verb it rhymes indeed.
Now add a letter for a solve so speedy,
My whole in fact also rhymes with treaty.
What am I?
Riddle 4:
The reciprocal to that which above here came first,
That for which all true submissives thirst.
My last five, a confederation of land,
My whole to submit to a Superior hand,
New subs in this all too often are nervous,
But give into it, bliss, and they find their true purpose.
What am I?
Solve the four riddles, and write them out below one atop the other as explained above.
Then obey the acrostic, pet, to whichever deserving Alpha you serve. Cheers to A/all.
I am sure Y/you all know the drinking card game "Kings". This is similar, with a few small changes, and a single King: the One you serve (or you are, cheers Mate and hello thanks for reading). This game is best played c2c (cam-to-cam), but there's an added element of inventive fun if played over private message (DM) chat, where the Alpha can simply make up what the next card will be (evidently only naming each card once).
Let's begin with the rules, as suited to findom (financial domination):
King, Rules of Gameplay:
Any 2: Send 200 tips.
Any 3: Send 300 tips.
Any 4: Send 400 tips.
Any 5: If available, the sub rolls a dice, and sends five times that number.
Example: roll 3, send 150 tips. If not, the Alpha chooses a random multiple between 1-6, and the sub sends 5x that multiple.
Any 6: Dick-related punishment. A personal favourite of Mine involves hot sauce.
Any 7: Free task.
Any 8: List eight things you adore about your Alpha.
For every hesitation to think, send 50 tips. For any repetition, send 100 tips. If cannot think of 8 things, send 800.
Any 9: Wild card. Personally, I like to lean into the sub's interests here: anal play, sissy plan, piss play, pain play, feet, etc.
Any 10: sub chooses any amount, and sends. This can be a free turn if the tributes are intense.
Any Jack: sub may touch itself for as long as Alpha allows.
Example: Specific number of strokes, or with set number of fingers, or set time. I like to let it jack so long as it can hold its breath.
Any Queen: Send equal to the sub's age in tips times ten. ie Age x 10 = tips sent.
Any Ace: Alpha gives sub a task. The sub must send in tips based on how long it takes to complete it in seconds.
Example: 10 pushups takes 30 seconds. Send 300. As always, x10 factor in play.
Any King: Alpha chooses any amount for the sub to send. Fourth King: Game over.
Enjoy the fun, and would love feedback on gameplay and overall experiences between Masters and slaves.
Reluctance. The creeping hesitation that paralyzes you between taking the leap of faith, and staying stuck in sad frustration. It occurs in all of U/us, but especially in the frail frightened minds of beta boys. New arrivals worry that they do not belong. Experienced senders worry they've gone too far, or for too long, that they should finally leave the scene. There is always a voice in the back of your mind telling you not to. That voice is why I am writing this post today.
Deference. It is a word you almost never hear in kink. s********n, worship, sacrifice, tribute, selflessness, obedience, eager, pathetic, humiliating... of all the descriptors that float around this community, you seldom hear of deference. Why is that? Well, it's an uncommon word, but it so concisely captures how a sub should behave. It is *the* word, if I were to pick only one. If subs should strive for a single trait, it would be deference. So what does it mean? Respect, politeness — yes. Submissive obedience as well. Acquiescence. It is deferring to your Superior, in a noun. It is the embodiment of your Alpha knowing what is best, always. It is the sub trusting its Master.
All too often, and expectedly so, subs will stutter and say, "I'm not sure", "I don't know if I can", and so many other same-sounding apprehensions. Now, don't get Me wrong, you can say whatever you wish to say. But know that in this reticence, you show your Alpha that you do not trust Him, and His vast experience. So, the next time these demons creep up when your Alpha is pushing you within your established limits...
Let go of your reluctance, and trust the latter instead.
Be better. Be different. Be deferent.
I will be brief. A wonderful submissive left My domination today.
It was done with vulnerable honesty, and tribute
With some, I am merciless and cruel. With others, kind & caring.
What matters most is a goodbye with a final gift, in candour, and in grace.
Selfless sacrifice, even in departure.
Send, speak your truth, and I will always understand.
Do so, and farewell. As was done perfectly today.
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