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How to Cashmeet: Privacy, Honesty, and Intention
Posted by DorianTheAlpha

by DorianTheAlpha


I will keep this one short and sweet.


I am always upfront about My approach.


I am upfront about being a financial dominant first and foremost.


I am a findom. I enjoy almost all other kinks too, but tribute is a must.


I do real-time meets when and where I can, with slaves that earn the privilege.


The key here is earning the privilege. 


I typically meet for $500 or so. I've met for as low as $300 based on the slave's loyalty, sacrifice, and My assessment of their overall submission.


Cashmeets work when the Alpha and slave trust each other.


Mainly, the Alpha knows the slave is true, loyal, and committed.


He will respect the Alpha's privacy, remain honest, and uphold the intention of the cashmeet.


Now, how I ensure these is with a deposit prior to the meet.


Like a drain, or rtgame, it shows Me the slave is willing to commit to its action, like a down payment.


Today, I was told My blogs do not convey this. So here I am: conveying it.


For the record, nothing I have said has ever opposed the above. Nonethless, it's now plain to read.


Cheers to all who can conduct cashmeets like A/adults. 


To those who are unclear: ^^^ study up. This is ultimately My opinion (as is all here).

Reluctance and Deference
Posted by DorianTheAlpha

by DorianTheAlpha


Reluctance. The creeping hesitation that paralyzes you between taking the leap of faith, and staying stuck in sad frustration. It occurs in all of U/us, but especially in the frail frightened minds of beta boys. New arrivals worry that they do not belong. Experienced senders worry they've gone too far, or for too long, that they should finally leave the scene. There is always a voice in the back of your mind telling you not to. That voice is why I am writing this post today.


Deference. It is a word you almost never hear in kink. Submission, worship, sacrifice, tribute, selflessness, obedience, eager, pathetic, humiliating... of all the descriptors that float around this community, you seldom hear of deference. Why is that? Well, it's an uncommon word, but it so concisely captures how a sub should behave. It is *the* word, if I were to pick only one. If subs should strive for a single trait, it would be deference. So what does it mean? Respect, politeness — yes. Submissive obedience as well. Acquiescence. It is deferring to your Superior, in a noun. It is the embodiment of your Alpha knowing what is best, always. It is the sub trusting its Master.


All too often, and expectedly so, subs will stutter and say, "I'm not sure", "I don't know if I can", and so many other same-sounding apprehensions. Now, don't get Me wrong, you can say whatever you wish to say. But know that in this reticence, you show your Alpha that you do not trust Him, and His vast experience. So, the next time these demons creep up when your Alpha is pushing you within your established limits...


Let go of your reluctance, and trust the latter instead.


Be better. Be different. Be deferent.

King, A Findom Game
Posted by DorianTheAlpha

by DorianTheAlpha


I am sure Y/you all know the drinking card game "Kings". This is similar, with a few small changes, and a single King: the One you serve (or you are, cheers Mate and hello thanks for reading). This game is best played c2c (cam-to-cam), but there's an added element of inventive fun if played over private message (DM) chat, where the Alpha can simply make up what the next card will be (evidently only naming each card once).


Let's begin with the rules, as suited to findom (financial domination):


King, Rules of Gameplay:

Any 2: Send 200 tips. 

Any 3: Send 300 tips.

Any 4: Send 400 tips.

Any 5: If available, the sub rolls a dice, and sends five times that number. 

Example: roll 3, send 150 tips. If not, the Alpha chooses a random multiple between 1-6, and the sub sends 5x that multiple.

Any 6: Dick-related punishment. A personal favourite of Mine involves hot sauce.

Any 7: Free task.

Any 8: List eight things you adore about your Alpha. 

For every hesitation to think, send 50 tips. For any repetition, send 100 tips. If cannot think of 8 things, send 800.

Any 9: Wild card. Personally, I like to lean into the sub's interests here: anal play, sissy plan, piss play, pain play, feet, etc.

Any 10: sub chooses any amount, and sends. This can be a free turn if the tributes are intense.

Any Jack: sub may touch itself for as long as Alpha allows. 

Example: Specific number of strokes, or with set number of fingers, or set time. I like to let it jack so long as it can hold its breath.

Any Queen: Send equal to the sub's age in tips times ten. ie Age x 10 = tips sent. 

Any Ace: Alpha gives sub a task. The sub must send in tips based on how long it takes to complete it in seconds. 

Example: 10 pushups takes 30 seconds. Send 300. As always, x10 factor in play.


Any King: Alpha chooses any amount for the sub to send. Fourth King: Game over.


Enjoy the fun, and would love feedback on gameplay and overall experiences between Masters and slaves.

A Findom Mind Game: Riddles & Rewards
Posted by DorianTheAlpha

by DorianTheAlpha


Complete these riddles four, then post the answers and see what's in store.

Type out your replies vertically so, and obey the command that forms in tow.

Example:

Reward

Every

Alpha

Deserving


Clear? Good. Moving on. If you've solved each riddle, obey the resulting command. Simple enough, pets. (Mates, happy you're reading).
This was inspired by a thought earlier today.


Riddle 1:

My first three mean to be less, 

My last seven an objective, vocation, test. 

My middle three a lady's title, 

Without Me a slave lay idle. 

My whole the reason for a beta's existence, 

My first, with 'tract', would reduce a distance. 

What am I?


Riddle 2:

My whole is simple, short and sweet. 

A slave must do this for a treat. 

My first three, in pairs, are used to hear, 

My last the first of the word 'near'. 

And that same word's first letter moved, 

Then the riddle's answer at last been proved.

What am I?


Riddle 3:

A simple solve to Maslow's student, 

A dire desire if one is imprudent. 

Not to want, but My words to heed, 

For with that last verb it rhymes indeed. 

Now add a letter for a solve so speedy, 

My whole in fact also rhymes with treaty. 

What am I? 


Riddle 4:

The reciprocal to that which above here came first, 

That for which all true submissives thirst. 

My last five, a confederation of land, 

My whole to submit to a Superior hand, 

New subs in this all too often are nervous, 

But give into it, bliss, and they find their true purpose. 

What am I?


Solve the four riddles, and write them out below one atop the other as explained above. 


Then obey the acrostic, pet, to whichever deserving Alpha you serve. Cheers to A/all.

Findom Approach: The Abridged Version
Posted by DorianTheAlpha

by DorianTheAlpha


I have an older post that delves into this in greater detail. Consider this a pocket version.


When you are first approaching an Alpha you want to serve:


1. Send before speaking. Even if only 50 tips. A gesture to prove you're serious, and selfless.


2. Know your Master. Likes, dislikes, style of domination, expectations.


3. Speak clearly, and learn quickly. Always over-communicate unless He says otherwise.


4. Set your limits with Him, and respect His. Within that, obey. Always.


5. Be proactive & creative. Plan, save, earn, send more and please Him however you can.


--


The full version explores these and more in greater detail, but follow these five steps and thrive for your Master.

Responsibility in Domination & Submission
Posted by DorianTheAlpha

by DorianTheAlpha


This will be a far less prescriptive post.


It is nothing more than thinking aloud.


This post is about findom dynamics, and its impact on a sub. When brash, brazen and sometimes tactless Alphas demand excess, especially from new accounts or new to findom as a whole: they flee. Sometimes that is ghosting, and all too often full account deletion never to return. I'll be the first to admit, I'm guilty of this, especially in My early days as an Alpha. Now as you read this, a natural rebuke is: "if the pussy can't handle Me, then they shouldn't be here." And yes, as Alphas, subs will never know they countless trolls, timewasters, and other toxic trash We endure. And likewise, it is a sub's respsonsibility to hold themselves accountable: understand what is expected before engaging. After all, you wouldn't enter a boxing match without a parry or a punch, but I digress.


So, where is the line between sustainable domination, and negligent cashgrabbing? It is not a set boundary. Some slaves have much to sacrifice and years of experience. For many others, this might be their very first exposure to sociosexual deviance. Even with study & fervour there's still so much you can only learn: sending, submitting, obeying, deferring to a Superior... experiencing findom first-hand.


Alphas constantly hear the same refrain from subs. Something to the effect of, "But Sir, My last experience with findom, an Alpha asked for [insert large number in the sub's opinion] and then ignored Me/blocked Me." Now, they're often telling the truth. Evidently, others lie for attention. Here many Alphas either dial up their chest-puffing demands, or dispose/block the new sub right then and there. 


So here lie the chasm. On on hand, earnest new subs get bulldozed by greedy Alphas who'd rather bark & bite than conjure any real sense of a findom dynamic. And equally if not more so, subs who will lie, cheat, whine and wallow without ever intending to truly serve. In this sea of mistreament from both sides, how does O/one navigate the vitriol?


Now this boils down quite simply: waste is dime a dozen. Great Masters & subs are a precious rarity.


My question becomes: how as an Alpha do you challenge yourself to avoid or overcome this (obviously this excludes consensual humiliation etc)? And more importantly, to the subs reading this, particularly new faces: I know you may have been used, even discarded before. What you don't know is an Alphas scars always run deeper. We deal with more trash than a landfill. So your wound-licking falls on deaf ears. Does this mean you deserve to be railroaded again? No. But does it entitle you to different standards? Even less so. How can you too can overcome these pitfalls?


Toxicity is universal. Alphas will set targets for subs owned by others, and mistreat subs who then leave the scene for good in shame or disgust. Many slaves more will fail targets, timewaste, cheat on their exclusive Alphas, so on and so on. A corny ending perhaps, but let's simply all... be better.


As an Alpha, know the difference between push your slave to thrive, and push your slave to leave.


As a submissive, know that your past & predilections do not warrant your failures or misconduct.


Cheers to all, and thanks for reading. Stay powerful Gents.

Apology: How To
Posted by DorianTheAlpha

by DorianTheAlpha


Newcomers and seasoned subs alike... every pet makes mistakes.


It might be a simple slip-up, or a catastrophic failure. 


The next time you misstep in your submission to an Alpha,

follow these steps to find your way back into their best graces.


How to apologize in findom:


1. Send.


2. Admit your mistake, earnestly.


3. Correct the problem to avoid recurrence.


4. If forgiven, thank your Master profusely.


If that doesn't work, repeat. Chances are you didn't do step 1 quite enough.


Best of luck My little pets.

Defining Submission and Servitude
Posted by DorianTheAlpha

It's been a while since I've posted something here. Today, we're discussing submission and servitude.


First, let's define them:

Submission: the action or fact of accepting or yielding to a Superior F*rce or to the will or authority of Another.
Servitude: the state of being a slave or completely subject to Someone more powerful.


Now, there are plenty of kink spaces. In them, you can explore deviant bottom acts, without serving submissively.


If you are here, you are here to serve. Look at the website name. Read its description. 


This is about pleasing Alpha Masters.


When you act entitled, whine, complain, lie, run, and cheat: you are not submissive. 


Nor are you servile. No, you're just vile.


Submissive servitude is very simple, but it is not easy. Simple and easy are not the same thing.


It is simple in that if you follow a single maxim, you will thrive: please your Master, always.


It is not easy, because after the first rush fades, you have a choice: regress to selfish stupidity, or flourish.


A recent failure of Mine is now in the dungeon for a second time. Hopefully, it will read this and learn. Doubtful.


To My better pets, and the useful submissives other Alphas here own proudly: continue.


It's a simple definition, yet not easy to manifest. But when it does come to be: submissive servitude is bliss.

Silent Submission: A Findom Short
Posted by DorianTheAlpha

Silent Submission, A Findom Short


I round the corner... and it's frozen. Locking eyes, overcome by the sheer presence. Their mind melts into Me. Then and there, innately: submission. Nothing more than a gaze. Overwhelmed by the moment, silent steps take us to a nearby ATM. Only the wind's whistle cuts the quiet, until buttons begin to click. The machine’s wheels sputter hundreds from a slot into kneeling hands... then into Mine. A knowing grin glows against a newly-lit cigar as I feel the grip of domination take hold. Counting out as it's handed to Me, a thick and burning ash builds. Smoke billows around us as the machine slows. Silence once more. Submissive lips kiss each leather boot as a pitiful tongue cleans them carefully in desperate gratitude. Through the toe caps, I can feel the trembling in each lick. Stolid, I tower over My new property. It’s all so easy. Effortless. And as I ash into a begging gaping mouth, I turn to go with thousands anew. In the distance, the faintest whimpering... “Thank you, Master.” 


Just as every Alpha deserves. 


Bring it to life, betas.

10 Things Specific to Online Financial Domination
Posted by DorianTheAlpha

10 Things Specific to Online Financial Domination


by DorianTheAlpha


#1 - Discipline

No, not the kinky kind. I’m talking about self-discipline. It’s easy to be motivated at the start, or after a heavy drain, maybe you’ve just owned a new fag or two. Not everyday will be motivating. Some days this might even feel like work, down right discouraging. Discipline is what separates the flashes in the pan from the those who stand the test of time (this is true for Dominants and submissives).


#2 - Communication

Online domination is noisy. Very noisy. Being a strong communicator is a key part of succeeding here, but that doesn’t mean being everywhere all the time. Be thoughtful about where you want to focus your own energy, and in those places: be responsive. With your fellow Alphas, with owned fags, with loyal sluts: make time and be thoughtful in your replies. A stale dynamic rarely lasts long. M/s is above all a relationship.


#3 - Decisions

I wrote this point specifically for Alphas new to online scenes. Timewasting: when a sub seeks free attention without any intention to serve you. The more I consider the idea, the more I realize it presumes an Alpha does not choose how to spend that time. When you indulge a timewaster, you the Alpha spend that time wastefully. It’s important to get to know potential servants. See: communication. Decide with intention, and stand firm by your choices while also…


#4 - Learning

Ultimately, the decisions you make are based on judgment. I’ve made decisions I later changed (past blogs, notably). There is a difference between flip-flopping a choice, and growing as a Dominant. No one is above improvement, and yes even as Alphas we can and are sometimes wrong. Whether it’s a fellow Master, a seasoned sub, or a brilliantly written borderline Nobel-prize-winning calibre blog — there’s always more to learn.


#5 - Responsibility & Ethics

I often hear from Alphas that it’s the sub’s responsibility not to self-destruct. And this is true. Ultimately, kinks like findom are power exchange between two consenting adults. That said, the best dynamics here exist because the Master & slave trust each other, deeply. Be responsible with your subs. Be ethical in your domination. Now, you can still leave a bitch battered, bruised, mouth full of ash, piss, spit, and weeping in a way that they fully consent to & even thank you for while begging for more. Intensity & extremes can and should still be responsibly, ethically carried out.


#6 - Community

Is the cash fun? Obviously. Do you know what’s more fun? The people that make this place great.

It’s called power exchange, not tips exchange. If you *need* the money, then you’re starting this for the wrong reasons (that’s just My perspective). If you’re only interested in heartless cash grabbing, you’re going to grow bored quick regardless of your success. Community is what makes OF, more than anything else.

 

#7 - Respect

Rule 1 - don’t be a dick. And it is rule #1 for a reason. That goes for Masters to Masters, Masters to fags, and fags to fags (obviously most of all fags to Masters). There’s plenty of Alphas here who use a sharp, punitive tone, while also doing so respectfully. Respect doesn’t have to be soft, or cuddly. I don’t agree with all of you. I don’t even like some of you. But being a toxic twat is a surefire way to alienate yourself or worse get banned from the site. Be better. Respect everyone.


#8 - Start

Unsure whether you’ve got what it takes to dominate online? Try it. Do it. Open your account. Verify, read the rules, and dive right in. Worried messaging subs will make you seem weak? Write them. Send PMs. Test what works best. You can only get better. This is the cliché classic “you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take”. It’s especially true of the online space where you’re just an avatar and a handle until you make yourself more than that. So make yourself more than that.


#9 - Stop

I don’t know who told you to start but that was a horrible idea. Stupid.

I joke, but the notion that you need to be always-on and constantly grinding will burn out the best of us. Taking breaks matters. Prioritizing your health & wellness matters. Remember that there’s more to life than the next tip notification or Pantheon climb. Stop and smell the roses. Call your grandma. Read a book. There will be subs & sending aplenty when you return. This message was brought to you by someone who is constantly failing at this particular point and in general maintaining work/life/kink balance.


#10 - Give Back

Donate to the site. There’s no elaboration here. The man’s growing a moustache for a good cause. If you haven’t put up for it: donate. Men’s health is no joke and last I checked we all had a cock between our legs.


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