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Posted by Lancashirebigboss

Evening Masters and Slaves


This week has seen the good news of being allowed out for longer periods and going further afield. Living in the countryside with plenty of good walks around, I have been able to exercise better climbing the local hills that have been closed for a few weeks. We are another step closer to being able to meet again.


My fags are happy with the news and one has even come over to tribute in person. Social distancing observed etc. Another has upgraded their chastity device to one i can lock remotely. The Irish Bitch is happy and will be rejoining the site soon.


With work being slow over the last couple of months, i have spent my time well. I am able to play the sax again, rewatched plenty of old sitcoms and movies and even started looking at new vans - Will soon the dream back from the ashes! Name has been decided to be Dominator II.


This week i have not welcomed any more fags into the Stable, either here or offline. I am not in need of more but they are always welcomed. New leathers are on their way, been a while deciding on the right ones but i am happy with these. I will post some pice when they arrive.


As always look after yourselves. my Skype is always open for a chat if you just need someone to talk to.


LBB

10 Tips for Masters Who Are New to OwnedFags
Posted by DorianTheAlpha

My blogs are typically about submission. How to serve better etc.


This one is specifically for Masters new to the site. Read up & enjoy.


Feel free to DM if anything below is unclear.


1. Read the rules.


Read the website rules. Read about kink, about D/s ownership.

Read up on findom.

If you're going to try a new kink a sub proposes. Study it. Ask other Alphas.

Everyone starts somewhere. You are given the power to govern a slave's body, mind, and wallet.

Wield that power responsibly, within the guidelines set for this community.

The only tribute allowed here are those sent with OwnedFags tips. No other tribute methods allowed. Period.


2. It takes longer than you realize.


For every useful sub, there are 20 timewasting pretenders.

For every lasting sub, it takes 20 who are fleetingly useful.

So if you're a math guy: that's roughly a 0.25% ownership rate on every sub interaction you have.

Lots of empty-handed, empty-headed strokers. The truly servile sluts are few & far between.


3. Don't do it for the money.


Ultimately, no one is here for the money (or shouldn't be). It's a fun byproduct of a kink: findom.

Findom is about power exchange through currency transfer. Much like bondage is through mobility transfer.

It's just another vector for a submissive to surrender to its Dominant, whether in session or lasting servitude.

If you need money, get a job or sell items. Desperate Alphas are always see-through, and fail. Just truth.


4. Build relationships with other Alphas.


Focus on the other Dominants here. Chat with them. Learn without being clingy about it.

Some, like myself, occasionally whore out their owned fags.

Especially at first, do not DM any slave here that has a lock; that is officially owned. Never.

If that slave reaches out, message the Alpha first.

Once you create a rapport with the Alpha, learn which owned sluts are allowed to & choose to chat, then do so.

Ultimately, conduct yourself so that you are earning the respect of your Alpha peers first and foremost. Always.


5. Find your style.


Emulation is natural. As with any craft, there will be those you look up to.

Take care not to let emulation become imitation. No one likes a copycat.

Find your original voice within the aspects of others you admire.

Ultimately, the most successful Alphas here are such because they are true to themselves.

For instance, I'm a soft-spoken Master. At times, I get harsh, but it's not My innate voice.

I know that, and I stick to it. Others do the opposite. It's about range & authenticity.


6. Build your brand.


A fair bit of domination is marketing. Content is king, engagement is queen, context is god.

Post as often as you can (without spamming). Find a cadence that works.

Few subs are attracted to empty profiles. Post pics. Make vids. Write blogs. Chat publicly.

Engage with others' posts and content, esp Alphas. Care about this community; not just yourself.


7. Set limits, and respect others’.


Not every sub will be a match with you. Maybe you hate piss play; piss pigs won't align with your style.

Maybe you want to solely focus on findom. Maybe findom is secondary to you.

Many subs focus on real-time meets, and even within that types of meets (eg dungeon play).

Be clear about your desires, your dislikes, and focus on those with whom your dynamic could line up.


8. Recognize the toll this takes.


Drop is real. The defeat, deflation, or other such blues felt in kink.

It can be sub drop following a heavy drain or kink session.

it can be Alpha drop after 15 timewasters exhaust you mentally.

Maybe your personal life is impacting your motivation to dominate, or create content.

Be mindful of the weight of your work here.

Yes, dominance is effortless.

But domination is hard work. And acknowledging that is crucial to lasting success.

Take days off. Communicate them to your slaves. The real ones will understand.

Likewise, sometimes subs need to step away. Not all Alphas accept that, but it is equally normal.


9. It isn't a competition.


It's easy to get caught up in the points. The Pantheon & slave market positions.

I've been guilty of it, as I'm sure many others are.

Domination (and submission) are about the intimacy & thrill of power exchange.

Owning a fag is about fulfilling Your Alpha desires together, through their sacrifice & your domination.

Each dynamic is unique. It's own singular bond. No two subs should compete, even serving the same Master.

And no two Masters should compete, because I'll never be Garboss, SkinbossDan, or Fidelio.

They have their styles, their successes, their subs. I have Mine. That's a great thing.

It's the range of kink, and domination.


10. Have fun with it.


I've learned so much about myself through domination.

How sadistic I can be. How compassionate I am.

If you aren't here to enjoy yourself, and create enjoyment for others (even with pain or struggle)

Then you're likely here for the wrong reasons.

Consider this an extensions of "don't do it for the money".


Cheers.

The Master-$lave paradox
Posted by delta

Lots of slaves apparently dream of being dominated, controlled and owned "in all aspects of life" and several Masters long for a slave of that sort. But when it comes to cash slavery I've noticed that these intentions ("in all aspects of life") get blurry and I am not sure whether the Master is actually controlling the $lave or it is the other way around. What kind of slave is that who sets "terms and conditions" to his master and decides when to worship and tribute him? What kind of Master is that who only wants his $lave's money? I guess in this case there is no real ownership, control, or domination at stake. It's just the "$lave" paying his "Master" to entertain him. The "$lave" ends up controlling his "Master" and making him play "Master" in exchange of some coins. I know, I know, there is no only one single way to be in a slave/master relationship and as long as the two of them are happy and satisfied that's more than ok. I also know that most of this type of relationships are confined to the realm of fantasy and imagination. That's more than ok as well. But this gives me the feeling that not everyone really sees ownership as a state of mind "in all aspects of life", but as a role-playing game. What a shame. 
Being owned and plans.
Posted by MasterPete

This is more of a request than a blog.

I respect ownership and have a very strong code that I do not message, use, abuse or demand service from a owned fag.    Sometimes a owned fag says something in public, ether as a public post or in the chatroom and I see that as fair game but I still think twice about if the owner would like my reply or sometimes I will message the owner first.  It's all a matter of respect.

However all respect go's out the window when I have been private messaging a faggot, sometimes with very thought out messages and suddenly the replies stop.    Why did they stop?  I don't know the faggot did not reply to my last message.   Then looking round the site I find out why. 

Faggots if you are applying to be owned by someone else and so want to stop the interactions with me then at least have the manners to say so.  Send a message or a reply saying your wanting to join another Masters stable.

Rant over. 
Sustainable Sending
Posted by subcorey

A message inspired by an earnest discussion among several fags in chat.

Sustainable sending simply means sending what you can afford to send. A straightforward notion yet quite difficult for many finsubs to master. It is the key to long lasting servitude and financial stability. A concept drilled into me years ago by the first Dom I served that I always keep top of mind is: a broke fag is a useless fag.

What cash slave hasn’t stroked to the idea of a massive drain? Dropping hundreds or thousands in a single ruinous session. It can be arousing beyond measure, yet it can leave you feeling broken and resentful. At its worst it results in slaves deleting profiles and ghosting their Masters.

Too often fags are guided by the little cocklet between their legs, which can lead to bad decisions. While  you should always strive to please your Master, both in tribute and in other ways; you need to play the long game. How best can you serve Him sustainably over time? Aim for years of service, not just a few weeks of mindless stroking.

Take the time to figure out what you can actually afford to send. It can seemingly take the fun out of it, but coming up with a budget will help keep you from overdoing it. There will always be slaves who can send more than you, that’s just a fact. Focus on what you are able to affordably send rather than trying to compete with those with deeper pockets.

Even seasoned subs can fall prey to sending more than they should. When it happens it's imperative that you communicate to your Master that you will need a period of recovery. If He is a wise Dom He will understand, if not then it’s time to move on. Smart Masters will want to cultivate a lasting relationship, not drain you into oblivion then hang you out to dry.

The best Masters know how to guide their fags in sending sustainably. There are always those who will push a slave past its limits, but it's still up to the slave to inform the Master that they can’t afford to send more. We're all adults here, both the Master and the slave share responsibility. The slave not to oversend and the Master not to ruin the slave.

Now that doesn’t mean you should waste a Dom’s time simply to pinch some pennies. Don’t accept targets you can’t complete. Don’t promise more than you can send. If you're having trouble managing your sending, try asking your Master to require permission to send to help keep you grounded. If you can’t send more until your next pay, ask how else you can please Him. True submission and servitude extends beyond tip counts.

Be the best fag that you can be for them, but do it sustainably so you can continue to do so for years to come. The Masters may be in control, but that doesn’t mean you can abrogate your own responsibility to keep your head above water.

Faggot, why are you here?
Posted by DaddyAnimo

I want to learn more about what brought you faggots here. Tell me, or talk amongst yourselves.

The posts I’m seeing so far indicate excitement over being owned and drained. But it feels surface level. You need to delve deeply into the psychology of why you’re here and why you’re a faggot to fully appreciate being owned and drained.
Maybe you understand your dynamic and who you are, but if you don’t, message me. Helping you name and fully access your faggotry and dispelling any other illusions you’re confused by is one of my greater Alpha strengths. You exist for Our pleasure. I enjoy fucking my faggots’ minds just as much as using their bodies as my personal hole.


So, tell me: why are you here? Why do you think your instincts brought you here?

Master Bandit
Posted by Jimmythea

Master Bandit

Thank you for being you.  These last few weeks have been incredible and hopefully just the start of a lot of fun, learning and serving.
Whether it's buying you Sushi, hurting myself or just keeping my cum inside me longer than I'd like to, i just love it all. Being useful to you and making me happy by pleasing you.
It's no secret how much you turn me on.  You can make my dick jump with just one message; but more than that, i love our talks; i love the time you spend on me.  I love it when you reward me, when you praise me and when you tell others that I'm good. I'm so proud to be your boy.
I've had an amazing weekend away but one thing was missing- you! I was so excited to message you yesterday when i got home and so happy when you replied.
I know i say it a lot, but i never thought that i would be like this. But I'm so happy that i am, I'm definitely better dedicating myself to you, and i don't miss talking to our serving other guys at all. 
All i need is my amazing Master Bandit
Thank you
Serving MasterTrigger
Posted by TriggerBound

Getting to know MasterTrigger has been a whirlwind—in the best possible way.  I had just came back to the site, and I wasn’t planning on seeking out ownership. But after a few conversations, this fag couldn’t really help itself. Between Master’s intense dominance and incredible kindness, I was begging to be his. 


(And I do apologize to the Masters to whom I said that I wasn’t looking for ownership just before I joined MasterTrigger’s stable… I really did think I meant it at the time!)


Whether he’s taking what’s his or checking in to see how my day has been, I get excited every time I hear from him, and I really do get the sense that he cares about his property and wants what’s best for it. And he also really knows how to get into a fag’s head, push all the right buttons, and leave you wanting more (or wanting to have less, so that he can have more).

What are you seeking?
Posted by Mjs006

The great thing about this site, is that you understand that there are some people who need to be served, and some who understand that they need to serve.  


Service and submission is not about the transaction, it is about the recognition that you need to help and support your owner.  


It is about gaining credibility, its about gaining respect through ownership, submission is about being accepted by me.  Learning and understanding this, was the greatest change in my mindset - once I understood that sub, and slave need to submit, then it felt so much better as I understand the need, the need is not dirty or a problem, but just an expression of your position.  The more that this need is accepted, the greater the rewards.  The more you put in to anything, the more you will get out, it is not for you to decide what that is, nor is it about numbers, it is about your mental attitude, about you learning that some things you have, you don't need, and by giving up things, you get a release in that you are able to submit to your role, and accept that you are not going to need to be equal, but will be happy. 

My first meeting with MasterTrigger - real submission
Posted by TriggeredBottom

After an intense time serving MasterTrigger online and becoming His property (and thus part of a great family), i had the great honor of meeting Him in person last weekend.
In advance, He chose the hotel for me. Close to his home, as cheap as possible and poorly rated. The weekend was ultimately meant to make me aware of my status and bring me more deeply under His control.
After my arrival, we arranged to have dinner at a restaurant on the first night. In the minutes i waited for Him outside the restaurant i was indescribably nervous. Of course, i recognized Him as soon as He walked up to me. To be honest, i had no idea how to greet Him in an appropriate manner. As a true alpha, He immediately took the lead and gave me an indescribably tight hug without saying a word. A pleasant shiver ran through me and the excitement gave way to a great feeling of happiness. In the restaurant He chose the food and drinks. Likewise, He decided what i had to eat and how much. His natural authority was apparently immediately visible to everyone, because even the waitresses only spoke to Him, unless He gave me a sign that i had to respond to a question. One might think that the situation was bizarre, however, the opposite was true. i felt safe and secure in His presence.
After dinner He said goodbye to me, telling me that He expected me at his place the next day at the agreed time. Full of anticipation of what might await me, i went to the hotel and could hardly sleep. His picture next to my bed drew all my attention.
The next day i was at His door as agreed and had brought the agreed equipment. He explained to me that i had groceries to buy for dinner and after that i would have to clean the apartment and do His laundry. So we went to town first and i always had to be careful never to walk in front of Him. i had to get down on my knees in public and tie His shoes. And it felt great to do that. i felt pride in showing my submission in public.
After chores and dinner, He showed me what is possible through trust and what true loss of control feels like. Using e-stim at various points and increasing intensity, He took me to the limits i thought i could endure. Whenever those limits were reached and my resistance kicked in, he just held me tighter and whispered in my ear to stop fighting the pain. i started to breathe calmly and took the pain He was inflicting on me. In doing so, He managed to push my limits and fill me with great pride. The feeling of being held by His strong arms as the pain intensified was indescribable and addictive.  
The third day was very similar - the intensity was increased and i was bound and gagged at times. my limits were further increased and i was in a frenzy. As i endured more and more suffering, He drained all my money and even though it was more than i expected (and had budgeted for myself), i felt incredibly grateful and proud. Accordingly, the goodbye happened much later than expected and i didn't arrive home until the middle of the night. i am incredibly grateful to my Master for this intense experience and wish to relinquish more and more control, expand limits and be moulded into His perfect property according to His ideas - physically and mentally. Ideas for this have already been developed.
i now know even more how important it is to trust and respect each other. Knowing i have a Master who protects me allows me to truly relinquish complete control. And it's great to have found this great Master here and to be part of a fantastic family in his stable that supports each other. Thank you so much, fagbrothers!
i wish every slave here manages to have similar experiences. Do not be dissuaded from following your destiny! A real Master knows how to build trust, to penetrate deep into the psyche of a slave and bring him further. That is the key to success. Thank you MasterTrigger, i am so incredibly grateful for our encounter. i am Yours, Master!

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