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Findom Approach: The Abridged Version
Posted by DorianTheAlpha

by DorianTheAlpha


I have an older post that delves into this in greater detail. Consider this a pocket version.


When you are first approaching an Alpha you want to serve:


1. Send before speaking. Even if only 50 tips. A gesture to prove you're serious, and selfless.


2. Know your Master. Likes, dislikes, style of domination, expectations.


3. Speak clearly, and learn quickly. Always over-communicate unless He says otherwise.


4. Set your limits with Him, and respect His. Within that, obey. Always.


5. Be proactive & creative. Plan, save, earn, send more and please Him however you can.


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The full version explores these and more in greater detail, but follow these five steps and thrive for your Master.

Responsibility in Domination & Submission
Posted by DorianTheAlpha

by DorianTheAlpha


This will be a far less prescriptive post.


It is nothing more than thinking aloud.


This post is about findom dynamics, and its impact on a sub. When brash, brazen and sometimes tactless Alphas demand excess, especially from new accounts or new to findom as a whole: they flee. Sometimes that is ghosting, and all too often full account deletion never to return. I'll be the first to admit, I'm guilty of this, especially in My early days as an Alpha. Now as you read this, a natural rebuke is: "if the pussy can't handle Me, then they shouldn't be here." And yes, as Alphas, subs will never know they countless trolls, timewasters, and other toxic trash We endure. And likewise, it is a sub's respsonsibility to hold themselves accountable: understand what is expected before engaging. After all, you wouldn't enter a boxing match without a parry or a punch, but I digress.


So, where is the line between sustainable domination, and negligent cashgrabbing? It is not a set boundary. Some slaves have much to sacrifice and years of experience. For many others, this might be their very first exposure to sociosexual deviance. Even with study & fervour there's still so much you can only learn: sending, submitting, obeying, deferring to a Superior... experiencing findom first-hand.


Alphas constantly hear the same refrain from subs. Something to the effect of, "But Sir, My last experience with findom, an Alpha asked for [insert large number in the sub's opinion] and then ignored Me/blocked Me." Now, they're often telling the truth. Evidently, others lie for attention. Here many Alphas either dial up their chest-puffing demands, or dispose/block the new sub right then and there. 


So here lie the chasm. On on hand, earnest new subs get bulldozed by greedy Alphas who'd rather bark & bite than conjure any real sense of a findom dynamic. And equally if not more so, subs who will lie, cheat, whine and wallow without ever intending to truly serve. In this sea of mistreament from both sides, how does O/one navigate the vitriol?


Now this boils down quite simply: waste is dime a dozen. Great Masters & subs are a precious rarity.


My question becomes: how as an Alpha do you challenge yourself to avoid or overcome this (obviously this excludes consensual humiliation etc)? And more importantly, to the subs reading this, particularly new faces: I know you may have been used, even discarded before. What you don't know is an Alphas scars always run deeper. We deal with more trash than a landfill. So your wound-licking falls on deaf ears. Does this mean you deserve to be railroaded again? No. But does it entitle you to different standards? Even less so. How can you too can overcome these pitfalls?


Toxicity is universal. Alphas will set targets for subs owned by others, and mistreat subs who then leave the scene for good in shame or disgust. Many slaves more will fail targets, timewaste, cheat on their exclusive Alphas, so on and so on. A corny ending perhaps, but let's simply all... be better.


As an Alpha, know the difference between push your slave to thrive, and push your slave to leave.


As a submissive, know that your past & predilections do not warrant your failures or misconduct.


Cheers to all, and thanks for reading. Stay powerful Gents.

MASTER DIESEL Introduction
Posted by MASTERDIESEL

The weather is dull, my house has never been so clean or organised and another Monday in Lockdown, so I thought I would be productive and do an introduction to myself on Owned Fags. So, let’s start how would I describe myself in a few words? Well an Old Guard Leather Master, Dominant, strict but fair, Confident in knowing who I am and what I want and expect in every aspect of MY life. I have always been into wearing leather from being a teenager. Financial Domination started for me at school being in a gang of lads picking out the weak loners and cornering them and emptying their pockets and enjoying spending their money at the corner shop. I have always worked and have a long successful career, so be clear findom is not about making quick cash or easy money! I have been draining and using fags for over 20 years. I enjoy the control, obedience and getting inside fags and slaves heads and getting them onto the path of service to work hard, to earn good money, to then hand it over to ME, giving them satisfaction, fulfilment and purpose to want to do it all over again knowing you are pleasing ME. Getting that cash large or small is as horny as fuck to me watching the figure going up and spending MY money on what I want when I want.

As part of this domination is a huge part of this for me, Boot worship soles treads, heal shaft the whole boot fags, Leather worship, Oral pleasure ready for a deep throat fucking love to hear a fag gagging on my pierced thick cock, Ash use fags with open mouths ready to take my thick hot ash is not a choice is a requirement if any fags are near me while smoking MY gars, smoke abuse nothing better than seeing a fag in my gas mask in tight bondage, fuelling the fags lungs with MY thick heavy gar smoke from MY 8x80 Asylums through the gas mask tube, strict Corporal Punishment for MY pleasure not just when a fag disobeys or disrespectful, Domestic service why should I clean MY house when I can get a fag to do such mundane tasks in life. Poppering a fag slave up makes them weaker to be used and drained for MY gain and pleasure.

So, Fags PM me or approach me in the chat room and let’s show you your rightful place in life.

MASTER DIESEL

Update
Posted by Lancashirebigboss

Evening Masters and Slaves


This week has seen the good news of being allowed out for longer periods and going further afield. Living in the countryside with plenty of good walks around, I have been able to exercise better climbing the local hills that have been closed for a few weeks. We are another step closer to being able to meet again.


My fags are happy with the news and one has even come over to tribute in person. Social distancing observed etc. Another has upgraded their chastity device to one i can lock remotely. The Irish Bitch is happy and will be rejoining the site soon.


With work being slow over the last couple of months, i have spent my time well. I am able to play the sax again, rewatched plenty of old sitcoms and movies and even started looking at new vans - Will soon the dream back from the ashes! Name has been decided to be Dominator II.


This week i have not welcomed any more fags into the Stable, either here or offline. I am not in need of more but they are always welcomed. New leathers are on their way, been a while deciding on the right ones but i am happy with these. I will post some pice when they arrive.


As always look after yourselves. my Skype is always open for a chat if you just need someone to talk to.


LBB

10 Tips for Masters Who Are New to OwnedFags
Posted by DorianTheAlpha

My blogs are typically about submission. How to serve better etc.


This one is specifically for Masters new to the site. Read up & enjoy.


Feel free to DM if anything below is unclear.


1. Read the rules.


Read the website rules. Read about kink, about D/s ownership.

Read up on findom.

If you're going to try a new kink a sub proposes. Study it. Ask other Alphas.

Everyone starts somewhere. You are given the power to govern a slave's body, mind, and wallet.

Wield that power responsibly, within the guidelines set for this community.

The only tribute allowed here are those sent with OwnedFags tips. No other tribute methods allowed. Period.


2. It takes longer than you realize.


For every useful sub, there are 20 timewasting pretenders.

For every lasting sub, it takes 20 who are fleetingly useful.

So if you're a math guy: that's roughly a 0.25% ownership rate on every sub interaction you have.

Lots of empty-handed, empty-headed strokers. The truly servile sluts are few & far between.


3. Don't do it for the money.


Ultimately, no one is here for the money (or shouldn't be). It's a fun byproduct of a kink: findom.

Findom is about power exchange through currency transfer. Much like bondage is through mobility transfer.

It's just another vector for a submissive to surrender to its Dominant, whether in session or lasting servitude.

If you need money, get a job or sell items. Desperate Alphas are always see-through, and fail. Just truth.


4. Build relationships with other Alphas.


Focus on the other Dominants here. Chat with them. Learn without being clingy about it.

Some, like myself, occasionally whore out their owned fags.

Especially at first, do not DM any slave here that has a lock; that is officially owned. Never.

If that slave reaches out, message the Alpha first.

Once you create a rapport with the Alpha, learn which owned sluts are allowed to & choose to chat, then do so.

Ultimately, conduct yourself so that you are earning the respect of your Alpha peers first and foremost. Always.


5. Find your style.


Emulation is natural. As with any craft, there will be those you look up to.

Take care not to let emulation become imitation. No one likes a copycat.

Find your original voice within the aspects of others you admire.

Ultimately, the most successful Alphas here are such because they are true to themselves.

For instance, I'm a soft-spoken Master. At times, I get harsh, but it's not My innate voice.

I know that, and I stick to it. Others do the opposite. It's about range & authenticity.


6. Build your brand.


A fair bit of domination is marketing. Content is king, engagement is queen, context is god.

Post as often as you can (without spamming). Find a cadence that works.

Few subs are attracted to empty profiles. Post pics. Make vids. Write blogs. Chat publicly.

Engage with others' posts and content, esp Alphas. Care about this community; not just yourself.


7. Set limits, and respect others’.


Not every sub will be a match with you. Maybe you hate piss play; piss pigs won't align with your style.

Maybe you want to solely focus on findom. Maybe findom is secondary to you.

Many subs focus on real-time meets, and even within that types of meets (eg dungeon play).

Be clear about your desires, your dislikes, and focus on those with whom your dynamic could line up.


8. Recognize the toll this takes.


Drop is real. The defeat, deflation, or other such blues felt in kink.

It can be sub drop following a heavy drain or kink session.

it can be Alpha drop after 15 timewasters exhaust you mentally.

Maybe your personal life is impacting your motivation to dominate, or create content.

Be mindful of the weight of your work here.

Yes, dominance is effortless.

But domination is hard work. And acknowledging that is crucial to lasting success.

Take days off. Communicate them to your slaves. The real ones will understand.

Likewise, sometimes subs need to step away. Not all Alphas accept that, but it is equally normal.


9. It isn't a competition.


It's easy to get caught up in the points. The Pantheon & slave market positions.

I've been guilty of it, as I'm sure many others are.

Domination (and submission) are about the intimacy & thrill of power exchange.

Owning a fag is about fulfilling Your Alpha desires together, through their sacrifice & your domination.

Each dynamic is unique. It's own singular bond. No two subs should compete, even serving the same Master.

And no two Masters should compete, because I'll never be Garboss, SkinbossDan, or Fidelio.

They have their styles, their successes, their subs. I have Mine. That's a great thing.

It's the range of kink, and domination.


10. Have fun with it.


I've learned so much about myself through domination.

How sadistic I can be. How compassionate I am.

If you aren't here to enjoy yourself, and create enjoyment for others (even with pain or struggle)

Then you're likely here for the wrong reasons.

Consider this an extensions of "don't do it for the money".


Cheers.

The Master-$lave paradox
Posted by delta

Lots of slaves apparently dream of being dominated, controlled and owned "in all aspects of life" and several Masters long for a slave of that sort. But when it comes to cash slavery I've noticed that these intentions ("in all aspects of life") get blurry and I am not sure whether the Master is actually controlling the $lave or it is the other way around. What kind of slave is that who sets "terms and conditions" to his master and decides when to worship and tribute him? What kind of Master is that who only wants his $lave's money? I guess in this case there is no real ownership, control, or domination at stake. It's just the "$lave" paying his "Master" to entertain him. The "$lave" ends up controlling his "Master" and making him play "Master" in exchange of some coins. I know, I know, there is no only one single way to be in a slave/master relationship and as long as the two of them are happy and satisfied that's more than ok. I also know that most of this type of relationships are confined to the realm of fantasy and imagination. That's more than ok as well. But this gives me the feeling that not everyone really sees ownership as a state of mind "in all aspects of life", but as a role-playing game. What a shame. 
Being owned and plans.
Posted by MasterPete

This is more of a request than a blog.

I respect ownership and have a very strong code that I do not message, use, abuse or demand service from a owned fag.    Sometimes a owned fag says something in public, ether as a public post or in the chatroom and I see that as fair game but I still think twice about if the owner would like my reply or sometimes I will message the owner first.  It's all a matter of respect.

However all respect go's out the window when I have been private messaging a faggot, sometimes with very thought out messages and suddenly the replies stop.    Why did they stop?  I don't know the faggot did not reply to my last message.   Then looking round the site I find out why. 

Faggots if you are applying to be owned by someone else and so want to stop the interactions with me then at least have the manners to say so.  Send a message or a reply saying your wanting to join another Masters stable.

Rant over. 
Sustainable Sending
Posted by subcorey

A message inspired by an earnest discussion among several fags in chat.

Sustainable sending simply means sending what you can afford to send. A straightforward notion yet quite difficult for many finsubs to master. It is the key to long lasting servitude and financial stability. A concept drilled into me years ago by the first Dom I served that I always keep top of mind is: a broke fag is a useless fag.

What cash slave hasn’t stroked to the idea of a massive drain? Dropping hundreds or thousands in a single ruinous session. It can be arousing beyond measure, yet it can leave you feeling broken and resentful. At its worst it results in slaves deleting profiles and ghosting their Masters.

Too often fags are guided by the little cocklet between their legs, which can lead to bad decisions. While  you should always strive to please your Master, both in tribute and in other ways; you need to play the long game. How best can you serve Him sustainably over time? Aim for years of service, not just a few weeks of mindless stroking.

Take the time to figure out what you can actually afford to send. It can seemingly take the fun out of it, but coming up with a budget will help keep you from overdoing it. There will always be slaves who can send more than you, that’s just a fact. Focus on what you are able to affordably send rather than trying to compete with those with deeper pockets.

Even seasoned subs can fall prey to sending more than they should. When it happens it's imperative that you communicate to your Master that you will need a period of recovery. If He is a wise Dom He will understand, if not then it’s time to move on. Smart Masters will want to cultivate a lasting relationship, not drain you into oblivion then hang you out to dry.

The best Masters know how to guide their fags in sending sustainably. There are always those who will push a slave past its limits, but it's still up to the slave to inform the Master that they can’t afford to send more. We're all adults here, both the Master and the slave share responsibility. The slave not to oversend and the Master not to ruin the slave.

Now that doesn’t mean you should waste a Dom’s time simply to pinch some pennies. Don’t accept targets you can’t complete. Don’t promise more than you can send. If you're having trouble managing your sending, try asking your Master to require permission to send to help keep you grounded. If you can’t send more until your next pay, ask how else you can please Him. True submission and servitude extends beyond tip counts.

Be the best fag that you can be for them, but do it sustainably so you can continue to do so for years to come. The Masters may be in control, but that doesn’t mean you can abrogate your own responsibility to keep your head above water.

Faggot, why are you here?
Posted by DaddyAnimo

I want to learn more about what brought you faggots here. Tell me, or talk amongst yourselves.

The posts I’m seeing so far indicate excitement over being owned and drained. But it feels surface level. You need to delve deeply into the psychology of why you’re here and why you’re a faggot to fully appreciate being owned and drained.
Maybe you understand your dynamic and who you are, but if you don’t, message me. Helping you name and fully access your faggotry and dispelling any other illusions you’re confused by is one of my greater Alpha strengths. You exist for Our pleasure. I enjoy fucking my faggots’ minds just as much as using their bodies as my personal hole.


So, tell me: why are you here? Why do you think your instincts brought you here?

Master Bandit
Posted by Jimmythea

Master Bandit

Thank you for being you.  These last few weeks have been incredible and hopefully just the start of a lot of fun, learning and serving.
Whether it's buying you Sushi, hurting myself or just keeping my cum inside me longer than I'd like to, i just love it all. Being useful to you and making me happy by pleasing you.
It's no secret how much you turn me on.  You can make my dick jump with just one message; but more than that, i love our talks; i love the time you spend on me.  I love it when you reward me, when you praise me and when you tell others that I'm good. I'm so proud to be your boy.
I've had an amazing weekend away but one thing was missing- you! I was so excited to message you yesterday when i got home and so happy when you replied.
I know i say it a lot, but i never thought that i would be like this. But I'm so happy that i am, I'm definitely better dedicating myself to you, and i don't miss talking to our serving other guys at all. 
All i need is my amazing Master Bandit
Thank you

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