1. Read about the Alpha. Be acutely aware of how to stand out, and know Their turn-offs to the best of your ability.
2. Send Their minimum amount. Generally, at least 300-500 in tips. If you want to impress, send more. If they ask you to send again to prove yourself, or for whatever reason, do so promptly & passionately.
3. Make your first words your best, most selfless. Ask the Alpha how you can best serve them? Do not bring up your past, present, interests, or kinks. This is about Them: Their perfection, Their domination, Their pleasure. Please Them. They will know what to ask about you, when that information becomes relevant for them to know. A verified, experienced cashmaster knows how to explore a sub’s mind, and explore D/s better than you ever could, slave.
4. Wait patiently for Their response. Don’t panic. Don’t bombard Their inbox. Certainly don’t block Them in a worried frenzy. Simply breathe and know that you have followed Their approach instructions well, and They are busy draining other subs at the moment. They will reply to you, in time.
5. Possibly the most important: an initial tribute is not a transaction. There is nothing given in return. Have no expectations. The Alpha owes you less than nothing. The tribute is a gift for the privilege of being welcomed into the powerful realm of Their existence, which is itself the greatest privilege you could ask for.
Follow these instructions, and almost every Alpha will welcome you into their stable for the supreme opportunity to serve Them financially, and whatever other ways They may please.
Good luck, My sweet pets.
by DorianTheAlpha
Now, I will preface in saying this is My opinion, though one I know it is shared across hundreds of Superiors. That said, you may well find a Master that views s********n differently than I describe here. If so, I weep for you because you'll never know the bliss of true sacrifice to serve your Master's pleasure.
Let's begin by listing off the excuses so many pretenders enjoy bleating to Masters Who've heard these tired lines a thousand times before:
- i am student/jobless right now, but i can serve You in other ways.
- i want to send to You, but i need to trust You first.
- i might be open to sending, but financial domination is not My primrary kink.
- i was mistreated by a previous Alpha, i need to recover before i can worship You.
- i have no money to send, but i can be Your promo/task slave.
If this is you: you are the worst kind of wasted space in findom and kink as a whole. These aren't reasons; they're excuses. Do better. Redefine yourself to serve His pleasure first and solely.
There are countless others, equally transparent, equally boring, equally self-branding "block me: i'm a waste of time".
This article is meant as instruction, and as motivation. Like all habits, starting with a few easy steps will lead to undertaking the harder ones. In time, you can be the best slave you can be by incorporating all of these and more. Internalize the spirit of these habits to truly devote the entirety of yourself to your Master.
1. Work harder, smarter, longer.
Secure a raise or bonus? That portion goes to your Master. Great night of tips? Those are Alpha's. Win a payout, lottery, jackpot, raffle, contest? Guess whose: your Owner, silly pet. Get a second job, or third, gigging: Uber, tutoring. Suck cock if you can get paid for guzzling cum in your Master's name. Be creative, and proactive.
2. Cut back on luxuries and indulgences.
Don't buy meals out. Meal prep, and make that coffee/tea at home. Skip the steak, and eat chicken or beans. Fast intermittently if your health allows it. d***k less, or not at all. Only Alpha Men consume fine spirits; you get hooch if anything. Forget about tobacco, weed, parties: they are revelries for Superior Males. Designer labels, latest tech, new toys of any kind... these have no place in a cash slave's world.
3. Simplify your lifestyle.
Forget the Uber: walk, bike or commute. Don't bother with a flagship smartphone when a budget model will do. Take cold showers and reduce your heating/AC to send your Master those savings. Workout? Cancel that gym membership, and go train outside. Sell your appliances and wash your dishes and/or clothes by hand. Which leads Me too...
4. Sell your valuables.
Collectibles: magazines, comic books, video games, watches, vintage items, etc. Jewelry, needless gadgets, vehicles, sex toys (looking at you sissies). Anything you are guilty of from #2, sell — that's a simple starting point. What feels more right: you owning $1,000+ of superficial goods you could do without, or placing that cash into your Master's powerful hands, where it belongs?
I have likely missed ideas here. What matters is starting small, being accountable to improve through sacrifice, communicating your commitments to your Master, and most or all: sending as soon as you have cash to do so. The longer your Master's money stays with you, the lazier you are being, slave.
Read, act, send. Or pretend that you are already doing "enough" for your Alpha, as if that is even possible.
We always deserve more...
by DorianTheAlpha
Particularly here on OwnedFags.com, as the website name shows, degradation & humiliation are wanton and welcome. They are arguably an integral part of what makes this extremely kinky space what it is. Many here push the bounds of physical, psychological, and sexual a***e in a beautifully consensual way. It brings out the best in the most dominant Alphas and the most submissive betas. It can also create contention.
There is something lost when D/s becomes an exercise in vanity. This is not to disparage leather fetishes, toy play, or any other kink that uses superficial means. Rather, something often missed here is the human element of domination and s********n. Connecting with A/another, and allowing that person to see a side of Y/you that many of U/us shield from everyday life.
I say this first and foremost because My preferred approach to domination is notably softer than many here. Again, I have nothing but admiration & respect for Those who take what is Theirs with a firmer hand. They are among the top Earners & senders here. Rather, I say this so that if a shy and nervous beta reads this, they can see that s********n comes in many forms. I accept a sub that begs Me to insult them, use slurs, a***e them and objectify them. I also cherish in the same way one who wants to serve devoid of humiliation — where the purity of sacrifice is their foremost kink, and desire. Please Me selflessly, and I will always accept you.
For both, and any form of submissive urge, compassion is My priority. There are many kinks I did not know I loved to indulge, that I now suggest to other betas as points of exploration & discovery. I do not aim to have any own "style". I know this to be true of most of the best Alphas here. They are open to their pets' interests, kinks, and respectful of their limits. Within them, I will use My compassion constructively to help you be the best submissive you can be, and to serve My pleasure as truthfully as you can, and I deserve.
In that, as a conclusion of sorts, I will say: forms of servitude that truly put your Alpha first are acceptable, and beautiful. Do not conflate this with topping from the bottom, being manipulative, proffering excuses or otherwise wasting My time. However, true submissive sacrifice, in tribute and all forms of s********n — I will always accept.
I say this too, without sounding sanctimonious, that W/we can better accept each other. At times Alphas and subs don't align, or even within our respective P/peer groups, W/we disagree. When W/we learn to accept that, and E/each other, this space — in its most depraved and at its purest — thrives.
Cheers to all, and thanks for reading.
Reluctance. The creeping hesitation that paralyzes you between taking the leap of faith, and staying stuck in sad frustration. It occurs in all of U/us, but especially in the frail frightened minds of beta boys. New arrivals worry that they do not belong. Experienced senders worry they've gone too far, or for too long, that they should finally leave the scene. There is always a voice in the back of your mind telling you not to. That voice is why I am writing this post today.
Deference. It is a word you almost never hear in kink. s********n, worship, sacrifice, tribute, selflessness, obedience, eager, pathetic, humiliating... of all the descriptors that float around this community, you seldom hear of deference. Why is that? Well, it's an uncommon word, but it so concisely captures how a sub should behave. It is *the* word, if I were to pick only one. If subs should strive for a single trait, it would be deference. So what does it mean? Respect, politeness — yes. Submissive obedience as well. Acquiescence. It is deferring to your Superior, in a noun. It is the embodiment of your Alpha knowing what is best, always. It is the sub trusting its Master.
All too often, and expectedly so, subs will stutter and say, "I'm not sure", "I don't know if I can", and so many other same-sounding apprehensions. Now, don't get Me wrong, you can say whatever you wish to say. But know that in this reticence, you show your Alpha that you do not trust Him, and His vast experience. So, the next time these demons creep up when your Alpha is pushing you within your established limits...
Let go of your reluctance, and trust the latter instead.
Be better. Be different. Be deferent.
by DorianTheAlpha
Newcomers and seasoned subs alike... every pet makes mistakes.
It might be a simple slip-up, or a catastrophic failure.
The next time you misstep in your s********n to an Alpha,
follow these steps to find your way back into their best graces.
How to apologize in findom:
1. Send.
2. Admit your mistake, earnestly.
3. Correct the problem to avoid recurrence.
4. If forgiven, thank your Master profusely.
If that doesn't work, repeat. Chances are you didn't do step 1 quite enough.
Best of luck My little pets.
10 Things Specific to Online Financial Domination
by DorianTheAlpha
#1 - Discipline
No, not the kinky kind. I’m talking about self-discipline. It’s easy to be motivated at the start, or after a heavy drain, maybe you’ve just owned a new fag or two. Not everyday will be motivating. Some days this might even feel like work, down right discouraging. Discipline is what separates the flashes in the pan from the those who stand the test of time (this is true for Dominants and submissives).
#2 - Communication
Online domination is noisy. Very noisy. Being a strong communicator is a key part of succeeding here, but that doesn’t mean being everywhere all the time. Be thoughtful about where you want to focus your own energy, and in those places: be responsive. With your fellow Alphas, with owned fags, with loyal sluts: make time and be thoughtful in your replies. A stale dynamic rarely lasts long. M/s is above all a relationship.
#3 - Decisions
I wrote this point specifically for Alphas new to online scenes. Timewasting: when a sub seeks free attention without any intention to serve you. The more I consider the idea, the more I realize it presumes an Alpha does not choose how to spend that time. When you indulge a timewaster, you the Alpha spend that time wastefully. It’s important to get to know potential servants. See: communication. Decide with intention, and stand firm by your choices while also…
#4 - Learning
Ultimately, the decisions you make are based on judgment. I’ve made decisions I later changed (past blogs, notably). There is a difference between flip-flopping a choice, and growing as a Dominant. No one is above improvement, and yes even as Alphas we can and are sometimes wrong. Whether it’s a fellow Master, a seasoned sub, or a brilliantly written borderline Nobel-prize-winning calibre blog — there’s always more to learn.
#5 - Responsibility & Ethics
I often hear from Alphas that it’s the sub’s responsibility not to self-destruct. And this is true. Ultimately, kinks like findom are power exchange between two consenting adults. That said, the best dynamics here exist because the Master & slave trust each other, deeply. Be responsible with your subs. Be ethical in your domination. Now, you can still leave a bitch battered, bruised, mouth full of ash, piss, spit, and weeping in a way that they fully consent to & even thank you for while begging for more. Intensity & extremes can and should still be responsibly, ethically carried out.
#6 - Community
Is the cash fun? Obviously. Do you know what’s more fun? The people that make this place great.
It’s called power exchange, not tips exchange. If you *need* the money, then you’re starting this for the wrong reasons (that’s just My perspective). If you’re only interested in heartless cash grabbing, you’re going to grow bored quick regardless of your success. Community is what makes OF, more than anything else.
#7 - Respect
Rule 1 - don’t be a dick. And it is rule #1 for a reason. That goes for Masters to Masters, Masters to fags, and fags to fags (obviously most of all fags to Masters). There’s plenty of Alphas here who use a sharp, punitive tone, while also doing so respectfully. Respect doesn’t have to be soft, or cuddly. I don’t agree with all of you. I don’t even like some of you. But being a toxic twat is a surefire way to alienate yourself or worse get banned from the site. Be better. Respect everyone.
#8 - Start
Unsure whether you’ve got what it takes to dominate online? Try it. Do it. Open your account. Verify, read the rules, and dive right in. Worried messaging subs will make you seem weak? Write them. Send PMs. Test what works best. You can only get better. This is the cliché classic “you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take”. It’s especially true of the online space where you’re just an avatar and a handle until you make yourself more than that. So make yourself more than that.
#9 - Stop
I don’t know who told you to start but that was a horrible idea. Stupid.
I joke, but the notion that you need to be always-on and constantly grinding will burn out the best of us. Taking breaks matters. Prioritizing your health & wellness matters. Remember that there’s more to life than the next tip notification or Pantheon climb. Stop and smell the roses. Call your grandma. Read a book. There will be subs & sending aplenty when you return. This message was brought to you by someone who is constantly failing at this particular point and in general maintaining work/life/kink balance.
#10 - Give Back
Donate to the site. There’s no elaboration here. The man’s growing a moustache for a good cause. If you haven’t put up for it: donate. Men’s health is no joke and last I checked we all had a cock between our legs.
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