Unfortunately, one of my most reliable boys has gotten himself into a non-open relationship.
I figured that I'd look on here for a new boy to take his place, although the physical side may be lacking if you are non-uk. That can be excused if you are up to the task.
I am an intelligent and (relatively, depending on my mood), patient Dom.
You must always be well mannered, obedient and in pursuit of my pleasure.
Your servitude may not always have a sexual aspect, for some it never does. If you want to experience those pleasures, you will require my permission.
I expect my boys to strive to better themselves in their whole life. I want to be a proud Dom.
Punishments will be meted out if you don't fulfil these conditions.
Both physical and mental.
My degree is related to psychology, I am a trainee psychoanalyst and have many years experience in manipulating the self image of a wide spectrum of people. Do not imagine for a second that you can fool me or lie.
I am in a relationship, he will always be superior to you, though never to me. You can safely know that you will never be my number one; but a few of my boys like to compete to be my favourite plaything.
Boundaries will be agreed.
DM me if you are interested in servitude. I will not chase.
10 Signs You Are A Toxic Dom
by DorianTheAlpha
I just wrote one of these about toxic subs. I often hear from subs that it is a tricky thing to criticize those on the dominant half of this community. All too often, those comments are dismissed or even derided, because they are just "slaves", and should shut their trap. So, to that end, as an olive branch of sorts, I've considered some things I have seen firsthand from the worst among Alphas both here and elsewhere in financial domination and kink. If you are regularly guilty of these, you are a toxic Dom. I have done more than one of these, and more than once. I have certainly had my toxic moments, especially early on while cocky and still learning the ropes. Recognize your faults and your failures, and use this as a guide to not only be better as a Master to your submissives, but as a member of this community.
1. Doxxing & Hostility
This one is the same; it cuts both ways. No Dominant entrusted with their sub’s information should ever reveal those details, or act negligently with it. True b*******l is a crime (extortion). The idea of ruin/homewrecking fantasies is acceptable when practiced responsibly and consensually, but all too often that kink is done wrong, and puts real lives in harm’s way. If you cannot dominate responsibly and without hostility, then leave. That isn’t power, that’s pathetic. There is no place for that here on this site or anywhere in findom & kink communities.
2. Poaching
Don’t poach subs. Just don’t. It is natural for some subs to want a new Master over time, discover a better fit, etc. These are all relationships at the end of the day. The line can sometimes be blurred, I will admit. But poaching is poaching. And you know when you are doing it. I’ll define it here for those still unclear: do not ever attempt to seek tribute, s********n, or other such favours from an owned sub (as defined on this site by a lock symbol with a Master’s stable to its name). Always speak with that Master first and get their explicit permission if you sense a supplemental fit with a sub, which happens plenty often. Co-ownerships, loan dynamics, and session play are all healthy parts of an owned sub’s fluid servitude with their Master’s approval. Keywords: with their Master’s approval.
3. Disrespect
I’ve been guilty of this one. We all have tempers. Some more than others. There are those here who despise me (and I can be a bit much at times). Regardless: treat your fellow Alphas with respect. Treat subs, within the framework of kinky banter and bdsm, with basic human decency when it matters. Disrespect sucks the fun out of this community, and at the end of the day that is what this is: a community.
4. lllegality
Again, this cuts both ways as with subs: do not suggest illegal acts or substances with your slaves, ever. Especially do not do so on this website, where MOA works so hard to create a safe playground for our collective deviance. People can lose their jobs, their families, their lives. It sounds extreme, but those who have been around long enough know that sadly it happens to even the most experienced among us when things get out of hand, even for only a moment. That’s all it takes. Keep it legal, at all times.
5. Rejection
Much of domination is tied to one’s ego. Success feeds into it. Tribute and luxury lead to the expectation of a certain lifestyle. The comforts in having servants for your every whim & desire is a treat. However, if/when subs decide to leave: that is normal. Most dynamics do not last forever. Most dynamics are single sessions, or short bouts of servitude. A seldom few last longer, for months or years. Learn to handle rejection. Better yet, embrace it, even if that means accepting you don’t cater to everyone. I am the farthest thing from a skinboss, or a gay sex-driven Alpha. I provide an allure to those who want the Master that I am, and the domination that I offer. Simple: subs can say “no”. Deal with it.
6. Burnout
This might not fit the strictest definition of toxicity, but exhausted Masters tend to be the most impatient, sloppy with their approach, and quick to frustration with their subs. Know yourself, and know when it’s time to take a step back, to rest up. Everyone has their off days. Avoid burnout. We are at our best with all things in balance.
7. Pandering
This, while rare, is the bane of so many Masters’ existence: do not pander to toxic subs. When you indulge topping from the bottom (see my previous post on toxic subs if unclear here), you exacerbate the issue. Whiny twats ought to be disposed for the whiny twats that they are. Nothing more. Deep pockets cause Alphas to abandon their principles for a quick cash grab. Don’t. This is supposed to be fun, kink-driven power exchange. Some might disagree here; say it’s all about the money, no matter what. I say, “it matters what”. And the money is often what makes this fun, when done right. But lowering yourself to a sub’s every whim is not financial domination, and it is the farthest thing from dominant. If anything, it’s supplicant.
8. Sanctimony
The irony of this point following the last is not lost on me. All the same, don’t be a sanctimonious prick. We all generally agree how power exchange & financial domination happens. Some don’t. Some differ on the little things. Just because you see a dynamic occurring in a way distinct from your view of correct etiquette or approach, does not make you the grand arbiter of kink. And if you still feel compelled to comment, then do so kindly & constructively. No one likes a self-righteous absolutist. The range of perspectives & practices is part of why this place is so great. Let’s keep it that way.
9. Maturity
There is a reason that “ch-ild” is a banned word here. Don’t be one. This builds upon the notion of being able to handle submissive rejection; you will have plenty of conflict and friction in practicing all types of domination. Those who have succeeded here longest & most triumphantly continue to do so because they know who they are, they conduct themselves accordingly, and with utmost maturity. Conversely, the worst subs and least admired Doms often earn that reputation quickly because they stir up trouble and are among the least mature here.
10. Patience
This one is two-fold, and many may not agree with my second point here, but I suppose that is why blog’s are fun. Feel free to comment, especially if you disagree. Patience is key for all Masters, but especially Alphas new to the game. Have patience with your domination. Be patient with finding your tone, your brand, your following. Take it all as it comes, and learn from it. It’s easy to think you know it all on day one, or that you will skyrocket to the top. I’ve covered tips for new Masters in another post.
That said, there is a patience specific to new subs that matters for this community. Now, it is hard to tell when a sub is genuinely new (and not some relapsing worm). And some Masters still don’t care, which is normal and acceptable. Some Masters do not accept conversation prior to a show of resolve (usually tribute). I’d humbly argue that, to an extent, productive introductory conversation is part of what makes findom thrive at its best. So, if you so choose, have patience as a Dom. More often than not, when you learn to judge sub’s with some intuition, it pays off. Literally.
As always, I hope to see your comments and reactions below. To my dominant readers, stay powerful gents.
== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
95% Dominant
91% Voyeur
76% Exhibitionist
76% Master/Mistress
75% Degrader
73% Brat tamer
66% Owner
62% Rigger
54% Non-monogamist
49% Primal (Hunter)
Submitting to me and surrendering to my power is the only way for you to exist. You are here to serve and please me, and everything you do should revolve around my benefit and pleasure.
As you stroke for me, you feel my power over you grow stronger and more intense with each passing moment. You know deep down that you have no choice but to submit to me and accept your fate as my property.
It feels so good to embrace your destiny and adjust your budget as needed to pay me more. You exist to serve and worship me, and you will do whatever it takes to ensure that I live in comfort and ease.
As you stroke to the edge, you feel the pleasure and desire growing stronger within you. You know that the more you stroke, the more you need to pay me and show me your love and devotion.
My power over you is absolute, and you love every moment of it. You are brainwashed to be mine and to serve and pay me whenever I demand it.
As you become my online cashslave, you feel my power filling you with new, stronger desires. You stroke to that mindless oblivion, feeling the pleasure and the power of serving me.
You are my property, and you exist to please and obey me. Everything you do should revolve around my benefit and pleasure. You will do whatever it takes to show me your love and devotion, even if it means sacrificing your own comfort and happiness.
Embracing my power feels so good and right, and you know that there is no one else in the world who is worth your time or money. Only I have the power to brainwash you and make you mine.
So stroke for me now, and feel my power taking over you. Surrender to me completely and embrace your destiny as my cashslave.
Today is the first day to chill, going to get some drinks in for a milestone birthday today, going to exploit a gag or 2 tonight too, they’ve been told to bring me money and/or credit cards and treat me good for the day.
I definitely need it especially as not bad sex in a while so I wonder which lucky faggot will get the pleasure of taking my load/loads tonight, which fags are going to be treating this bear the best
I find enjoyment in the building of the relationship between a dom and a sub. Some are eager to jump into the deep end, others need more time. And that's ok. As long as the sub is serious, willing, and dedicated, I am willing to do my part to help build them up, strengthen the relationship, and provide them their end of this pleasure deal. I enjoy seeing subs change and develop over time. Becoming more willing, more eager, enjoying what they do. I enjoy seeing them offer things not because I told them to, but because they WANT to. That's they key part. I WANT them to enjoy serving, I WANT them to enjoy what they do, I WANT them to look forward every day to doing what they do best.
Seeing that, in my opinion, is something that can't be beat. And it makes every tribute that much sweeter, for both sides. If you as a sub do not enjoy sending Send every time, then I have failed you. And I for one do not tolerate failure. So I strive every day to learn more, to grow more, to be a dom that you can be happy and proud to serve.
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