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Dom/Sub vs. ownership - sex vs. rationality
Posted by delta

I have noticed that a lot of people think that a Dom/Sub relationship is the same thing as Ownership. I disagree with that, but that's just my personal opinion, which is based on my own experience. I see Dom/Sub as a type of relationship that revolves around sex, and ownership as a mental state. Of course, ownership usually involves sex, but that cannot be the only way to materialize it. Of course, Dom/Sub can turn into something beyond sex, but it grows out of sex and does not necessarily involves other aspects of everyday life. Ownership is a state of mind insofar as it permeates your whole life and reaches the deepest of you. Being owned entails giving in, giving up, and the loss of both will and autonomy. Yet, to own entails the responsibility to set boundaries, govern, and conduct in a wise manner. Ownership is as much about desire and emotion as it is about rationality and common sense. That's why I consider degradation and derogatory approaches as against ownership because you don't destroy what belongs to you. That's irrational. Discipline was created to maintain order, but that order needs to be built upon a minimum rational agreement. So ownership, I believe, works as long as it is fueled by your mind, your heart, and your desire at once. That's why Dom/Sub relationships are meaningless to me because they're more of sexually-driven power relations that are devoid of any solid rationality and prospect. Nothing is more disappointing that someone who approaches you for the first time with a pic of their ass hole in a submissive position. Some people meet and enjoy that and that's totally fine. But don't call that ownership. This is just my opinion. 
s********n begins with selflessness
Posted by DorianTheAlpha

It interesting given My newness on this website. There seems to be so many "submissives" who open dialogues with their wants, their kinks, their terms and demands. And so, let U/us discuss today the most fundamental tenet of s********n:


Selflessness.


For Myself and Many here, being an Alpha is a natural state of dominance, domination, supremacy, and control in pursuit of Our pleasures. That is the nature of being an Alpha and Cashmaster. In contrast, so many submissives here are entitled. Not partially; entirely entitled. Maybe that's a generational cause, or some nurtured symptom of this specific community here. Whatever the reason, it is fallacious, toxic, and simply wrong.


A submissive aims to please his Master. A good submissive pleases his Master, consistently. A great submissive knows how to please his Master and does so without being told, consistently. An outstanding submissive takes that proactive knowledge to find new ways of pleasing his Master without his Master having to lift a finger. Growth in s********n that blossoms over time as B/both explore in their D/s power dynamic.


And so, to conclude, a small tip for any slaves seeking to approach Dominants here, especially Findoms such as Myself. Tip first. Then speak, selflessly. Lead with action, then profess submissive intention. I wager you would be hard pressed to find an Alpha here who disagrees. This is basic stuff, pets. Do better, and rightfully put your Alpha first. 


Cheers.

The 10 Commandments of Financial Domination
Posted by DorianTheAlpha

I often share different versions of these as a guide to slaves who fall under My spell, new to financial domination. Already here, plenty of sad little souls have asked Me for free domination...


To that end, read the below and follow each point with fervent diligence.


Do so, and you will thrive in findom, pleasing Me and/or even the strictest Master outright:


The 10 Findom Commandments:

1. Send. Tribute financially to your Master.

2. Submit. Master's pleasure is your sole purpose.

3. Sacrifice. Save, work more, sell things... to send more.

4. Obey. Do as your Master says, promptly & completely.

4. Be selfless. Void of ego: your orgasms & kinks are meaningless.

5. Speak with clarity, consistency, and creativity.

6. Represent your Master well in the findom community.

7. Own your failures. Learn fast, & make no excuses.

8. Serve only your Master, unless He tells you explicitly otherwise.

9. Celebrate your Master's other successes: there is no place for jealousy.

10. Be clear in your limits, then push yourself to expand them.

Domination, Exclusive Consideration, and Ownership
Posted by DorianTheAlpha

By DorianTheAlpha


There are several slaves here, if not most, that serve as community fags. They are not beholden to any one Master, by their own choice. It is one of the few choices a little cash piggy has, and I as well as all Masters should respect that, in order for this findom community to properly thrive.


Domination

When a Master and a slave interact for a single interaction, whether one tip, a session, or a series of tips and sessions, there is a temporary domination that occurs. This does not change the fact that there will always and permanently be Superior Alpha men and pathetic beta bitch boy cashslaves. That is eternal, and true. However, a cash slave can choose to serve multiple Alphas, at their own leisure, so long as they obey the Dominant/slave dynamic that is drives their sole purpose: to serve at the pleasure of Alpha Men.


UC (Under Consideration)

Now, some slaves are competitive, both within themselves and others. When channeled properly, this can be deeply constructive for both their s********n and (more importantly) their Master's pleasure. When left to run rampant, it is toxic, destructive, and often leaves the slave blocked and wayward because of their own selfish jealousy. The best cash faggots will be "considered" by their Alpha Masters: a period wherein they serve their Cashmaster exclusively, though not yet owned. Ownership, a cashslave foremost reward beside their Master's pleasure & approval, is a beacon of exemplary servitude: you are a sufficiently excellent cash dispenser that your Masters sees it fit to brand you as public His. The summit of s********n & servitude for a mindless ATM. 


Ownership

As eluded to above, this is the pinnacle of what subs hope to achieve while worshipping at the altar of their Alpha Master's perfection. Do not conflate this ultimate reward with it being the pursuit of one's servitude: you serve to please your Master, exclusively and entirely. All else follows. Ownership rarely comes to those who actively seek it out; it is rather bestowed upon those truly selfless slaves that purely provide for their Master's every whim, setting aside their own kinks and orgasms for Master's slightest desire. True, beautiful, blissful s********n to a Supremely Powerful Alpha Male.


Now, the reason for this distinction between the three is that too often there are those here who seek to poach, coax, or otherwise betray the fidelity good slaves show their Masters. I hope that this post can serve as a clarification for community cash whores, prospective pets, and wholly owned finfags. The latter two should not be sought out unless their Master has given you His explicit approval. The first... is fair game to use and a***e at your disposal. And oh how they are disposable.


Cheers to all. I hope this helps.

How to Grow in s********n: Saving, Earning, Selling, Sending.
Posted by DorianTheAlpha

by DorianTheAlpha


Now, I will preface in saying this is My opinion, though one I know it is shared across hundreds of Superiors. That said, you may well find a Master that views s********n differently than I describe here. If so, I weep for you because you'll never know the bliss of true sacrifice to serve your Master's pleasure.


Let's begin by listing off the excuses so many pretenders enjoy bleating to Masters Who've heard these tired lines a thousand times before:

- i am student/jobless right now, but i can serve You in other ways.

- i want to send to You, but i need to trust You first.

- i might be open to sending, but financial domination is not My primrary kink.

- i was mistreated by a previous Alpha, i need to recover before i can worship You.

- i have no money to send, but i can be Your promo/task slave.


If this is you: you are the worst kind of wasted space in findom and kink as a whole. These aren't reasons; they're excuses. Do better. Redefine yourself to serve His pleasure first and solely.


There are countless others, equally transparent, equally boring, equally self-branding "block me: i'm a waste of time".


This article is meant as instruction, and as motivation. Like all habits, starting with a few easy steps will lead to  undertaking the harder ones. In time, you can be the best slave you can be by incorporating all of these and more. Internalize the spirit of these habits to truly devote the entirety of yourself to your Master.


1. Work harder, smarter, longer. 

Secure a raise or bonus? That portion goes to your Master. Great night of tips? Those are Alpha's. Win a payout, lottery, jackpot, raffle, contest? Guess whose: your Owner, silly pet. Get a second job, or third, gigging: Uber, tutoring. Suck cock if you can get paid for guzzling cum in your Master's name. Be creative, and proactive.


2. Cut back on luxuries and indulgences. 

Don't buy meals out. Meal prep, and make that coffee/tea at home. Skip the steak, and eat chicken or beans. Fast intermittently if your health allows it. d***k less, or not at all. Only Alpha Men consume fine spirits; you get hooch if anything. Forget about tobacco, weed, parties: they are revelries for Superior Males. Designer labels, latest tech, new toys of any kind... these have no place in a cash slave's world.


3. Simplify your lifestyle.

Forget the Uber: walk, bike or commute. Don't bother with a flagship smartphone when a budget model will do. Take cold showers and reduce your heating/AC to send your Master those savings. Workout? Cancel that gym membership, and go train outside. Sell your appliances and wash your dishes and/or clothes by hand. Which leads Me too...


4. Sell your valuables.

Collectibles: magazines, comic books, video games, watches, vintage items, etc. Jewelry, needless gadgets, vehicles, sex toys (looking at you sissies). Anything you are guilty of from #2, sell — that's a simple starting point. What feels more right: you owning $1,000+ of superficial goods you could do without, or placing that cash into your Master's powerful hands, where it belongs?


I have likely missed ideas here. What matters is starting small, being accountable to improve through sacrifice, communicating your commitments to your Master, and most or all: sending as soon as you have cash to do so. The longer your Master's money stays with you, the lazier you are being, slave.


Read, act, send. Or pretend that you are already doing "enough" for your Alpha, as if that is even possible.


We always deserve more...

Purity, Compassion and Acceptance
Posted by DorianTheAlpha

by DorianTheAlpha


Particularly here on OwnedFags.com, as the website name shows, degradation & humiliation are wanton and welcome. They are arguably an integral part of what makes this extremely kinky space what it is. Many here push the bounds of physical, psychological, and sexual a***e in a beautifully consensual way. It brings out the best in the most dominant Alphas and the most submissive betas. It can also create contention.


There is something lost when D/s becomes an exercise in vanity. This is not to disparage leather fetishes, toy play, or any other kink that uses superficial means. Rather, something often missed here is the human element of domination and s********n. Connecting with A/another, and allowing that person to see a side of Y/you that many of U/us shield from everyday life.


I say this first and foremost because My preferred approach to domination is notably softer than many here. Again, I have nothing but admiration & respect for Those who take what is Theirs with a firmer hand. They are among the top Earners & senders here. Rather, I say this so that if a shy and nervous beta reads this, they can see that s********n comes in many forms. I accept a sub that begs Me to insult them, use slurs, a***e them and objectify them. I also cherish in the same way one who wants to serve devoid of humiliation — where the purity of sacrifice is their foremost kink, and desire. Please Me selflessly, and I will always accept you.


For both, and any form of submissive urge, compassion is My priority. There are many kinks I did not know I loved to indulge, that I now suggest to other betas as points of exploration & discovery. I do not aim to have any own "style". I know this to be true of most of the best Alphas here. They are open to their pets' interests, kinks, and respectful of their limits. Within them, I will use My compassion constructively to help you be the best submissive you can be, and to serve My pleasure as truthfully as you can, and I deserve.


In that, as a conclusion of sorts, I will say: forms of servitude that truly put your Alpha first are acceptable, and beautiful. Do not conflate this with topping from the bottom, being manipulative, proffering excuses or otherwise wasting My time. However, true submissive sacrifice, in tribute and all forms of s********n — I will always accept. 


I say this too, without sounding sanctimonious, that W/we can better accept each other. At times Alphas and subs don't align, or even within our respective P/peer groups, W/we disagree. When W/we learn to accept that, and E/each other, this space — in its most depraved and at its purest — thrives.


Cheers to all, and thanks for reading.

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