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Reluctance and Deference
by DorianTheAlpha


Reluctance. The creeping hesitation that paralyzes you between taking the leap of faith, and staying stuck in sad frustration. It occurs in all of U/us, but especially in the frail frightened minds of beta boys. New arrivals worry that they do not belong. Experienced senders worry they've gone too far, or for too long, that they should finally leave the scene. There is always a voice in the back of your mind telling you not to. That voice is why I am writing this post today.


Deference. It is a word you almost never hear in kink. Submission, worship, sacrifice, tribute, selflessness, obedience, eager, pathetic, humiliating... of all the descriptors that float around this community, you seldom hear of deference. Why is that? Well, it's an uncommon word, but it so concisely captures how a sub should behave. It is *the* word, if I were to pick only one. If subs should strive for a single trait, it would be deference. So what does it mean? Respect, politeness — yes. Submissive obedience as well. Acquiescence. It is deferring to your Superior, in a noun. It is the embodiment of your Alpha knowing what is best, always. It is the sub trusting its Master.


All too often, and expectedly so, subs will stutter and say, "I'm not sure", "I don't know if I can", and so many other same-sounding apprehensions. Now, don't get Me wrong, you can say whatever you wish to say. But know that in this reticence, you show your Alpha that you do not trust Him, and His vast experience. So, the next time these demons creep up when your Alpha is pushing you within your established limits...


Let go of your reluctance, and trust the latter instead.


Be better. Be different. Be deferent.

Purity, Compassion and Acceptance

by DorianTheAlpha


Particularly here on OwnedFags.com, as the website name shows, degradation & humiliation are wanton and welcome. They are arguably an integral part of what makes this extremely kinky space what it is. Many here push the bounds of physical, psychological, and sexual abuse in a beautifully consensual way. It brings out the best in the most dominant Alphas and the most submissive betas. It can also create contention.


There is something lost when D/s becomes an exercise in vanity. This is not to disparage leather fetishes, toy play, or any other kink that uses superficial means. Rather, something often missed here is the human element of domination and submission. Connecting with A/another, and allowing that person to see a side of Y/you that many of U/us shield from everyday life.


I say this first and foremost because My preferred approach to domination is notably softer than many here. Again, I have nothing but admiration & respect for Those who take what is Theirs with a firmer hand. They are among the top Earners & senders here. Rather, I say this so that if a shy and nervous beta reads this, they can see that submission comes in many forms. I accept a sub that begs Me to insult them, use slurs, abuse them and objectify them. I also cherish in the same way one who wants to serve devoid of humiliation — where the purity of sacrifice is their foremost kink, and desire. Please Me selflessly, and I will always accept you.


For both, and any form of submissive urge, compassion is My priority. There are many kinks I did not know I loved to indulge, that I now suggest to other betas as points of exploration & discovery. I do not aim to have any own "style". I know this to be true of most of the best Alphas here. They are open to their pets' interests, kinks, and respectful of their limits. Within them, I will use My compassion constructively to help you be the best submissive you can be, and to serve My pleasure as truthfully as you can, and I deserve.


In that, as a conclusion of sorts, I will say: forms of servitude that truly put your Alpha first are acceptable, and beautiful. Do not conflate this with topping from the bottom, being manipulative, proffering excuses or otherwise wasting My time. However, true submissive sacrifice, in tribute and all forms of submission — I will always accept. 


I say this too, without sounding sanctimonious, that W/we can better accept each other. At times Alphas and subs don't align, or even within our respective P/peer groups, W/we disagree. When W/we learn to accept that, and E/each other, this space — in its most depraved and at its purest — thrives.


Cheers to all, and thanks for reading.

The Luxury of Being Dominated

by DorianTheAlpha


There is a strange, skewed perspective of domination, in particular financial domination. Many slaves will approach to lead with their kinks. They will tell you all about what turns them on, what their hard limits are, their past injustices and why that makes them unable to trust the ever-perilous threat of Masters that mistreat them.


A common refrain is: "you want Me to send Sir? But W/we've barely spoken."


Now, I will always speak to curious souls. Some slaves are new. Some are unaware of how to approach. Some are just timid. But if after a short exchange, there's little sign they intend to tip, tribute, or otherwise strive to please Me, then I demand it. And generally, this is when the pretenders vanish. Every. Single. Time.


This post is for you, pretenders. The liars, the beggars, the toxic vile vermin that infect the purity of findom.


You do not get to own a Ferrari to pay for it when you like. You don't get to wear a Patek and send them a check when it suits you. You don't move into a seaside mansion and put off your mortgage indefinitely.


Serving an Alpha isn't just a luxury: it is the ultimate luxury. Financial submission is a gift an Alpha gives you.


Sending Me the money that is rightfully Mine *is* your reward, slave.


So, let U/us here and now stamp out the fallacy that you deserve attention from a Superior Male because of any of the following:

- Uncertainty or curiosity

- Insecurity or past wounds

- Prior mistreatment

- Lack of finances / having being ruined

- Lack of interest in findom

- Servitude to another Master

- The list goes on...


As a slave, you are responsible to educate yourself about findom.

As a slave, you are expected to be able to serve financially, unless your Master explicitly states otherwise.

As a slave, you are required to please your Master first and foremost, however He chooses.

As a slave, you are accountable to understand that your Master allows you the blissful gift of His existence.

As a slave, you are indebted to your Alpha merely by the virtue of serving him. Tribute merits nothing.

As a slave, you are property. It is your choice to be a slave; and it is your purpose as such to be His property.


Understand the choices you make, and adhere to your commitments. Both you and He are allowed your limits. Findom is a choice. When you make it, do not flake and do not flounder. Follow through.


Let us end on a constructive note: follow these guidelines to please your Alpha, and live truthfully in submission.


1. Do not say that you will send. Send, and then say that you have. Act first, then speak.

2. Do not approach an Alpha leading with your interests. He is above you. Pleasing him is all that matters. Do so, and maybe he will reward you by considering your own interests. That is the true nature of submission to Another.

3. Do not victimize yourself. There will always be those who hold exception with this post. Slaves here have done so to My words in the past. This is not ironclad; it is a guide. Follow it, or ignore it and resign yourself to the sad lie that you are actually a "slave" — you are the opposite. 


I recognize part of this post are strongly worded. Findom is a place of strong words, and emotions. If you are offended by this, you are likely guilty of what it puts forth. If You are nodding along, you likely know what I'm talking about, and have suffered through your fair share of vermin too.


Be better, for Him. 


For Me.

How to Grow in Submission: Saving, Earning, Selling, Sending.

by DorianTheAlpha


Now, I will preface in saying this is My opinion, though one I know it is shared across hundreds of Superiors. That said, you may well find a Master that views submission differently than I describe here. If so, I weep for you because you'll never know the bliss of true sacrifice to serve your Master's pleasure.


Let's begin by listing off the excuses so many pretenders enjoy bleating to Masters Who've heard these tired lines a thousand times before:

- i am student/jobless right now, but i can serve You in other ways.

- i want to send to You, but i need to trust You first.

- i might be open to sending, but financial domination is not My primrary kink.

- i was mistreated by a previous Alpha, i need to recover before i can worship You.

- i have no money to send, but i can be Your promo/task slave.


If this is you: you are the worst kind of wasted space in findom and kink as a whole. These aren't reasons; they're excuses. Do better. Redefine yourself to serve His pleasure first and solely.


There are countless others, equally transparent, equally boring, equally self-branding "block me: i'm a waste of time".


This article is meant as instruction, and as motivation. Like all habits, starting with a few easy steps will lead to  undertaking the harder ones. In time, you can be the best slave you can be by incorporating all of these and more. Internalize the spirit of these habits to truly devote the entirety of yourself to your Master.


1. Work harder, smarter, longer. 

Secure a raise or bonus? That portion goes to your Master. Great night of tips? Those are Alpha's. Win a payout, lottery, jackpot, raffle, contest? Guess whose: your Owner, silly pet. Get a second job, or third, gigging: Uber, tutoring. Suck cock if you can get paid for guzzling cum in your Master's name. Be creative, and proactive.


2. Cut back on luxuries and indulgences. 

Don't buy meals out. Meal prep, and make that coffee/tea at home. Skip the steak, and eat chicken or beans. Fast intermittently if your health allows it. Drink less, or not at all. Only Alpha Men consume fine spirits; you get hooch if anything. Forget about tobacco, weed, parties: they are revelries for Superior Males. Designer labels, latest tech, new toys of any kind... these have no place in a cash slave's world.


3. Simplify your lifestyle.

Forget the Uber: walk, bike or commute. Don't bother with a flagship smartphone when a budget model will do. Take cold showers and reduce your heating/AC to send your Master those savings. Workout? Cancel that gym membership, and go train outside. Sell your appliances and wash your dishes and/or clothes by hand. Which leads Me too...


4. Sell your valuables.

Collectibles: magazines, comic books, video games, watches, vintage items, etc. Jewelry, needless gadgets, vehicles, sex toys (looking at you sissies). Anything you are guilty of from #2, sell — that's a simple starting point. What feels more right: you owning $1,000+ of superficial goods you could do without, or placing that cash into your Master's powerful hands, where it belongs?


I have likely missed ideas here. What matters is starting small, being accountable to improve through sacrifice, communicating your commitments to your Master, and most or all: sending as soon as you have cash to do so. The longer your Master's money stays with you, the lazier you are being, slave.


Read, act, send. Or pretend that you are already doing "enough" for your Alpha, as if that is even possible.


We always deserve more...

Domination, Exclusive Consideration, and Ownership
By DorianTheAlpha


There are several slaves here, if not most, that serve as community fags. They are not beholden to any one Master, by their own choice. It is one of the few choices a little cash piggy has, and I as well as all Masters should respect that, in order for this findom community to properly thrive.


Domination

When a Master and a slave interact for a single interaction, whether one tip, a session, or a series of tips and sessions, there is a temporary domination that occurs. This does not change the fact that there will always and permanently be Superior Alpha men and pathetic beta bitch boy cashslaves. That is eternal, and true. However, a cash slave can choose to serve multiple Alphas, at their own leisure, so long as they obey the Dominant/slave dynamic that is drives their sole purpose: to serve at the pleasure of Alpha Men.


UC (Under Consideration)

Now, some slaves are competitive, both within themselves and others. When channeled properly, this can be deeply constructive for both their submission and (more importantly) their Master's pleasure. When left to run rampant, it is toxic, destructive, and often leaves the slave blocked and wayward because of their own selfish jealousy. The best cash faggots will be "considered" by their Alpha Masters: a period wherein they serve their Cashmaster exclusively, though not yet owned. Ownership, a cashslave foremost reward beside their Master's pleasure & approval, is a beacon of exemplary servitude: you are a sufficiently excellent cash dispenser that your Masters sees it fit to brand you as public His. The summit of submission & servitude for a mindless ATM. 


Ownership

As eluded to above, this is the pinnacle of what subs hope to achieve while worshipping at the altar of their Alpha Master's perfection. Do not conflate this ultimate reward with it being the pursuit of one's servitude: you serve to please your Master, exclusively and entirely. All else follows. Ownership rarely comes to those who actively seek it out; it is rather bestowed upon those truly selfless slaves that purely provide for their Master's every whim, setting aside their own kinks and orgasms for Master's slightest desire. True, beautiful, blissful submission to a Supremely Powerful Alpha Male.


Now, the reason for this distinction between the three is that too often there are those here who seek to poach, coax, or otherwise betray the fidelity good slaves show their Masters. I hope that this post can serve as a clarification for community cash whores, prospective pets, and wholly owned finfags. The latter two should not be sought out unless their Master has given you His explicit approval. The first... is fair game to use and abuse at your disposal. And oh how they are disposable.


Cheers to all. I hope this helps.

Sunday Worship

So many slaves will ask for free tasks… or free attention. To those sweet pets here who genuinely do put their Master’s pleasure first: continue to read. To lurkers stroking to My words without the slightest intention of enacting them… cease to exist you vile waste.


To My sweet pets who serve beautifully, through authentic submission… Sundays are worship. 


This means, that today of all days, is a blissful opportunity to set your standards for the week. Send to Me. Pray to Me. Commit to new heights for Me. Take care to employ all of the sweet subtleties I enjoy. Go out of your way to embrace struggle for My enjoyment, to embrace submission for My entertainment, to embrace sacrifice for My pleasure. Those tasks you so desire: send for them. Humiliation? Send for it. JOI/CEI/CBT etc.... send for whatever scratch you are so desperate to itch, My pet.


Sundays set a benchmark for the next six days. Even more so if it is a payday week. Remember, no Alpha here dominates for need of income. Money is simply the scoreboard. The truest of tokens that represents a surrender of financial power from one to Another. So, surrender to Me, My dear toys, in worship. Fall to your knees this immaculate Sunday, to tribute at the altar of My greatness. Show Me you crave to give your feeble power over to Me, in financial tribute. It is the beautiful of ways to do so.


To all the powerful Masters here, have a blessed day rinsing, ruining, training, and draining anew your pets. I admire you & applaud the gift you give these pathetic wayward souls in finding a purpose.


To those pets yet unowned… I am here and waiting. Approach.


Then thank Me again for the privilege.

Joyous Submission
Let's face it. The world outside sucks sometimes (and not even in the good way). 


Day in, day out, you are expected to comport yourself with whatever society deems appropriate. Decorum, etiquette, normalcy.


Fuck that.


Say it with me. FUCK. THAT.



Life outside is stifling. I, your master, offer you pleasure. I am the breath of fresh air in a life gone stale. Indulge yourself with me. Life is meant to be pleasurable. Your basest desires, your most unconventional urges, your most closely guarded kinks. Share them with me. Show them to me. Give them to me.


If you're a fag begging to give up control and let yourself feel elation unimaginable in your everyday life, I'm your man. What the hell are your waiting for?



A Blast in the Park

I have a short but very enjoyable walk in the woods in "A Blast in the Park".


http://leatherfetishfox.blogspot.com/2017/11/a-blast-in-park.html 

Rubber Puppy Love

A generous puppy comes down from the city in "Rubber Puppy Love"


http://leatherfetishfox.blogspot.com/2017/11/rubber-puppy-love.html


Slave Potential

Met a guy and he had some serious 

 

"Slave Potential"! 

 

http://leatherfetishfox.blogspot.com/2017/07/slave-potential.html