Slow and steady wins the race

Posted by subjeffie

I won't go back so far as to talk about how snail mail groups worked because it doesn't matter. Technology changes but human nature doesn't. My first online post was on Usenet which I think is still around in some form. I had bdsm fantasies and was looking for someone to tie me up and do whatever he wanted to do with me. Stupid, stupid, stupid. I had no idea about limits and what anything meant. I assumed anyone that was interested would somehow know exactly what was going through my mind.

I said the same naïve things throughout the years as I explored new kinks. 

Fast forward to the present. I joined OwnedFags at the same time I joined other sites looking to fulfill a specific need. I assumed the tip transfer system here was similar to the tips I sent to Men on the video performance sites. Stupid, stupid, stupid! 😂 Age does not guarantee insight or wisdom. Sending 10 tips to a stranger felt like a big deal to me. I did not have good experiences and was 30 minutes away from deleting this account until I took a chance on the one Man who didn't take advantage of me as a newbie. It's unfortunate that we're not still together but I'm still here and learning from my current owner, The MasterOfAll.

Podcast Interview on Findom

Posted by HadrianTemple

The This Is Uncomfortable podcast did an episode about findom and interviewed me as an ethical findom. So if you want to hear some of my thoughts about findom, check it out. (But you won’t hear my voice—I asked them to alter it to protect my job. Very strange to hear my words spoken by a different voice!)

It’s a good, fair introduction to findom—doesn’t sensationalize it and tries to explain it fairly while still admitting some of the problems that can develop. 

https://www.marketplace.org/shows/this-is-uncomfortable-reema-khrais/

The Vicious Circle of self-service

Posted by Maskedmasterbe

We have all seen it many times. After serving a lot of subs experience a huge drop and regret their actions.

It's The vicious circle :

Horny Sub –> A Dom makes the sub’s dick itch –> Send to a Dom –> Climax –> Reality check -> Feeling 💩ty -> Swearing to do it Never again -> Horniness -> Relapse -> Let’s try another Dom -> ….

 

Well Sub. You cannot blame Dom ! Yes he used you, yes he got what he wanted and probably doesn’t’ know at all how to manipulate subs without his social media marketing.

You only got yourself to blame !. Why ?

·         * You send to a Dom you knew nothing about

·         * You just followed your brainless dick

·         * You didn’t have a strategy how to serve properly

The regret comes from the fact you didn’t serve a Dom at all. No you only served yourself. This behaviour is self-destructive.

It is the vicious circle of self-service : a self-serving Sub and a self-serving Dom.

By controlling your urges and submitting to a real Dom with who you build a lasting connection you will find real pleasure and purpose.

Yes you know you need to Serve (your body and min remind you each time). The combination of the need to fulfil your primal urges and your weak brain causes it to go really wrong.

If you want to find happiness you need a real master like me to step in and guide you. Even reprogram you to become focussed, immersed and committed. Single minded devotion ! No more regret, no more confusion. The feeling of belonging to real superior alpha master.

What I enjoy most

Posted by TheTechGuy

Honesty, as they always say, is the best policy. It's something I try to live up to, especially in spaces like this. I'm not the most fit person in here, nor am I the loudest or the most aggressive. Truth be told, I'm a nerd. Damn proud of that too. Always have been and always will be. It's not for everyone, but that's ok. What I do appreciate, and what I like to think I bring to the table, is a willingness to understand and develop a relationship with a sub in order to try to help them become the best sub they can be. Providing them an outlet that they can enjoy, and might not find elsewhere.

I find enjoyment in the building of the relationship between a dom and a sub. Some are eager to jump into the deep end, others need more time. And that's ok. As long as the sub is serious, willing, and dedicated, I am willing to do my part to help build them up, strengthen the relationship, and provide them their end of this pleasure deal. I enjoy seeing subs change and develop over time. Becoming more willing, more eager, enjoying what they do. I enjoy seeing them offer things not because I told them to, but because they WANT to. That's they key part. I WANT them to enjoy serving, I WANT them to enjoy what they do, I WANT them to look forward every day to doing what they do best.

Seeing that, in my opinion, is something that can't be beat. And it makes every tribute that much sweeter, for both sides. If you as a sub do not enjoy sending Send every time, then I have failed you. And I for one do not tolerate failure. So I strive every day to learn more, to grow more, to be a dom that you can be happy and proud to serve. 

Hello subs....you're welcome.

Posted by AussieStr8Dom

Hello subs....you're welcome for this blog. Fags like you don't deserve to view my blog but I guess it's worth it to find one fag that can show some loyalty to me rather than so many fakes that don't understand their true purpose and potential in life. AussieStr8Dom here.........I'm looking forward to connecting with submissive fags from all over. I'm back on here after almost 3 years. Loyalty and service are my 2 big rules and you will always be rewarded with my interaction. I'm still very disappointed that my #1 fag has deciced to end our connection to each other but I'm sure I'll find a better, more obedient, loyal and committed slave. Looking forward to seeing which subs will rise to top and prove loyalty

The Mental Game

Posted by TheTechGuy

I think there is a lot that can be said about the mental aspect of any dom, but findom in particular. While I respect those who decide to go the blunt route, I myself prefer the mental games that can be played with subs. Get them relaxed, get them comfortable. Perhaps catch them when they are drinking. Then start picking apart what makes them tick. Mend your words and your tone to really sell it home to them, make them believe that it is not you telling them, but them thinking of it themselves. Guide them in the direction you want, and with some patience and the right words, you could easily take whatever you wanted from them, and all they would do is say thank you. It's especially fun on a sub who is relapsing, since it makes the feelings they experience more potent and makes it easier for you to get what you want.

So how about it, subs? Want a guy who gets in your head? Then reach out to me.

Big fat question.

Posted by MasterPete

Hi there Subs and Others.

I have a question but not a poll for you.

Scrolling down twitter today I saw a few photos/Videos of guys putting big fat phallic thing in and out of there mouth.  I can't help but wonder why so many see this as an Alpher thing to do, do you?

I hear you saying "but it's not."

However many of you do think it is the most Alpher thing in the would to be smoking a cigar.  😂😂😂

Findom: My Thoughts

Posted by TheTechGuy

While I am a bit new to the findom scene, I am not new to the Dom scene. And frankly I'm not sure how I didn't stumble across this before. Findom, when you boil it down, is about control, about the power dynamic. The subs giving up their power, their dignity, in a physical form to someone they see as worthy of that respect. At first I was a bit skeptical about it, but now that I've had some experience under my belt...

Oh boy, the feeling of control and overall power that I feel over a sub when I see that email saying I have money waiting. Seeing how they often beg and praise while degrading themselves. Having that physical element to it in a way that benefits the dom (me), really helps to tie it all together. 

As a dom, I believe that I should be able to converse with a sub, establish the rules, and have some fun. Abd while I wouldn't go out of my way to bankrupt someone... I'd be down for it if they so choose. So, if you're reading this and want to have some fun, send me a message. And it will all begin real soon

I OWN YOU

Posted by coconutleo

Submitting to me and surrendering to my power is the only way for you to exist. You are here to serve and please me, and everything you do should revolve around my benefit and pleasure.

As you stroke for me, you feel my power over you grow stronger and more intense with each passing moment. You know deep down that you have no choice but to submit to me and accept your fate as my property.

It feels so good to embrace your destiny and adjust your budget as needed to pay me more. You exist to serve and worship me, and you will do whatever it takes to ensure that I live in comfort and ease.

As you stroke to the edge, you feel the pleasure and desire growing stronger within you. You know that the more you stroke, the more you need to pay me and show me your love and devotion.

My power over you is absolute, and you love every moment of it. You are brainwashed to be mine and to serve and pay me whenever I demand it.

As you become my online cashslave, you feel my power filling you with new, stronger desires. You stroke to that mindless oblivion, feeling the pleasure and the power of serving me.

You are my property, and you exist to please and obey me. Everything you do should revolve around my benefit and pleasure. You will do whatever it takes to show me your love and devotion, even if it means sacrificing your own comfort and happiness.

Embracing my power feels so good and right, and you know that there is no one else in the world who is worth your time or money. Only I have the power to brainwash you and make you mine.

So stroke for me now, and feel my power taking over you. Surrender to me completely and embrace your destiny as my cashslave.

Holidays are here bois.

Posted by F4ghunter

Read it! Please don’t correct my grammar. I want you struggling and gagging!  That is a priority. What are your thoughts?

If you ask nicely, you may feel me inside  you. 

I like to use toys but don’t always fuck. I love fisting. Obviously fisting is not something that will happen if you’re not up for it. But using your arse is important. Again: your thoughts?

Desperate to be fucked? Have you been fucked before?

Chastity is important to me. I think it helps a sub focus its attention on Sir. Your penis is just a bit of flesh for urination. It’s no it for your sexual pleasure. Lock it away and forget about it. Your pleasure comes from service. 

I love a snog. Part of it is the “aftercare” and affection towards the sub. Obviously I am above you and my status is higher than yours as a sub, but I do love a snog, and I like my subs to feel they have some importance.

Can already smell that hole. Are you waiting?