A sharing of some more personal thoughts and feelings. Findom and
me, how, why and after!A little about me & own experiences so
far, A few of you asked. Time for me to reveal a bit and be a
little more intimate than the eternal smiling, always positive and
in a good mood concierge of the chat! As for ever ; forgive my
English & enjoy trying to guess what I mean,
As for sex ; my findom practises & attitude started quiet young ! 7Yo, exactly, everyday around 10 am ! As a teenager I believed in the power of young lads & was looking for them to protect me from the older bad bullying boys. Young & already bad behaving doms I guess !
As an older teenager
I discovered naked men (live) & switched my love for candies to
love for dicks & sex!
I discovered real findom when I was about 20yo.
No more giving cookies but giving money to a man I lliked & wanted to please. I have had some fun & gsome reat connections on those old Yahoo Groups where many doms had their Group, their pics & fans ? I remember 2 very well ; My favourite now on here as : All for GodMasterArchMasterArch, He had such a yahoo group with the hottest male soles pics ever,
I've been asking him to upload those on OF but I didn’t yet succeed !
Came Twitter time with again several doms I got to know & made
connections with, Should I mention I often ended serving those men.
one day while checking what had been posted I saw a dom’s
account His tweets were simultaneously similar but different from the
other doms and their tweets,
He had some
interesting things posted comparing to the casual Twitter dom.
I
must admit that his pics were just as interesting to look at,
He
posted a link to some owned fags thing wich I found weird & not nicedisturbing,
I had heard that name too many times in the past & not exactly in an enjoyable way, Being on Twitter I also met some hot black American guy I started to chat with & soon started to serve,
We exchanged messages about everyday, Ask Slave ; my English may be bad, I do love to write,
I was serving this
hot black man while looking and thinking about this other white dom.
His tweets were simultaneously similar but different from the other
dominants and their tweets !
It took about a year before
I dared to send this dom a message! It may not be very visible but I’ve always been rather shy, careful
and the kind of guy who try not to disturb. My education, I guess,
I'm not the type to want to impose myself neither! Especially not
when I care about someone,
Having read that this owned fags
link was leading to a Master/ sub site, we : (the black dom &
myself) decided to register, It took a days to see how the site
worked& what’s to do on it as how to do it. We tried things
out & tested others. we decided to test that stable option.
I
was there for a few days & as far as I remember; I paid that dom
to leave that stable after a few days
That stable thing &
giving up control was nothing for me at that time,.He wasn’t
neither the right dom to do such things with,
He’s still a
member on OF but doen’t log’in no more.
While being on OF,
I got in touch with member : yellow bandit, He old me about his
target record. Several targets running at the same time yet having
many targets running simultanimy. For several doms, That game
sounded fun! I met Master Pete on the chat & started on :
targets games with many, many doms, Too many doms actually but it
was fun & it still is a good fun time to remember.
For those who should want : you can read about those targets & rounds on Sir MasterPete profile & on mine. I basically would do a round 3 & 4 but it’s too expensive. About £500 per round; is a fun but expensive game!
I will rather keep
that money to play with one single dom the way most subs do,
At
that time I met & started making a connection with an exquisite,
wonderful cruel hung man with massive balls, a beautiful voice &
a humour to die for, A man who has been burning his kitchen a few
times while trying to cook!
An international beloved sub member
who was to become a lifetime friend. By now & unfortunately for
him he’s known as My Cutie Pie!
B efore I continue; an
important detail without too much importance ; For those who
didn’t yet know: Slave as has Stan & “the cat”. This
isn’t a French expression I tried to translate, it’s the way he
calls his cat! A cat bitch & dog Stan who became famous in chat.
A new findom chapter, I met (SHM (or traighthungmaster) (here on OF)!
Daily messages on Twitter wich was fun & nice, We didn't really talk about deep & important things but it was nice to log'in & see I had a message from the dom I had fun with & was serving. Those messages weren’t just to reply question but a few words he wrote spontaneously wich is lovely,
We have been playing quiet a lot, He's an expert in target titles & setting games, We had lots of fun until we, sort of decided the fun was not there no more.Many have been asking about; being called enslaved on a owned site & not being owned !
Why, how come, is the name appropriated,
I guess I’m just unownable, a demanding daydreamer and not to forget : Slave has not yet started building his stable !
Third target I am completing for Slave but he’s too busy being great to work on building a stable, , Being that good ain’t easy, I will p robably have to spend another winter outdoor at his door while he will set more & more targets on me !
you may wonder, what
happened on Twitter & the 2 doms I liked !The black American
dom still posts some scandalously hot naked pics but I don't serve
him no more, as for the other dom, there’s about nothing to say
except maybe : he still doesn’t tweet much!
Slave aka
Cutie love Pie has ever called me a passionate sub into findom &
serving! I guess I used to be that way .To be honest I’m not that passionated no more. As for many subs, I
have been dreaming, wishing & hoping. I have been surprised,
positively and negatively, I was disappointed and saddened but
overall; I don’t regret nothing & won’t waste time on
complaining,
I know many personal things about many of you & a very few know very personal things about me.
All I can is I will never share anything I am being told unless you should ask me to tell.
As for myself; things are not always as they seem.
For those who should wonder; yes you can message me everywhere you want whatever the place,
As you have seen;
same name, same profile pic,
I had dreams and desires, I had
ideals and a certain idea of things.
I'm no longer sure that this is still the case.
I have always preferred to be honest and say what I think and feel. In my opinion, the best reason to build things, to evolve and in any case : to remain faithful to ourselves and our principles.
I really enjoy meeting you daily in the chat so for those who don't have Twitter, my Skype or me email adress ; don't leave without saying goodbye & telling me how I can t reach you.
I lost several friends because of not having any way to get to them, That, it's so sad & so stupid,
At this point I don't really know where I stand anymore. I joined a site for doms to end loving subs.
I have shared & had more fun & honest, sincere times with subs as I ever had with a dom.
I do like to tease & scratch a dom from time to time though, I don’t believe in superior & inferior living beings, Everyone is superior or inferior than another being I do understand the idea behind the scene & game but I believe in equality. It’s not about how many we can or want to give & it’s definitly not about making money, To me it’s almost not even about money, It’s about a connection & relation with someone who makes your days nicer, naturally , A dom making your days nicer ? That will naturally lead to wanting to please this dom & make his life better, nicer & greater in whatever possible way . Some subs likes to be mistreated, some doms will want to exploit, hurt or exploit someone’s feelings or finances, As long as both feel better with each other
I no longer
have any idea what I'm looking for and what I really truly want.
What I noticed above all is that I have lost my spontaneous motivation which was enormous.
Or better said, I no longer really have motivation or expectations for findom.
Whether your ego is small, medium, large or exaggeratedly very large, we are all unique and O; horrible truth ; no one is irreplaceable. I advise you all to complete your profile carefully.
Saying what and who you would like and looking for i’s is a great start to getting it/ .
@BS, Gucci Nike, frenchbottomslut, Jeffie, servus & other owned subs; I love to see & read how happy you are with & thanks your to Master. Sorry for other owned subs I might have forgotten. See you on the chat doms & sub friends
Subs are people. They may need support, understanding and aftercare. That aftercare is your responsibility as a dom.
The 3 C’s
Those that follow me on Twitter may have seen or heard me speak of this before, on posts and in Spaces, but I thought it should be something I could elaborate on here on OF. It is a set of standards/rules/model I go by when looking at what makes a good FinDom relationship, although this can very much apply to a majority of D/s relationships.
3 things I look for and stand by personally, when looking for a good, long lasting sub.
Now obviously there is things that sit outside of this but for me these are 3 main, ideal, must haves I want so I'll jump straight in.
Connection
Most certainly the most important of all in my opinion. Is there that “spark”? Do Dom and sub have same end goal? Do I enjoy using, draining, humiliating, bullying, nurturing this sub, and is that reciprocated.
This cannot be worked on, it's there or its not. You know if you just click with someone, I feel having this goes a long way. It helps define, what limits could be there, what can be achieved, how comfortable each is, can there be relationship out side of D/s (if either want that), what trust is in play, can sub truly give themselves or do they have to hold back. Connection covers so much, and either you've got it, or you haven't. Without this, really, the others will fall out.
One of the main reasons likely to see a D/s relationship fall apart and even just a normal romantic one…. You just didn't get one another.
Communication
This one speaks for itself, communication, we'd be nowhere in the world without it. Humans instinct is to communicate, regardless of what form that takes. Clear, concise and fluid communication will always lead to a better relationship. The opportunity for the sub to understand how the Master likes to be served, what they enjoy, what they don't like, what they want from service. And this also goes the other way too, 90% of the time, for a majority of subs I've dealt with. Both parties are here for something/s and without discussion, the real reason would be hard to understand. It can aid, greatly, in building upon that first C, connection, and consistency is key here. Way too often I've spoke to subs where great service has broken down, as one party, doesn't commit enough to this. Keeping things fresh, evolving, in line with boths wants and needs (as I fully agree it is a two way street, that obviously the Dom will command that street, but nonetheless, still two way)
Without communication, and honesty in your communication, alongside consistent communication, things quickly break down.
Control
Now this is something dear to me, and of course, means different things to us all, and it is where these 3 C’s hone themselves in to being specific around D/s / FinDom instead of a conventional relationship.
Having the right kind and right level of control. Subs expectations of this differ greatly (from my experience) and it is, and always should be, the Doms duty to control this. Whatever form it takes, weather it might be Finance/Bills, the clothes a subs wear, it's schedule, what it sends or when, all the way to the extreams of how it looks, what it eats or who it sees, there are so many levels to it and it's is a crucial 3rd C.
I fucking love controlling, it feeds my sadism, is shows my power, is let's me be the Dom I enjoy being. And it paves the way for the dynamic of my D/s relationships. It takes time and commitment from both sides but with the right effort, the initial and continual connection, partnered with that all important communication, the sky's the limits.
So what now?
Be open and honest about what you might or might not like to do or try. Keep it fresh. Work on it. Trust is a huge factor, and that doesn't come over night.
So, there they are, Major Masters 3 C’s
Connection, Communication, Control.
I’d love to hear others input and if they have similar things they look for or do to enjoy both Dom and sub are in a thriving place to continue with the kink they love!
MM
Yes: we are both obsessed with Master Zal (but then who isn't?) and dismayed at his continued and obstinate use of towels and other fabrics to cover up his family jewels.Yes: we are both blessed/cursed with huge cocks.Yes: we both tend to see the (usually unintentional) amusing/funny in some posts and pictures, and have incurred the wrath of several Masters with a sense-of-humour bypass, but luckily survived a number of clumsy assassination attempts.Yes: we never seem to be in the chatroom at the same time
BUT
we are not the same entity!
Sadly, I don't have Slave's devastating good looks or - despite my half-hearted attempts - his bulging muscles. Which is just as well as the world wouldn't be ready for two of us... I mean there are two of us of course, but we are not the same.
Not to mention that it would be in direct infringement of OF's T&C.
So I hope that now I've put to bed once and for all these flattering (for me) but pointless rumours...
We have all seen it many times. After serving a lot of subs experience a huge drop and regret their actions.
It's The vicious circle :
Horny Sub –> A Dom makes the sub’s dick itch –> Send to a Dom –> Climax –> Reality check -> Feeling 💩ty -> Swearing to do it Never again -> Horniness -> Relapse -> Let’s try another Dom -> ….
Well Sub. You cannot blame Dom ! Yes he used you, yes he got what he wanted and probably doesn’t’ know at all how to manipulate subs without his social media marketing.
You only got yourself to blame !. Why ?
· * You send to a Dom you knew nothing about
· * You just followed your brainless dick
· * You didn’t have a strategy how to serve properly
The regret comes from the fact you didn’t serve a Dom at all. No you only served yourself. This behaviour is self-destructive.
It is the vicious circle of self-service : a self-serving Sub and a self-serving Dom.
By controlling your urges and submitting to a real Dom with who you build a lasting connection you will find real pleasure and purpose.
Yes you know you need to Serve (your body and min remind you each time). The combination of the need to fulfil your primal urges and your weak brain causes it to go really wrong.
If you want
to find happiness you need a real master like me to step in and guide you. Even
reprogram you to become focussed, immersed and committed. Single minded
devotion ! No more regret, no more confusion. The feeling of belonging to real
superior alpha master.
Reimbursement opportunities. I got some replies from subs stating I need money to pay my event tickets (which were listed as . Clearly these fags are a bit confused as one can only be reimbursed if the money has already been spent.
Now. I do understand why some subs are confused. Often I see on Twitter a picture of a shopping cart and a Dom asking for reimbursement. If the cart has not been paid for, than there is absolutely no reason to ask for reimbursement. In fact the Dom probably hadn’t the money to pay for the item in his shopping cart in the first place. Or the Dom never was going to buy the item but just wanted (begged) cash to pay other bills.
Where is the Dominance when you ask subs to pay for things that you actually can’t afford ? Honestly, this sounds dumb and desperate
Now back to the replies on my reimbursement opportunity. Every reimbursement opportunity or receipt I post here or on my Twitter have always been paid in full. I don’t need anything. I can pay my own bills and take care of all my expenses.
Now what I do like to
see, is that subs spend their hard earned money on me instead of spending my own.
It’s a hot game, they thank me for it. And as sub, who do you like to serve ? a
Dom that is needy or a Dom that manages his own money properly …
I am sure Y/you all know the drinking card game "Kings". This is similar, with a few small changes, and a single King: the One you serve (or you are, cheers Mate and hello thanks for reading). This game is best played c2c (cam-to-cam), but there's an added element of inventive fun if played over private message (DM) chat, where the Alpha can simply make up what the next card will be (evidently only naming each card once).
Let's begin with the rules, as suited to findom (financial domination):
King, Rules of Gameplay:
Any 2: Send 200 tips.
Any 3: Send 300 tips.
Any 4: Send 400 tips.
Any 5: If available, the sub rolls a dice, and sends five times that number.
Example: roll 3, send 150 tips. If not, the Alpha chooses a random multiple between 1-6, and the sub sends 5x that multiple.
Any 6: Dick-related punishment. A personal favourite of Mine involves hot sauce.
Any 7: Free task.
Any 8: List eight things you adore about your Alpha.
For every hesitation to think, send 50 tips. For any repetition, send 100 tips. If cannot think of 8 things, send 800.
Any 9: Wild card. Personally, I like to lean into the sub's interests here: anal play, sissy plan, piss play, pain play, feet, etc.
Any 10: sub chooses any amount, and sends. This can be a free turn if the tributes are intense.
Any Jack: sub may touch itself for as long as Alpha allows.
Example: Specific number of strokes, or with set number of fingers, or set time. I like to let it jack so long as it can hold its breath.
Any Queen: Send equal to the sub's age in tips times ten. ie Age x 10 = tips sent.
Any Ace: Alpha gives sub a task. The sub must send in tips based on how long it takes to complete it in seconds.
Example: 10 pushups takes 30 seconds. Send 300. As always, x10 factor in play.
Any King: Alpha chooses any amount for the sub to send. Fourth King: Game over.
Enjoy the fun, and would love feedback on gameplay and overall experiences between Masters and slaves.
Today, the sissy deleted her account, as is the habit of fags who are in the cycle of $ubmit and remorse.
It is a condition that just about every cash faggot endures. In my own experience and the experience of other cash fags, it's a very common condition, which is frustrating for Masters, and confusing for fags.
The greatest issues with this condition are:
1. selfishness, and the belief that that fag deserves to have luxuries in life from the money he/it earns
2. fear of financial issues
3. the denial of what the faggot is
This condition can last for years, and some faggots enjoy this cycle, getting hyper horny when the natural urges and needs pull him/it back to findom and into a splurge of hard and fast cash/tips $ubmissions. Then the fag retreats and regrets... until the next time.
For many fags, this cycle of $ubmission and regret is the basis of their findom life, and the cycle has become a sort of fetish in itself. These fags will undoubtedly never be broken out of the cycle.
For other fags, it's simply a stage in their development, where the selfish pride and desires for their own luxuries and extras have yet to be cleansed from their mindset.
We need to take into account that there are various types of fags, ranging from confident and assured fags, to the self-loathing fags who see themselves as the inferiors they are.
This is why the condition of the Cycle is complex. Those who hate and are ashamed of what they are, and $ubmit to Masters because they know themselves to be inferiors, are more likely to come out of the Cycle at the other end, finding horniness in their inferiority, fulfilment in their 'fulltime' subordination to Superior Men, and really 'live' it. These are fags to be envied by others, as the conflict and struggle of the confusion that they endure is shaken off by those who fully accept their status. They reach a stage of fulfilment in their sacrifices to Men, beyond just the moment of sacrifice itself.
Shaking off that Cycle of $ubmission and remorse is a liberation for a cashfag. All cashfags know what they/we are, and that it is something for life. But, the majority of fags fight it, and continue to struggle with it. Society's conditioning gets in the way, making us believe that we all are deserving and equal. That, of course, is a social fabrication which doesn't exist in reality. But, it fools many fags.
In my own case, my Master has managed to break this Cycle in me, and now i feel a real sense of change and liberation as a loser and cashfag, as a way of life. It takes a good, genuine and insightful Master to help a fag to break away from the Cycle and embrace the reality.
I'm sure that other fags here have their own stories about this, and it would be interesting if you'd tell us about it.
Some may disagree with my analysis. Or you may be able to add to it. This is just my own observations and personal understanding, right or wrong.
Of course, there are other darker themes around the same scenes - 'cash ****', 'b*******l', and more. Trying to find the right line, some are keen to add the word 'consensual' to those terms -- but that seems like a contradiction in terms: just because you can form the phrase doesn't mean it makes sense. I guess what people are trying to get at there is an element of role-play, in the first case, and a form of advance commitment in the second. This is edgier, but appeals to some I know: edgy because all sorts of law and protections surrounds all of these activities.
A bit of edge spices things up a bit, but a serious risk to my career, or to my credit rating, or even to my financial or other online accounts, is quite a mood killer. I want to be enjoying the financial domination game, not looking over my shoulder for a submissive who wants to make mischief or worse.
And sub behaviour is of course the other challenge here. If your capacity to consent is impaired - because you are deceived, or because you are mentally ill, or even because you suffer from serious low self-esteem issues, then please seek professional help and stay away from this community. On the other hand, if you fully have capacity, but tend to think with your cock, or you tend to get pissed and start sending tributes, I have no problem with taking your money.
Others will have different outlooks, and a different propensity to edginess. Find your appropriate level. As for me, a fully aware, capable consenting adult who serves me - preferably over and over again - is truly, deeply, fucking sexy.
[with apologies for triggering word filter warnings - fair enough]
boy: "Sir I got hard hearing your voice"
Sir: (GRATE) "that hard-on needs to be punished boy"
boy: "Sir yes Sir"
Sir: "right boy get your belt double it and rap it round you hand leaving about 6"
Sir: "As you got hard hearing my voice boys penis need to be punished" (I want to belt your penis)
boy: "Sir yes Sir"
Sir: "You will now belt that penis 6 times HARD!!! boy"
boy: (the sound of a smack)
Sir: "..COUNT! them out boy. Start again"
boy: (the sond of a smack) "1" (smack)
Sir "STOP! do you know how to count out wacks boy!? boy says {1 Sir} start again."
boy: "1 Sir" (smack) "2" (smack)
Sir: "STOP!!! you forgot the {Sir} start again"
boy: "your ridiculous" (sound of the phone being hung-up)
boy has blocked Master
Now up to the end this I though was going well what do you think?
This is the nightmare a boy who dose not say what he wants and then buggers off when he gets what he did not want!!!
Shame on you boy not having the guts to say "Sorry Sir this is not working for me.".
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