10 Tips for subs New to OwnedFags
I recently wrote a similar piece for new Masters.
This one is specifically for submissives new to the site. Read up & enjoy.

Feel free to DM if anything below is unclear.
If you approach Me inquiring about this article, I won’t presume you want to serve Me.
Note: some Alphas will disagree. Ultimately, s********n is about serving your Alpha.
So do what they want first and foremost. This is simply a basic set of guidelines.
I’m well aware of the similarities to the Alpha version; it’s meant to be a converse piece.

1. Read the rules.
Read the website rules. Read about kink, about D/s ownership.
Read up on findom.
If your Alpha commands a kink or task you don’t know: ask about it. Learn about it.
Don’t play dumb. It’s see-through.
Everyone starts somewhere. You are born with the purpose to worship your Superiors.
Thrive in that purpose exuberantly, within the guidelines set for this community.
The only tribute allowed here are those sent with OwnedFags tips. No other tribute methods allowed. Period.

2. Do not waste time.
I almost put this first (but reading the rules is truly critical).
Simply put: don’t waste an Alpha’s time. Don’t waste anyone’s time.
Can Alphas be pushy or talkative too? Of course. That’s not an excuse.
It’s important to get to know each O/other. That’s not an excuse.
As a sub, the onus is on you to be useful and earn an Alpha’s presence. Always.
Send before speaking, even if only a beer (which represents 50 tips or ÂŁ5).
If an Alpha reaches out, don’t drag on the conversation. Serve, or decline.
Here is a short list of common excuses that signal to an Alpha a sub is time wasting:
* Scared to serve because a past Alpha mistreated or manipulated them.
* Unsure how all this works, so needs you to explain every little spoon-fed detail.
* Leads the chat with their own desires, especially time-intensive ones like cam or real-time.
* Wishes they could serve, but has to ask their other Master offsite.
* Wants to get to know you, then after a short exchange, vanishes once time to serve.
* Would definitely tribute, except their jobless or a student, so don’t have the money.
Which leads quite naturally to:
3. Tribute. 99.9% of dynamics will require it.
There are Alphas who dominate without requiring tribute. It’s an extreme rarity.
More so, you should still be offering them gifts to show gratitude.
So tribute. Be useful. Be proactive.
Every day, your sacrifice restarts. There is no entitlement. There is no earned credit.
Be clear what you can afford. Then push yourself to the very edge of that limit, for Him.
Findom is about power exchange through currency transfer. Much like bondage is through mobility transfer.
It's just another vector for a submissive to surrender to its Dominant, whether in session or lasting servitude.
For almost every Alpha —especially this website’s community— it’s essential.
s********n is sacrifice. Sacrifice hurts. That’s the point. And it’s clearest with tribute.
4. Communicate.
If tribute is the heart of s********n, communication is the brain.
Have a request? Tell your Master.
Found a new limit? Tell Him.
Feeling regret, guilt, sadness, worry from sub drop? Share it.
Feeling horny, eager, masochistic, desperate? He will use it.
Not interested in an Alpha’s DM? Tell them by declining politely.
Do not ghost. Do not leave an Alpha on read. Be better.
Learn how your Alpha likes to be referred to. Use it.
Does He want certain words in ALL CAPS, or Capital Case, or $tylized perhaps?
Do the little things (on top of the fundementals).
I have yet to encounter an instance that cannot be solved with tribute and communication.
Sometimes only one is needed. Often some combination of the two.
5. Respect every Alpha. That doesn’t mean be boring.
D/s is a simple acronym to portray that every Dominant is above any given sub.
As such, owned, new, seasoned, cynical, or otherwise: respect every Alpha.
That means be courteous in chat. Reply in DMs.
A simple “Sorry [Sir/Boss/Master/God] but I am not interested. Have a good day.” goes a long way.
That doesn’t mean you always have to tiptoe around Alphas, or feel scared to engage.
Chat with Us. We may poke fun. We may taunt. That’s part of the D/s community.
It will teach you about the Alpha mind, and about yourself.
An Alpha is usually more generous with an amusing slave than a vapid cunt.
6. There are many types of subs. Know what you are.
There are owned subs who live to serve their one true Master.
There are owned sluts who are loyal to a Master, but serve many.
The Master knows this, and sometimes even encourages it.
There are community/session whores who serve freely, to all.
Some subs like the games here. Others enjoy camming. Some love tasks.
Some subs fuck their Alphas non-stop. Some live at the glory hole.
Others are straight & married to women. Others are asexual.
Subs clean apartments. Subs get filmed tied up in dungeons.
Kink is a massive spectrum. For every sub, exists an Alpha.
If you’re completely new to BDSM, take a kink quiz online.
Once you know what you want, and what you are:
7. Express your wants & limits clearly.
Lasting s********n begins with finding the right fit.
Many Alphas reach out to new slaves.
Verify your account.
Complete your profile.
If you just took the aforementioned quiz, post the results to your profile.
Add as much *concise* detail as possible. No one wants to read a brick of text.
Be clear about the type of Alpha or dynamic you enjoy.
Be clear about any limits, experience, and considerations you have.
If you’re stuck, go to the Slave Market and observe the top slaves’ profiles.
Do not copy them.
Use them as a reference to construct your own original thoughts.
8. You will fail. Learn from it.
I’ve seen spectacular fuckups from subs.
And smaller day-to-day mistakes.
This might be an innocent hiccough, or a willful blunder.
Either way. To revisit #2, the best apology is said with tribute.
Then own your failure, and explain to your Alpha you know what went wrong.
Moreover, explain how you will improve, and grow.
Then commit to that growth, and do not repeat your mistake.
9. Building dynamics takes time.
For every Alpha you crave, there will be others that demand your servitude.
For every Alpha you serve, there will be others you crave.
For the Alpha who owns you, you may want to also serve others.
I cannot speak to numbers here.
I’ve never discussed this with My subs to know how many Alphas reach out.
It’s a part of being a useful sub. It’s appealing to other Alphas to see a slave serve its Master.
So, be useful, and be prepared for it to be noticed.
10. It isn't a competition.
It's easy to get caught up in the points. The Pantheon & slave market positions.
I've been guilty of it as an Alpha, as I'm sure many others are on both sides.
s********n (and domination) is about the intimacy & thrill of power exchange.
Finding the right Alpha for you isn’t just about W/who’s on top (pun intended).
Is success attractive? Obviously. Does it signal a certain experience? Generally.
Are those in the Pantheon top 25 on here regularly, and actively? Almost always.
Use points as a general indicator, not as an ultimate measure.
I know lasting ownerships for Dominants who aren’t “famous” here.
And I know subs who serve sublimely but aren’t top of the slave market.
As much in finding your Alpha(s) as in measuring your own success serving them.
If your Master is pleased, you will know.
If your Master is displeased, you will definitely know.
Celebrate other subs’ serving Him well. That’s the point. Don’t be jealous.
Those are your beta brothers, serving your Alpha: his desires fulfilled.
That’s all that matters.
Obvious bonus: The reality is unique to you and your Alpha (and have fun).
This article is a general guideline: you should serve, obey, and listen to your Master(s).
As I’ve said: kink is vast. The same goes for ownership, session play, and everything in-between.
If you aren’t happy, tell your Alpha. If he is unhappy, do all you can to learn why (if unclear).
Then fix it. If it doesn’t work, He can remove you from His stable, or you can leave yourself.
Don’t delete your account. This place isn’t nearly as scary as it seems. It’s a beautiful community.
Stick around, and remember:
s********n is between you and Him. Everything else here is secondary.
This isn’t a place for friction or frustration. It’s about pleasure.
Finding pleasure in pleasing your Master.
Cheers.
Master of the day May 16. I have been a Master for more than 25 years now and have had some really good experiences. For me it's not a game. It's my way of living. And now I am contemplating wether I should share some of my events in writing.
Being a true and open Master means my friends and colleagues know me as the true Me.
Some colleagues have also learned that if they ask about my night before they will get a full reply.
This is an excellent site for me. I have a lot of fun with findom and it fits my ideas of Master slave relations, but it is also just a part of all that that I am.
My main goals are real meetings and training of a slave to become a total slave for my pleasures .
A sexslave, workslave, cashslave, painslave, totally exposed for me, under total control of me, trained by me and molded into my idea of the perfect total slave.
Looking for those few gems of a slave I take my time and enjoy the journey.
I already found a good few and I am very proud of them but got time for a couple more.
Let me know if slave thinks it's up for the task. Up on my standard. And we'll talk
Sir
by DorianTheAlpha
Now, I will preface in saying this is My opinion, though one I know it is shared across hundreds of Superiors. That said, you may well find a Master that views s********n differently than I describe here. If so, I weep for you because you'll never know the bliss of true sacrifice to serve your Master's pleasure.
Let's begin by listing off the excuses so many pretenders enjoy bleating to Masters Who've heard these tired lines a thousand times before:
- i am student/jobless right now, but i can serve You in other ways.
- i want to send to You, but i need to trust You first.
- i might be open to sending, but financial domination is not My primrary kink.
- i was mistreated by a previous Alpha, i need to recover before i can worship You.
- i have no money to send, but i can be Your promo/task slave.
If this is you: you are the worst kind of wasted space in findom and kink as a whole. These aren't reasons; they're excuses. Do better. Redefine yourself to serve His pleasure first and solely.
There are countless others, equally transparent, equally boring, equally self-branding "block me: i'm a waste of time".
This article is meant as instruction, and as motivation. Like all habits, starting with a few easy steps will lead to undertaking the harder ones. In time, you can be the best slave you can be by incorporating all of these and more. Internalize the spirit of these habits to truly devote the entirety of yourself to your Master.
1. Work harder, smarter, longer.
Secure a raise or bonus? That portion goes to your Master. Great night of tips? Those are Alpha's. Win a payout, lottery, jackpot, raffle, contest? Guess whose: your Owner, silly pet. Get a second job, or third, gigging: Uber, tutoring. Suck cock if you can get paid for guzzling cum in your Master's name. Be creative, and proactive.
2. Cut back on luxuries and indulgences.
Don't buy meals out. Meal prep, and make that coffee/tea at home. Skip the steak, and eat chicken or beans. Fast intermittently if your health allows it. d***k less, or not at all. Only Alpha Men consume fine spirits; you get hooch if anything. Forget about tobacco, weed, parties: they are revelries for Superior Males. Designer labels, latest tech, new toys of any kind... these have no place in a cash slave's world.
3. Simplify your lifestyle.
Forget the Uber: walk, bike or commute. Don't bother with a flagship smartphone when a budget model will do. Take cold showers and reduce your heating/AC to send your Master those savings. Workout? Cancel that gym membership, and go train outside. Sell your appliances and wash your dishes and/or clothes by hand. Which leads Me too...
4. Sell your valuables.
Collectibles: magazines, comic books, video games, watches, vintage items, etc. Jewelry, needless gadgets, vehicles, sex toys (looking at you sissies). Anything you are guilty of from #2, sell — that's a simple starting point. What feels more right: you owning $1,000+ of superficial goods you could do without, or placing that cash into your Master's powerful hands, where it belongs?
I have likely missed ideas here. What matters is starting small, being accountable to improve through sacrifice, communicating your commitments to your Master, and most or all: sending as soon as you have cash to do so. The longer your Master's money stays with you, the lazier you are being, slave.
Read, act, send. Or pretend that you are already doing "enough" for your Alpha, as if that is even possible.
We always deserve more...
A fag so eager to serve gets me rock hard. I approach. The sound of my footsteps makes him tilt his hole upwards – to heaven, to his god.
I tease his hole with the tip of my cock. He begs for it. He's clutching poppers. I tell him to take a sniff and count him down from 5 ... 4 ... 3 ... 2 ... I drive my cock deep into his slave cunt as he inhales. He whimpers like a bitch. He's here to serve.
I leave his hole gaping, my alpha seed poking out of his cunt. It drips. I help myself to both $20s.
One of my favourite quotes is from Orwell, in Nineteen-Eighty-Four, which really sums things up well:
“How does one man assert his power over another, Winston?“
Winston thought. “By making him suffer”, he said.
“Exactly. By making him suffer. Obedience is not enough. Unless he is suffering, how can you be sure that he is obeying your will and not his own? Power is in inflicting pain and humiliation. Power is in tearing human minds to pieces and putting them together again in new shapes of your own choosing.
There are few better descriptions of the power exchange dynamic in BDSM. The distinctive of BDSM is that that power exchange is - or should be - consensual and voluntary. That makes it all the better.
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