Jason just turned 45. He looked at the birthday cake his mates had bought him. No wife, and in a career he hated. What had he achieved in life so far? He thought to himself… All of his mates were married with kids. He’d spend his nights wanking, always feeling a sense of guilt after.
Most of his mates had left his house after a few birthday drinks, back to their own lives. His mate’s cousin Alex had cone along… Jason hadn’t spoken to him much all evening, but he’d overheard him say he was 27, and worked in IT. It was clear he worked out, he wasn’t particularly huge but was well toned. Jason definitely felt a bit of envy about his lean body.
About 5 minutes after everyone had left, Jason heard the door open.
“Alright mate, just forgot my wallet.” He heard Alex’s voice shout from the corridor.
Alex walked into the kitchen and Jason shyly said “oh did you? Oh yes must be this one?”
Jason picked up the wallet from the chair and passed it to him, nearly tripping over himself in the exchange.
“One too many lad?” Laughed Alex.
“I’m getting too old for this 💩” Jason replied.
“Too old to party?” Alex asked.
“Yeah, I guess I am.”
“Fucking hell man it’s your birthday you sound miserable as fuck… did you not have a nice time?”
Alex noticed Jason was looking at his arms and chest. He’d noticed Jason was doing this earlier when Alex was joking with the other lads.
“You checking me out bro?”
“What.. erm… what do you mean? No, checking you out?”
“Yeah man, looking at my chest and arms like you’re fixed on them…”
Jason’s face turned bright red, as he spluttered “No man I’m not… I’m not a…”
“A what?” Alex asked.
Jason’s eyes had moved to focusing on Alex’s feet.
Jason stuttered “A… you know… A faggot!”
Alex started laughing.
“You seem pretty focused on my feet now lad. You sure you’re not thinking dirty things?”
Jason panicked now. He didn’t know what to think or say. Had the thought crossed his mind? Was he feeling envy about this 27 year old’s body or was it something else?
Jason started to speak but couldn’t find the words, he could feel his face getting redder and his palms were sweating and shaking.
The smile had gone from Alex’s face now. He looked stern as he stepped in front of Jason.
“Why don’t you get on your knees bitch? and I’ll tell you how this is going to go.”
Jason still couldn’t make eye contact with Alex. He didn’t understand why, but his knees started to jerk, and before he knew it, he was kneeling in front of the 27 year old. Eyes still focused on his feet.
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If you’re owned, always ask your Master’s permission.
Let’s begin by stating what I consider to be a basic principle: superiority is earned, not given.
I would question anyone claiming that asserting dominance over someone else is their “birthright”, or that they were born superior.
There are, of course, social and environmental factors that might have given someone the upper hand, or at least a certain advantage, in the path to earn that status. However, such things do not suffice to claim the title.
There is a reason why competency based interviews exist: writing up the perfect resume is easy, but demonstrating that you have all the right skills to perform well in a role is a different story.
It is similar to someone claiming to be funny: prove it to me, tell me a joke, make me laugh, and only then I shall agree with that statement.
There is of course a certain type of character who may fall victim of what has been referred to as the illusory truth effect: repeat a lie often enough and people will come to believe it.
And even though our actions should not be, for the most part, conditioned by the recognition from others, in this particular case, the power of numbers matters.
Superiority drives momentum, and it is, inevitably, closely related to leadership.
Most of us would recognise the key attributes of a good leader: charisma, confidence, integrity, motivation, authenticity, credibility, creativity, emotional intelligence, gravitas…
Powerful people move masses; not by chance, but because the way they portray themselves appears to be attractive to others, and it is that magnetism what provides the power to influence others.
One might wonder what specific characteristics can be considered attractive, and that would probably be a topic for an entirely different blog.
For some, it comes down to physical appearance, looks, and muscles; others value communication skills and empathy; a few people prioritise intelligence and knowledge; many would argue that the most attractive leaders, the truly superior ones, are those who happen to be the full package… and there is always the hopeless ones for whom a full package is reason enough to follow, submit, and obey.
So if you have made it thus far and read this blog in its entirety, ask your self:
As a slave, are you really serving someone who you admire and respect, someone who motivates you, and that you consider a rightful leader?
As a Master, are you really “superior”, and do you really have traits that separate yourself from the rest?
Record Rounds of Target setting.
My idea was not to make the biggest single target but to have the biggest number of targets.
In Round 1 we had over 18 targets and enslaved payed WELL OVER!!!! 2000 tips. Round 2 enslaved is making his Masters lives so much better.
Enslaved has been doing well in round 2 of my Record number of targets idea. There are always limits and rules. Masters have to be verified, with face photos in album and more of a daddy type than a twink or s*n.
Most Targets I have ordered enslaved to accept but sadly there have been a few targets that I have ordered enslaved to reject. Ether because the Master did not fit enslaved likes as I know them. Or the target was not that horny for one or both of us. All the targets have been and are reviewed before I say if enslaved can accept them.
Yes he may not be owned by me but he is guided and in some ways controlled by me and a few other Masters who enslaved finds horny and who work well together.
Update.
It's almost a month of round 2 and so I have started to think about round 3. However as much as this is not horny to hear. I know enslaved needs a rest to recharge his tips and to pay some life expenses. He has some long running big targets that he will do and some targets though to the middle of June. I am sure some new targets will come in and we will both review them. So "Round 3" won't start until later but it will start and when it does I hope it will be just as fun and horny as it can be, without too many rejected Targets.
Enslaved guide,
Master Pete
10 Signs You Are A Toxic Dom
by DorianTheAlpha
I just wrote one of these about toxic subs. I often hear from subs that it is a tricky thing to criticize those on the dominant half of this community. All too often, those comments are dismissed or even derided, because they are just "slaves", and should shut their trap. So, to that end, as an olive branch of sorts, I've considered some things I have seen firsthand from the worst among Alphas both here and elsewhere in financial domination and kink. If you are regularly guilty of these, you are a toxic Dom. I have done more than one of these, and more than once. I have certainly had my toxic moments, especially early on while cocky and still learning the ropes. Recognize your faults and your failures, and use this as a guide to not only be better as a Master to your submissives, but as a member of this community.
1. Doxxing & Hostility
This one is the same; it cuts both ways. No Dominant entrusted with their sub’s information should ever reveal those details, or act negligently with it. True b*******l is a crime (extortion). The idea of ruin/homewrecking fantasies is acceptable when practiced responsibly and consensually, but all too often that kink is done wrong, and puts real lives in harm’s way. If you cannot dominate responsibly and without hostility, then leave. That isn’t power, that’s pathetic. There is no place for that here on this site or anywhere in findom & kink communities.
2. Poaching
Don’t poach subs. Just don’t. It is natural for some subs to want a new Master over time, discover a better fit, etc. These are all relationships at the end of the day. The line can sometimes be blurred, I will admit. But poaching is poaching. And you know when you are doing it. I’ll define it here for those still unclear: do not ever attempt to seek tribute, s********n, or other such favours from an owned sub (as defined on this site by a lock symbol with a Master’s stable to its name). Always speak with that Master first and get their explicit permission if you sense a supplemental fit with a sub, which happens plenty often. Co-ownerships, loan dynamics, and session play are all healthy parts of an owned sub’s fluid servitude with their Master’s approval. Keywords: with their Master’s approval.
3. Disrespect
I’ve been guilty of this one. We all have tempers. Some more than others. There are those here who despise me (and I can be a bit much at times). Regardless: treat your fellow Alphas with respect. Treat subs, within the framework of kinky banter and bdsm, with basic human decency when it matters. Disrespect sucks the fun out of this community, and at the end of the day that is what this is: a community.
4. lllegality
Again, this cuts both ways as with subs: do not suggest illegal acts or substances with your slaves, ever. Especially do not do so on this website, where MOA works so hard to create a safe playground for our collective deviance. People can lose their jobs, their families, their lives. It sounds extreme, but those who have been around long enough know that sadly it happens to even the most experienced among us when things get out of hand, even for only a moment. That’s all it takes. Keep it legal, at all times.
5. Rejection
Much of domination is tied to one’s ego. Success feeds into it. Tribute and luxury lead to the expectation of a certain lifestyle. The comforts in having servants for your every whim & desire is a treat. However, if/when subs decide to leave: that is normal. Most dynamics do not last forever. Most dynamics are single sessions, or short bouts of servitude. A seldom few last longer, for months or years. Learn to handle rejection. Better yet, embrace it, even if that means accepting you don’t cater to everyone. I am the farthest thing from a skinboss, or a gay sex-driven Alpha. I provide an allure to those who want the Master that I am, and the domination that I offer. Simple: subs can say “no”. Deal with it.
6. Burnout
This might not fit the strictest definition of toxicity, but exhausted Masters tend to be the most impatient, sloppy with their approach, and quick to frustration with their subs. Know yourself, and know when it’s time to take a step back, to rest up. Everyone has their off days. Avoid burnout. We are at our best with all things in balance.
7. Pandering
This, while rare, is the bane of so many Masters’ existence: do not pander to toxic subs. When you indulge topping from the bottom (see my previous post on toxic subs if unclear here), you exacerbate the issue. Whiny twats ought to be disposed for the whiny twats that they are. Nothing more. Deep pockets cause Alphas to abandon their principles for a quick cash grab. Don’t. This is supposed to be fun, kink-driven power exchange. Some might disagree here; say it’s all about the money, no matter what. I say, “it matters what”. And the money is often what makes this fun, when done right. But lowering yourself to a sub’s every whim is not financial domination, and it is the farthest thing from dominant. If anything, it’s supplicant.
8. Sanctimony
The irony of this point following the last is not lost on me. All the same, don’t be a sanctimonious prick. We all generally agree how power exchange & financial domination happens. Some don’t. Some differ on the little things. Just because you see a dynamic occurring in a way distinct from your view of correct etiquette or approach, does not make you the grand arbiter of kink. And if you still feel compelled to comment, then do so kindly & constructively. No one likes a self-righteous absolutist. The range of perspectives & practices is part of why this place is so great. Let’s keep it that way.
9. Maturity
There is a reason that “ch-ild” is a banned word here. Don’t be one. This builds upon the notion of being able to handle submissive rejection; you will have plenty of conflict and friction in practicing all types of domination. Those who have succeeded here longest & most triumphantly continue to do so because they know who they are, they conduct themselves accordingly, and with utmost maturity. Conversely, the worst subs and least admired Doms often earn that reputation quickly because they stir up trouble and are among the least mature here.
10. Patience
This one is two-fold, and many may not agree with my second point here, but I suppose that is why blog’s are fun. Feel free to comment, especially if you disagree. Patience is key for all Masters, but especially Alphas new to the game. Have patience with your domination. Be patient with finding your tone, your brand, your following. Take it all as it comes, and learn from it. It’s easy to think you know it all on day one, or that you will skyrocket to the top. I’ve covered tips for new Masters in another post.
That said, there is a patience specific to new subs that matters for this community. Now, it is hard to tell when a sub is genuinely new (and not some relapsing worm). And some Masters still don’t care, which is normal and acceptable. Some Masters do not accept conversation prior to a show of resolve (usually tribute). I’d humbly argue that, to an extent, productive introductory conversation is part of what makes findom thrive at its best. So, if you so choose, have patience as a Dom. More often than not, when you learn to judge sub’s with some intuition, it pays off. Literally.
As always, I hope to see your comments and reactions below. To my dominant readers, stay powerful gents.
I truly enjoy providing satisfaction to others. So throughout the years, I found myself looking at Dom/sub kinks. From bondage to hypn o, pup play to h*********n – it was a heck of an anonymous, virtual ride. But as fun as they could be something was missing. It was all still abstract, irreverent, and transient by nature. I craved something more real. I didn’t know anyone else that was into these things, especially as I was brought up in a conservative community, so I was left to my own devices to delve deeper.
After years of exploring, trying different kinks and interests, I discovered Findom – it was a kink that I never even considered previously. Upon coming across some random videos on Pornhub of an unnamed Master, I found the thrill of giving up such control beyond the standard BDSM cliches exciting, adventurous and, most of all, hot. It was a fetish I felt a sudden magnetism to and in turn was obliged to investigate.
sub-story (pun intended) – Surprisingly, or not, I actually enjoyed being picked on by the hot guys in school when I was younger (although at the time I was confused as to why I enjoyed it so much). From superglue pranks and classroom teasing to taking my money in the playground. The range of tricks they pulled was pretty big. Albeit I hated and despised the verbal a***e and homophobic comments, the pranks and money grabbing parts were actually fun for me. I just never told them.
Unsure where to begin, I fell upon a different subscription site and signed up to a few different Alphas to get a vibe of who would suit and what works best. It was a BIG learning curve and I began to grasp very quickly as to what my limits were and what I hoped to get out of being a good sub. But most of all, how much I truly wanted to serve a Master who honoured consent, communication whilst being embroiled in the fun, yet encouraging me to cater to his every whim.
Not too long after I joined that site, I found a Dom who I felt I could serve truly. I think what drew me to him was that he was keen to build a long term connection with his subs rather than wanting to use someone in an unsustainable way...and then ghost. Yet taking my money at will (in a manageable fashion) and humiliating me through out-of-the-box challenges was his game. And I love games. I love silly. This Alpha offered all of that. He directed me to OwnedFags and I haven’t looked back. He created a mutually beneficial Master/slave relationship; I gave him the control, he gave me the pleasure of appeasing him. It is the most satisfying thing to indulge in and a true thrill to allow Findom (among other kinks) to envelop me whilst I embrace being a slave, and attempting to be a good one at that, with every ounce of my being.
Every kink is to be celebrated, not judged. Every Master/slave connection is unique and not to be boxed. There shouldn't be one rule that fits all as long as the terms work for all parties. Embrace the community, rather than a***e it. The LGBT community have spent centuries being boxed into societal constructs, resulting in judgement and persecution. We can finally see the light and do as we please (for the most part).
Do not be a dick who pushes us back into the dark ages.
But it doesn't tell us anything more than that.
A few days ago on Facebook I had one of those historic posts pop up from two years ago where I talked about having seen a cheap 10-days holiday in Corfu. Friends on Facebook had encouraged me to book it, as I'd not had a holiday in many years. A few weeks later, I came under my current Master, and the holiday was briefly discussed. He instantly decided that it wasn't going to happen, which I was partly sad about, but at the same time it helped me to focus on my new priorities. It did me a lot of good.
I showed this historic post to him the other day, as the post was funny, with me having thought that the holidays on offer in the travel agent window were all to Manchester and Birmingham, not having realised that those locations were the airports they were flying from. 🙄
He then asked if I wanted a holiday. It was obvious that he would have allowed it if I said yes. However, I instantly said no, as I would have to save a lot to have a holiday because of my low income, and it would be his money I'd be using.
My relationship with my Master is not about how much money I can hand over to him, but it is about how much I can sacrifice for him in my daily life. That cannot be quantified in the Pantheon, nor in how much money is handed over to him. He owns it all anyway, so as much of it as possible is handed over. But the level of sacrifice that achieves that is not possible to put on a chart on this site.
This blog may seem to be self-aggrandizing, but you'll understand that that's not it's purpose... There is an important point to it.
My point?
Treasure a fag's level of s********n and sacrifice over how much money they actually give.
It's often the case, those who are naĂŻve about how and why communities like ours, often use terminology that to them is inflammatory or has negative connotations in everyday society.
Any gay man who may have been bullied to a lesser or greater degree at school will tell you the term "faggot" is used in schools, and will have been called that now and then in the past - regardless if they were "out" at school or not,.
It often gets used to demean anyone who "doesn't fit-in" so viewed by the majority as weaker, geeky, nerdy, gimpish, or just inferior in that context.
But what about this context? (of a findom community)
The first group of people who question the use of "Fagot" (for obvious reasons) tend to be gay men. Society has come a long way, but some words are still used in a way that is upsetting for the people who are the targets. It is understandable many terms are going to get people's backs up, but with change comes evolution and progress.
I have always used the term "Queer" to describe myself, it also means unusual, quirky, singular or different. It is an adjective, not historically a noun. That's a choice others have criticised, as it's been used to insult them in their own lives, and I respect that.
As a gay man myself, openly gay and not ashamed of it to say it .and stand by my choice to use it in my own interpretation of the term, and aim to educate others about it's re-appropriation..
I've had fights over my sexual identity and others have died in our names to defend our entire existence, sadly many still do.
Back to education... it needs to be written down somewhere- because at some point we'll need to explain the circumstances of this social metamorphism of word-play and linguistic repurposing, From detriment to empowerment.
So, on Faggot!...
"Faggot" is a term (Similar to "Queer", "Dyke" or "Nigger") once used by those who hated us to denigrate us all, reclaimed by some within the LGBT community as a term self-defining submissive use to identify as.
Fags and Faggots of the world, we salute you!
Some confusing comments on some profile of Masters.
"Pay me to a***e you"
"You will pay me to lick my feet"
"My time is money. You'll pay for my attention"
...and similar 'pay me for' comments.
These are not findom. These are Masters offering a service for payment.
"Hand over your money because I deserve it, and I'll laugh at you"
"Open your wallet and hand over what's mine"
"You can't resist paying me for nothing in return"
This is findom.
See the difference?
Owned Fags is a male only site which deals with adult themes
You should only view this site if you are over the age of 18, male and are not easily offended.
