I’ve been on this site for a while now and had some great fun, I’ve met some lovely people but someone I met recently compelled me to sit and write a blog to mark the occasion. This is my storey of that encounter such as it is:
If you’re looking for a shouty aggressive agro Dom there are far better choices, take your money and get some quick thrills with many of the other Masters out there and you’ll have a great time.
If you’re looking for someone completely different then keep reading. I randomly started chatting to Master Trigger a number of weeks ago and was surprised at how quickly we clicked. Days went past with the chat getting better and better and he got me to relax and open up to him. We had great banter, he gave me some amazing advice and before long was helping me understand some of the struggles I am dealing with as a cash sub.
The conversation is engaging, the advice is exemplary and the support he’s given me has been really valuable. Master Trigger deeply understands the mindset of a sub, the mechanics of sustainable findom and is a hugely clever individual, he could outsmart me in a second. The single most impressive point I’m here to make is that he’s not once asked me for a single tribute and has genuinely made himself available to help me out as a fellow findom enthusiast.
I’ve actually brought him a couple of beers purely because I value you his help so much, purely out of gratitude and respect!
I could see myself developing things further with him in time but it’s so nice to find a Dom who’s interest is the kink over the cash. They say it’s what we do, not what we have that makes us who we are, I could not think of more fitting words.
Unfortunately, one of my most reliable boys has gotten himself into a non-open relationship.
I figured that I'd look on here for a new boy to take his place, although the physical side may be lacking if you are non-uk. That can be excused if you are up to the task.
I am an intelligent and (relatively, depending on my mood), patient Dom.
You must always be well mannered, obedient and in pursuit of my pleasure.
Your servitude may not always have a sexual aspect, for some it never does. If you want to experience those pleasures, you will require my permission.
I expect my boys to strive to better themselves in their whole life. I want to be a proud Dom.
Punishments will be meted out if you don't fulfil these conditions.
Both physical and mental.
My degree is related to psychology, I am a trainee psychoanalyst and have many years experience in manipulating the self image of a wide spectrum of people. Do not imagine for a second that you can fool me or lie.
I am in a relationship, he will always be superior to you, though never to me. You can safely know that you will never be my number one; but a few of my boys like to compete to be my favourite plaything.
Boundaries will be agreed.
DM me if you are interested in servitude. I will not chase.
*Life of a slave
Being under My Power and controlled by My Supremacy, you are now transcending to the ultimate level of inferiority.
When you are reaching ME, you already "surrendered" you Ego !
A perfect slave has no ego and has been borned to find and serve the Supreme Power that can Dominate it's entire life.
I am referring to you with "it" , because this is the lowest level of refering to a slave, a slave being worthless and having no desires in its life, apart from seeing it's Master happy and fullfiled by offering it's services.
*Training
It will be trained every week, feeling itself draining and stripped of its own life. (And slave will love this)
For My Pleasure and Desire, training will be made on cam and for every session, the slave has only one "right"... To strictly follow it's Master's Orders!
*Control
slave has the only right to please it's MASTER entirely. Every "move" made by the slave, MASTER has to be noticed with all the details. When slave it's asked anything, it's reply has to be as soon as possible, if there are any delays, explanations required!
*Tributes, taxes and finances
In order of appreciation and Worship, slave has mandatory "right" to send Tributes to it's MASTER.
Being a worthless fag, MASTER collect regularly fag tax from his inferior fag slave. In any other circumstances, when Master require any transfer, slave has to fulfill Master's wishes, unquestionably.
Fullfiling all * (points) slave will be honoured and proud of its life achievement!
Transactional "Findom" Roleplay
This isn't actually Findom but instead is a fee for service act. The word "sub" is replaced with "buyer". The buyer is looking to pay for service or goods. Often, the buyer will demand videos, live sessions or pictures, etc.), and the Dom will provide them in exchange of money. In this type of relationship, it's the buyer who has the real power.
Dominant male and submissive man do a great job of "playing the role"of so called financial domination. The Dom is in charge while the submissive takes his role. These actions usually occur when one or both are horny, mostly the sub and it ends when sub decided to say Bye. Tributes can flow nicely and still the sub holds the power in this situation. In this scenario, Doms who really know how to keep their subs horny, succed.
If you’re a Findom sub, your main priority is to provide tributes and gifts to your Dom/Master.
But, sometimes subs find themselves low on cash and when this happens, it’s important to find other ways to be useful.
I will suggest few things you might do for your Dom/Master:
4 ways a sub that's low on cash can still be usefull
*Become a promo sub - like, comment and share your Dom/Maste's content.
*Become a recruit sub - Reach out to other subs and connect them to your Dom/Master
*Become a content creation sub - create twitter banners , artwork, photoshop images,etc
*Become a research and a data sub - provide your Dom/Master with useful information and ideas that can raise his influence and reach - research and share strategies that have proven to be effective
The bottom line is true Findom subs exist to make their Doms/Master’s lives easier. If you aren’t useful in some way, then what incentive is there for your Dom/Master to spend lots of time talking to you? Don’t be that annoying sub who thinks your Dom/Master has nothing to do but engage in endless conversation with you. Be a useful sub!
Don't expect ME to spend time on you for nothing.
I am not here to offer you pleasure or to satisfy your needs
I consider time an expenditure- that's all about.
The amount of effort and time I put ,should be reflected on the account.
You don't necessarily have to approach with a tribute, but it is the best way to show your intentions and respect.
If you are broke, don't try to get my attention talking ABOUT how rich you are, just to get a session with Me.
10 Signs You Are A Toxic Sub
by DorianTheAlpha
It has been a long time since I’ve written a blog post. I try not to retread the same old thoughts I have covered before here; I invite you to read my other entries on topics like tips for newcomer subs, newcomer Masters, among other themes in kink. Today we will address something unfortunately ever-present in power exchange: submissive toxicity.
Now, let me say at the outset: this does not suggest Masters are not also at fault sometimes. It is possible for Doms to be toxic too. That is a post for another day. Here, I address common behaviours that all subs show at some point — these are signs you are being toxic. A good sub can have a toxic moment. Even the best owned subs slip up. It does not mean you cannot improve. Instead, use this as a reminder to be better. Grow & learn constantly to serve your Master as best you can. These are in no particular order, though personally I would say those highest on the list are the most egregious.
1. Doxxing & Hostility
To dox someone is to reveal their real identity online. If you even feel the hint of an urge to do this: don’t. Never threaten violence, or be hostile. If you feel that level of anger & aggression do to some slight in kink or your dynamic: walk away. This space is not for you if you cannot handle its intensity. Many people here keep their kink lives separate & secret from their career, family, and personal sphere. Any kind of hostile act towards your Dom, any Alpha, or any member of this community is unacceptable. This one should be self-evident.
2. Illegality
Many illegal actions are desirable. Substances, sex acts, even demographics. Regardless, never suggest or bring illegal activities to your Alpha. For some, sex work is their full-time career. For others like myself, this is a supplementary outlet to express my dominant self. When you suggest illegal things, you jeopardize that space. Deviant fun can be legal and still be plenty daring.
3. Topping from the Bottom
This is when a sub attempts to exert their desires and demands onto their Dominant. It reverses the power exchange: the Master is instead performing a “dominance fantasy” according to the conditions of their submissive role-play leader. Hence, topping from the bottom. This is the worst form of selfishness. Now, you can have submissive desires. And especially with single session play, it is important to voice them to your Dominant. However, in power exchange, your role is to please your Alpha first and foremost. If you have desires, there is a correct way to communicate them. That is not topping from the bottom. So speak properly, humbly, and when in doubt defer to your Master. Don’t be a selfish twat.
4. Inability to Handle Drop
This is most applicable to financial domination, but applies to other intense forms of session play like pain certain sex play. Drop, or sub drop, is a form of guilt and regret that can be all-consuming after intense sessions. In the throes of submissive obedience, you may send more or suffer more than you expected. Some of your limits may be tested. This leads to a lurching depression for many who are new to the feeling. It is your responsibility to manage it. Many Alphas offer guidance, aftercare, and compassion. Some do not. It is not our job to be your therapist. I personally tend to do so, but it is wrong to expect it from your Dominant. This is an adult space, between consenting parties. Behave as such.
5. Jealousy
If I need to explain this one at length, you are the problem. Do not be jealous another sub is sending more, receiving more time with your Alpha, getting more attention in the chat. This is about Alpha pleasure. If you are envious of others, work harder & serve better to achieve those same goals. Better yet, find the maturity to realize that you should only measure yourself against your own servitude.
6. Submissive Poaching
This is a rare case, but does sometimes happen. Never poach other owned subs from another Master to come and serve your Alpha. This is the equivalent of an Alpha poaching a sub; it is no better and just as atrocious. If a sub is unhappy, that is between them and their Master to resolve. An owned dynamic (as defined on the site; not “grey/open” dynamics etc) should always be treated with utmost sanctity and respect. Even between owned subs.
7. Nuisance
Owned or new, don’t be a dick (or a little s**t). There is a reason this is one of the tenets of the chat room, and it extends to private conversation. Don’t play dumb. Don’t be a brat, or rude. Many Masters will converse and dominate subs who have little to send, but speak soundly and offer entertaining banter. Don’t be a nuisance.
8. Over-investing
This is a two-parter, and both matter equally. Do not invest more financially here than you can afford. Doing so is on you if it happens. Never blame your Alpha for your own lack of self-control. Secondly, do not over-invest emotionally. Some Masters dominate with sexual overlap, and sometimes even romantic overlap. This is still kink in power exchange. Don’t let your M/s get messy. Don’t over-invest.
9. Deletion & Relapse
This isn’t even necessarily that annoying, it is just so predictable. Subs who can’t manage the above, generally are those who delete, and come back crawling under some new pseudonym. The relapsers. I suppose it helps that you pay a join fee each time you create an account here. Still, it’s transparent, and laughable. Best avoided if you hope to be a sub in good standing here among Alphas and your fellow subs.
10. Manipulation
The last point here is a broad stroke generalization for all the gaslighting, excuse-making, and other such vapid waste that subs spew in their squabbles with an Alpha. This isn’t a relationship of peers. This isn’t a negotiation. This is kink, s********n, and servitude to your Master. We have heard it all, and we see your pathetic tricks coming a mile away. Save it.
Avoid these my sweet pets if you do not want to be a toxic sub to your Master.
Serve well, and to my Dominant readers, stay powerful gents. Comments and questions, as always, are welcome.
2 months on the site & into findom. What an exciting world & discovery. Such a fantastic site & community. Thank you Masters & slaves to make it so great. And a huge thank you to MOA for creating the site & his work on it.
What I learned & did. What I like & don't! Tributes, serving Masters? I love it.
See my many tributes on my profile page & scroll down & down & down! Everyone is having his own preferences, do's & don't.
I respect everyone's choices as for mine so far & mainly due to some bad web experiences. I go for verified Masters with a few albums that include face photos. Most Alphas are verified with such albums. Time to play & serve. I am part of the group: Amazon lists on this site but mostly serve with tips. Please do not ask for any other ways. Especially if not knowing each other! yes I do have Skype & enjoy so called cam sessions to see & hear Master & his orders but let us begin here please. I will always try to entertain & please superiors.
Alphas are priority. I enjoy public use, humiliation & multiple draining. Not ruining! For now I am not into
pillory games.
Over 1700 Masters on the site & even more submissives. it's obvious I can not serve all Alphas matching my criteria. I will though do my best to stay on my slave's place. Keep it fun & horny for Masters & those who like me.
Targets on the other hand is a great way to serve,
entertain & make Sirs horny when used on public multiple draining
sessions. I am unowed & free to stay so but I love the hand of a dominant expert. Master Pete is in charge for my targets.His guidance & experience is precious on keping my targets & serving hot & possible. Idea, suggestions, wishes? you can ask him. He may not be my owner. I trust him, will follow his directions & obey his commands.
Please check his blog post: https://www.ownedfags.com/blogs/1592 you can ask him directly.
Any further personal use can also be asked to GrandMasterB: https://www.ownedfags.com/user/GrandMasterB
thank you Masters & everyone for making this site & community so hot & great
That’s it…. going ahead and stroking for BlackYoungAlpha now….
needing to submit to me … to give in deeper and deeper with each stroke,
surrendering to me further…. letting go of all resistance,
stroking right to the edge… not allowed to cum,
just feels so good to remember your place
that you exist to serve Young Alpha… that you are here for My benefit,
deep down there is no choice but to submit to My power,
my Power so strong and intense over you
feeling my power over you grow with each stroke,
deeper with each stroke… submitting as you accept your fate,
needing to serve … needing to please Me … needing to obey,
everything reminding you of my power over you,
you are the property of Young Alpha… existing for My benefit and pleasure
one else is worthy of your time or money
for only Young Alpha has the power to brainwash you,
it feels so good to embrace the new you.
to accept your destiny as my property
adjusting your budget as needed to pay me more,
knowing you exist to serve Me, worship Me, provide for Me,
even if your life becomes a bit harder, it is worth it to make my life easier,
you need to ensure Master lives in comfort and ease,
it feels so good and right to stroke right to the edge,
to feel that pleasure growing with each stroke
to feel that desire to pay more growing with each stroke,
to feel that need to serve and please me taking over you,
brainwashed to be mine … it’s so arousing
existing for Me and my benefit as you serve and pay Me,
for you love my power, and the pleasure… worshipping me,
it feels so good to obey and please me, serving as my online cashslave,
my power over you… loving paying Me
showing me how much you love me, whenever you pay,
even as I take more control … even as I take advantage of you as I see fit
for your cash. for your mind and body. for whatever I want,
stroking to that mindless oblivion that feels so good…. becoming my cashslave…
My power filling you… loading you … with new, stronger desires…
loaded cock that you edge… loading funds to send to Master ….
There was this kid I met through a findom website. I say 'kid' but he was in his mid-20s and had served two tours of duty in the US Army. He was a good kid -- but life had dealt him quite a few tough hands. We chatted a bit and had a bit of a dynamic going on -- but nothing serious.
One day we were chatting and came up with a new proposal. I would take oversight of his finances, and use that to control him. It was a fun prospect. He found a website that could link to all his bank/credit/savings accounts and give a dashboard overview of all his spending and balances. It was a 'read only' view: he could give me the password without allowing me to spend his money.
Quickly it became clear that his spending was chaotic. He was a student and living quite modestly, but had no concept of controlling his spending, or making a budget. So we went through and created a budget, designed to deliver a small surplus at the end of each month. The deal would be that half of the surplus was due to be handed over to me, and the other half would go to his savings.
And so, day by day, week by week, I kept oversight of his spending, and made sure he stuck to the budget. Spending that was out of line incurred a penalty -- an extra amount to be added to the amount owed to me. When he broke down and paid other FinDoms, the penalty was that he had to add twice as much to his debt to me. With regular contact, this started to fuck with his head. Every frivolous expenditure made him feel like he was robbing me, because it reduced the monthly surplus. He learned to visualise me every time he used his debit card. He remarked on how invasive and taboo it was to have someone else looking at the intimate details of his bank account. It was a very intense relationship for a while --- even though we only met once in this period (living on different continents).
The process worked, and he quickly understood how to set a budget, and how to keep to it. I had no intention of actually taking a pay-out: he was living far too close to the edge for me to think that ethical. But he believed that I would. And that was enough.
After about six months, the arrangement came to a natural end with a change of circumstances. His debt to me was quite significant. At that point he figured out --- maybe he figured it out earlier --- that I wasn't going to collect there and then. But the deal is that someday when he's a bit richer, he owes me a pair of Wesco boots.
The kid turned his finances around and now understands how to budget. He even plays it forward and dominates other subs --- though I think he takes their money. It was an intense, horny, satisfying experience with real power exchange, without any money changing hands. Findom comes in many flavours.
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