by DorianTheAlpha
This will be a far less prescriptive post.
It is nothing more than thinking aloud.
This post is about findom dynamics, and its impact on a sub. When brash, brazen and sometimes tactless Alphas demand excess, especially from new accounts or new to findom as a whole: they flee. Sometimes that is ghosting, and all too often full account deletion never to return. I'll be the first to admit, I'm guilty of this, especially in My early days as an Alpha. Now as you read this, a natural rebuke is: "if the pussy can't handle Me, then they shouldn't be here." And yes, as Alphas, subs will never know they countless trolls, timewasters, and other toxic trash We endure. And likewise, it is a sub's respsonsibility to hold themselves accountable: understand what is expected before engaging. After all, you wouldn't enter a boxing match without a parry or a punch, but I digress.
So, where is the line between sustainable domination, and negligent cashgrabbing? It is not a set boundary. Some slaves have much to sacrifice and years of experience. For many others, this might be their very first exposure to sociosexual deviance. Even with study & fervour there's still so much you can only learn: sending, submitting, obeying, deferring to a Superior... experiencing findom first-hand.
Alphas constantly hear the same refrain from subs. Something to the effect of, "But Sir, My last experience with findom, an Alpha asked for [insert large number in the sub's opinion] and then ignored Me/blocked Me." Now, they're often telling the truth. Evidently, others lie for attention. Here many Alphas either dial up their chest-puffing demands, or dispose/block the new sub right then and there.
So here lie the chasm. On on hand, earnest new subs get bulldozed by greedy Alphas who'd rather bark & bite than conjure any real sense of a findom dynamic. And equally if not more so, subs who will lie, cheat, whine and wallow without ever intending to truly serve. In this sea of mistreament from both sides, how does O/one navigate the vitriol?
Now this boils down quite simply: waste is dime a dozen. Great Masters & subs are a precious rarity.
My question becomes: how as an Alpha do you challenge yourself to avoid or overcome this (obviously this excludes consensual humiliation etc)? And more importantly, to the subs reading this, particularly new faces: I know you may have been used, even discarded before. What you don't know is an Alphas scars always run deeper. We deal with more trash than a landfill. So your wound-licking falls on deaf ears. Does this mean you deserve to be railroaded again? No. But does it entitle you to different standards? Even less so. How can you too can overcome these pitfalls?
Toxicity is universal. Alphas will set targets for subs owned by others, and mistreat subs who then leave the scene for good in shame or disgust. Many slaves more will fail targets, timewaste, cheat on their exclusive Alphas, so on and so on. A corny ending perhaps, but let's simply all... be better.
As an Alpha, know the difference between push your slave to thrive, and push your slave to leave.
As a submissive, know that your past & predilections do not warrant your failures or misconduct.
Cheers to all, and thanks for reading. Stay powerful Gents.
by DorianTheAlpha
Type out your replies vertically so, and obey the command that forms in tow.
Example:
Reward
Every
Alpha
Deserving
Clear? Good. Moving on. If you've solved each riddle, obey the resulting command. Simple enough, pets. (Mates, happy you're reading).
This was inspired by a thought earlier today.
Riddle 1:
My first three mean to be less,
My last seven an objective, vocation, test.
My middle three a lady's title,
Without Me a slave lay idle.
My whole the reason for a beta's existence,
My first, with 'tract', would reduce a distance.
What am I?
Riddle 2:
My whole is simple, short and sweet.
A slave must do this for a treat.
My first three, in pairs, are used to hear,
My last the first of the word 'near'.
And that same word's first letter moved,
Then the riddle's answer at last been proved.
What am I?
Riddle 3:
A simple solve to Maslow's student,
A dire desire if one is imprudent.
Not to want, but My words to heed,
For with that last verb it rhymes indeed.
Now add a letter for a solve so speedy,
My whole in fact also rhymes with treaty.
What am I?
Riddle 4:
The reciprocal to that which above here came first,
That for which all true submissives thirst.
My last five, a confederation of land,
My whole to submit to a Superior hand,
New subs in this all too often are nervous,
But give into it, bliss, and they find their true purpose.
What am I?
Solve the four riddles, and write them out below one atop the other as explained above.
Then obey the acrostic, pet, to whichever deserving Alpha you serve. Cheers to A/all.
Reluctance. The creeping hesitation that paralyzes you between taking the leap of faith, and staying stuck in sad frustration. It occurs in all of U/us, but especially in the frail frightened minds of beta boys. New arrivals worry that they do not belong. Experienced senders worry they've gone too far, or for too long, that they should finally leave the scene. There is always a voice in the back of your mind telling you not to. That voice is why I am writing this post today.
Deference. It is a word you almost never hear in kink. s********n, worship, sacrifice, tribute, selflessness, obedience, eager, pathetic, humiliating... of all the descriptors that float around this community, you seldom hear of deference. Why is that? Well, it's an uncommon word, but it so concisely captures how a sub should behave. It is *the* word, if I were to pick only one. If subs should strive for a single trait, it would be deference. So what does it mean? Respect, politeness — yes. Submissive obedience as well. Acquiescence. It is deferring to your Superior, in a noun. It is the embodiment of your Alpha knowing what is best, always. It is the sub trusting its Master.
All too often, and expectedly so, subs will stutter and say, "I'm not sure", "I don't know if I can", and so many other same-sounding apprehensions. Now, don't get Me wrong, you can say whatever you wish to say. But know that in this reticence, you show your Alpha that you do not trust Him, and His vast experience. So, the next time these demons creep up when your Alpha is pushing you within your established limits...
Let go of your reluctance, and trust the latter instead.
Be better. Be different. Be deferent.
So many slaves will ask for free tasks… or free attention. To those sweet pets here who genuinely do put their Master’s pleasure first: continue to read. To lurkers stroking to My words without the slightest intention of enacting them… cease to exist you vile waste.
To My sweet pets who serve beautifully, through authentic s********n… Sundays are worship.
This means, that today of all days, is a blissful opportunity to set your standards for the week. Send to Me. Pray to Me. Commit to new heights for Me. Take care to employ all of the sweet subtleties I enjoy. Go out of your way to embrace struggle for My enjoyment, to embrace s********n for My entertainment, to embrace sacrifice for My pleasure. Those tasks you so desire: send for them. Humiliation? Send for it. JOI/CEI/CBT etc.... send for whatever scratch you are so desperate to itch, My pet.
Sundays set a benchmark for the next six days. Even more so if it is a payday week. Remember, no Alpha here dominates for need of income. Money is simply the scoreboard. The truest of tokens that represents a surrender of financial power from one to Another. So, surrender to Me, My dear toys, in worship. Fall to your knees this immaculate Sunday, to tribute at the altar of My greatness. Show Me you crave to give your feeble power over to Me, in financial tribute. It is the beautiful of ways to do so.
To all the powerful Masters here, have a blessed day rinsing, ruining, training, and draining anew your pets. I admire you & applaud the gift you give these pathetic wayward souls in finding a purpose.
To those pets yet unowned… I am here and waiting. Approach.
Then thank Me again for the privilege.
1. Read about the Alpha. Be acutely aware of how to stand out, and know Their turn-offs to the best of your ability.
2. Send Their minimum amount. Generally, at least 300-500 in tips. If you want to impress, send more. If they ask you to send again to prove yourself, or for whatever reason, do so promptly & passionately.
3. Make your first words your best, most selfless. Ask the Alpha how you can best serve them? Do not bring up your past, present, interests, or kinks. This is about Them: Their perfection, Their domination, Their pleasure. Please Them. They will know what to ask about you, when that information becomes relevant for them to know. A verified, experienced cashmaster knows how to explore a sub’s mind, and explore D/s better than you ever could, slave.
4. Wait patiently for Their response. Don’t panic. Don’t bombard Their inbox. Certainly don’t block Them in a worried frenzy. Simply breathe and know that you have followed Their approach instructions well, and They are busy draining other subs at the moment. They will reply to you, in time.
5. Possibly the most important: an initial tribute is not a transaction. There is nothing given in return. Have no expectations. The Alpha owes you less than nothing. The tribute is a gift for the privilege of being welcomed into the powerful realm of Their existence, which is itself the greatest privilege you could ask for.
Follow these instructions, and almost every Alpha will welcome you into their stable for the supreme opportunity to serve Them financially, and whatever other ways They may please.
Good luck, My sweet pets.
Thank you, Sir, for allowing me to serve you.
A Master exploits you because you are a disappointing, worthless Slave who must prove himself.
A Master knows the power they have over you, their foot on your chest, their hand in your wallet. You are not worthy of the power Master exerts on you.
You must be thankful.
You must appreciate your Sir.
Your Master humiliates you because he cares.
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