When I came to this wonderful website, the second time
around, in the first few hours I was encouraged to leave the site and head to
another platform. I smiled. I understood the ‘game’. The ‘Dom’ who insisted I
walked away from this site so that MasterOfAll would receive nothing for his incredible
efforts, then demanded, within the first few seconds of our engagement, £100. The
Dom wasn’t remotely interested in me, he didn’t care whether I was happy or
not, he wanted money. I declined his demand and he was churlishly, childishly furious and
has tried, at occasional intervals, to convince me and more importantly himself,
that what he was doing was right and that I am a fool.
What a load of old bollocks! There are no rules in this findom world. Everyone, whether Dom or sub, chooses their own unique path. I don’t subscribe to the rules set by others and that makes a great many men quite cross. For them, I have only this to say: I don’t care. I have my own rules, designed to keep me safe in a dark, deceptive world. Treat me with respect and you’ll receive my respect. Treat me like a fool and I’ll assume you are a fool. Behave impatiently, ungraciously, greedily and with an uncalled-for callousness and I will slam the door in your face. I'd rather be alone and unowned forever than to be the slave of a liar.
I'm submissive but not everywhere, and I’m here to find a
good man and to give to him the best of myself. The best isn’t just cold, easy money
but care, respect, devotion, decency and even my love. I'm not easy but treat me honestly, patiently, compassionately and who knows, I might be all yours…
It’s been a while since I communicated on the status of Submit, so I wanted to take some time to explain what’s happening.
Submit is still very much in development, and it is still the intention that Owned will retire and everything will move over to the new site.
Submit is being built on completely new technology to Owned and as such it took a bit to plan and get started, but that is out of the way and actual development has been in full swing for a while now.
It’s become evident in the development though that getting Submit ready within 6 months is simply unachievable. I was a bit naive to think that I could rebuild something completely in that time when it took 10 years of active development to get where it is now.
Since starting the building of Submit there have also been other things pop up that have halted development, the main one being having to find a new card processor. That took up a lot of my time, and if im honest put my head in a bad place and I just couldn’t face working on the site.
I have also had personal issues going on taking up my time, as well as social commitments.
Going back to the card processor issue, if it taught me anything it’s not to have all my eggs in one basket, so I have also been splitting my time more onto other projects and diversifying my work.
As I said, Submit is still being developed, it’s just not being worked on full time like it was before.
So, what does this mean?
Well, I’ve now taken the view that Submit will be “ready when it’s ready”.
I will continue to work on it, and it will be launched, I just won’t be putting a date on when; it should still be sometime this year though. I’m not going to be putting myself under any pressure or imposing self-inflicted time limits. Owned is still operational and works fine, so there is no rush to get Submit finished.
In the coming months I will start to provide limited access to a few users so that I can gather feedback and help with bug testing.
Thank you,
MoA
And if everything is clear with the financial part, then the psychological part is another level. If a person is broken psychologically, it is almost impossible to help him, it is not a physical pain that passes over time, it is a pain that can be with a person for the rest of his life and will never heals.
A person can break physically, but psychologically remain strong, nothing will stop him, but if it is a psychological injury, then it cannot be treated, it can only be calmed down for a while, like some medicine. Therefore, many thanks to everyone who helped me in this, your kindness will not be forgotten and will return many times over.I think this is a good start. Back to the blog. Today marks exactly six months since I got acquainted with such a term as findom. Since these six months, almost 5 months, I spent on the OwnedFags.com site, I learned a lot about the very concept of findom, about life related to findom and people who are also in this community.
I still have a lot to learn, but even in such a short time I learned some factors:
1) Findom is addictive. Both from the Dom side and from the sub side. During these six months, I did not visit the site only a few times. It's a big world with different people who like what they do, it's almost like a computer game, but in reality. Perhaps the word "game" will be a very rude statement, but there is a grain of truth in it.
2) Many people do not understand the concept of findom. This also applies to everyone in this community. Dom believes that, being Dom, every sub should pay him whatever amount he wants, simply because he was registered as a dominant. Because he's Dom, and that's all. "All the money for me", "his fault", because he wanted it that way, he is not interested in rejection, he considers himself number one, simply because he was born that way...
FILL IT OUT - there will always be a person who will be better than you in everything you know and know, he will be stronger, he will be better mentally, he will be better intellectually, he will be smarter, he will... No one in this life owes you anything, all people are free and have the right to do what they want. Don't be an asshole, there are a lot of people like you and they think the same. Nothing is free in this world, you have to work hard to get something. If you are interested in money, be smarter, develop a strategy and act so that everyone is satisfied.
As for the sub, it's practically the same. This is financial domination, no one will fulfill your dirty fantasies for free. You have to pay for what your Dom wants. Do not waste the time of other people who want to make a connection with you. You are not the only one. No one makes you to pay an amount that you cannot repay. Everything has its price, and in financial domination it is one of the key parts.
And most importantly, findom is a relationship, one-time or long-term, it all depends on the people. Everyone fulfills his role in it and has what he has.
3) Online relationships and real life relationships are a big difference. Everything is clear here, everything is like in life. Online relationships are a fun stage of getting to know each other for a short period of time. But fіndom in real life is already different, different emotions, different relationship, interest and so on...
Unfortunately, I didn't have the opportunity to experience it, but everything is possible.
That's all.
I hope you understand what I wanted to write. Thanks to everyone who read this post. Have a nice day everyone and be yourself
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Short summary for happy and entertained Masters and slaves! At least from my personal experiences,
Monday is tribute day; Master decides how much, where and how to tribute. No Master?Ask an Alpha you fancy for a tribute opportunity.
Lucky slaves who were kindly given a debt contract usually pay a part every monday but that is Master to decide.
Tuesday is... to come soon
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Wednesday is: wishlist day
_Thursday= 10£ Thursday
_Friday= fagtax
_Sunday= reimbursements day
A play day for slaves to sneak in Master(s) wish list & buy a small (or big) something for the Master or Masters you like. See my blog post about wish list Wednesday (on my profile).
Friday is known fagtax.
Time for a new tribute occasion; I am launching: the 10£ Thursday!
A day,
we slaves will choose one or more Masters we fancy and send him (or
them) a 10£ gift (or 100 tips), Easy and fun.
Tributing every day is not what makes a good slave.
It is not the frequency nor the amount that make a good helpful, useful and faithful slave.
I truly think a good slave and a good Master will depend on what you look for, what you like, how you get along together, how everyone behaves and what kind of dom/sub relation you will build up together.
But then, tributing everyday or very regularly is fun and hot! Why do without? At least, if you can afford it and if and you want this!
My opinion: It doesn’t have to be big! Many small tributes or targets on regular basis are just as exciting and effective. The important thing being to show s********n and devotion.
So far then my new idea & way for an extra tribute occasionw hich I think is can be nice and fun for both Masters andlaves but that is up to you,
This, as my previous tributing games & ways were created to please and entertain Master as well as all Masters and slaves on the site
Many verified Masters without a slave and many single slaves! I like those games and different habits of tributing on weekly basis because it is giving all Masters the occasion to be tributed and it gives all slaves the opportunity and fun to tribute one or several Masters without getting engaged,
have fun,
enslaved
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Right from day 1 BS37SKIN told me it was full TPE or nothing. His masculinity and power was taking over my mind from the moment we first talked. Agreeing to a meet within only weeks was the clincher. Making this real. The first 4 weeks were intense. Hard drains both financially and taking the power from me. Getting deep into my head. Showing me this is not just what he wants but also what I crave.
From day 1 he saw what I craved and knew what I was about and tuned my biggest fetish into my uniform. To be worn at all times outside of work. (Orange Hi-Vis and wellingtons). Showing he knew what made me tick as a sub and embracing that instead of changing me into something that I was not.
The first meet.
Having arranged our first meet on the first week of this new life the day arrived. I can honesty say I have never been as terrified in my life. Obviously in a truly honest and open TPE as this had become I told him this before he set off on the 3 hour journey to meet his faggot. He could not have been more reassuring to me. Telling me everything will be fine and my limits will be respected albeit pushed. Knowing he was on his way to meet his property made my heart race so much I swear it was going to bust out of my body. The fear of what was about to happen was still there but far less. There was no turning back now.
Upon greeting my Owner. (Not just my Master) I was on my knees at his boots in seconds. Showing him my real and true obedience to him. And then it happened. The chain he had got for me was put on. The proudest moment of my life to date. That stupid beaming grin on my face showing him this was all very real for me.
We went out for a shopping trip to Brighton. Obviously paid for fully by me. Levi jeans. Timberland boots. Work boots.The best part was going into the Apple Store and buying a tracker. TPE means just that. BS37SKIN should always know where I am. I asked him to do this. This was me giving up more freedom to show him my devotion is true.
I must admit. I had no idea how to be “me” on this first visit. Didn’t know if this was to be a one off meeting. But stayed in 100% faggot mode. Only sitting down in public once he instructed me to do so. Before he left he shaved my head fully and instructed me to stay that way for ever. I have shaved my head at 9pm every night since.
A’s February went on the control was getting deeper and deeper. Now tracked. I have to ask permission to leave the house. Knowing full well he will know where I am. And a second date in the diary. All my dreams had come true. It was only now, I realised how busy my owner is. Giving up so much of his free time for other people and arranging a second meeting so quickly meant even more to me than he would ever know. Covid gets me in February and without being over dramatic I truly thought it was game over. Multiple times in hospital. through it all. BS37SKIN was there for me. Looking after me, showing real care and getting me through my darkest days.
As we moved into March the rinsing was more often. But more so the power exchange was taking a real turn of events. Now having to ask permission to piss. A real true connection. Going further than I’d ever gone before. Deeper and deeper under his power. And yet all the time feeling more safe and secure now than I’d ever felt in my entire life. Taking over my online life and in real time too. BS37SKIN now has full access to my online profiles and takes no time in changing them to show I am his owned faggot. No longer just a secret between him and me. This is now my proudest moment. To have an owner who is happy and proud to take control of me publicly as well as in private.
April arrives and with it the second meet happens. This time over the Easter weekend. It is now not only his control takes full effect but I realise my trust in him is real and I start to love the man I call Sir. I know what I am to him and will never forget that. But now I know I love this man my devotion gets deeper and deeper. I finally get to purchase the one thing I’ve been craving to do, my owners Season ticket for the rugby. Having a real positive impact on his life. The daily voice mails he sends me keep me wanting to go further and further. It’s all about the connection for me. And he has that true connection with me. As we talk about things outside of all this and get to know each other better. Much more relaxed in his presence too. A true Owner I can be myself with. Brand new uniforms arrive with the logo my owner created for me. Now fully proud to be seen out wearing my owners brand 24/7
May. The power exchange continues. Now I am given Meal times and bed times. My love for him as my owner is now deeply cemented. I never want this power exchange to end. I have a purpose in life. His care for my wellbeing is a true credit to his personality and who he is.
June. A few short weeks until our next meet. Only this time I get to visit my owner on his turf. We discuss chastity. And agree this not something either of us need. He knows I’d never touch myself without permission and even then at cost. My devotion and dedication is stronger now than I ever believed possible. BS37SKIN now controls when I get up. When I eat, when I piss and go to bed. And also when I am allowed out of the house.
I had no idea just how much this life was meant for me. Always thought it was a horny idea but not a reality. BS37SKIN showed me this is just what I was missing. And truly helped me to get here.
Being owned and controlled fully. Is not as easy as it sounds. For either the owner or the owned. I will explain more of that in part 2 how being allowed to join this community has changed a lot for me.
Until then.
Happy New Year Everyone
BS37SKINsfaggot.
This blog will have a topic that will probably never go away with the findom community - toxic people.
The most retarded, obnoxious and probably the dumbest people in fіndom.
On this site, in six months, I saw many different people, with different characters, behavior, philosophy, life, and so on. All of them are unusual, with their own history and principles of life, each different and each interesting in its own way. It seems that everything is perfect, but on this scene they appear - toxic. It is difficult to comment on what kind of people these are, but in general they are unpleasant people. And to my surprise, there are many of them not only among Dom, but also among subs who purposefully came to the site to obey others. If it's a Dom, then that's understandable, but being male doesn't make you dominant, or a Dom, or anything but an creature, even worse, creatures can understand and some Doms can't. A real dominant can only be a person who proved all this not in words, but in deed, with his authority, skill, position in society and many other things. Be people, not creatures.
And now about some subs, well, if Dom is doing it, he chose such a role, but he has no knowledge, then how to explain some subs... Complete disrespect both to his colleagues and to authoritative Doms on the site. This is just nonsense, I understand that there are different situations, events, emotions and much more, but when it is on a permanent basis, then many questions arise. The main thing is that you have forgotten here, if you do not follow the rules and behave, in the best case, as an egoist. Many questions remain for both sides, but for another time for sure.
At the end of this small blog, I will say - personally, fortunately, I have not met such people on the site, I received all the stories from other people on the site and in other applications. Fortunately, a large number of such individuals, I am informed, have already left the site, but not all.
Also, no one objects to your presence on the site, you don't need to wear someone else's mask, be yourself, but remain human and have at least some moral values.
That's all, thank you for your attention, everyone have a nice day, fun, entertainment and health 😉😁👍
Yep that's right, over a quarter of a million quid has been processed by this site within 365 days and I'm buzzing.
Thank you to all who have supported and used this site, especially those of you who have been there from the beginning.
I will never stop innovating and trying to create the best findom site that there is and have a place where we can all have fun and explore findom in a safe environment.
I just wanted to mark this special occasion with a little blog post, thank you for reading!
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Here are a few guidelines i have in that case, and i would not be surprised if even Master mods would find them good:
This goes for everybody, Master or slave, friend or not. i would even ban my Owner if needed. That might earn me some dungeon (He is very intelligent and hopefully He would not do worse than that like booting me from His stable), but i would do it anyway.
i must admit i would probably not ban MoA since He could overrule me anyway ;-)
2°) When i speak as a mod and tell you to stop doing something, i am not opening a debate. If you don't comply, you are banned. This is not a discussion, this is an order (I know Masters won't like this word, but that's what it is). Usually it is pretty obvious when i am speaking as a mod because my tone is very different from the one i usually have in the chat, but if you find that's needed, i can use some typing effects like typing in bold or in red or whatever. We can discuss that but that would be better if that was a common rule for all mods.
OF is not a democracy where we discuss and vote on issues in the chat. We are here as guests of MoA, and when you are a guest, you don't s**t on the carpet. If you don't like something in the site, discuss it with Him, but His rules apply, and the chat is no place to criticize them (unless He calls for a debate of course but usually He doesn't do so in the chat). You are free to leave if you cannot find an agreement with Him, and He is free to stop welcoming you as His guest if your company is not to His liking.
4°) Even if i ban you, that doesn't mean i have become your deadly enemy. That just means i think you need to take a step back and reflect on what i just told you. The discussion is welcome in DMs, and we can become very good friends if we can reach a common agreement.
As a sub to men for some 35 years, and a cashfag for 21 years, i felt it may be helpful for some subs here (and Masters) to have my thoughts on what it is to be a 'good sub/slave/fag'. You may disagree with some points, or have other views, but this is simply my own view, which is widely shared across the BDSM community.
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There are some basic elements of what makes a good sub.
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* Subordination (awareness and practice of it)
* Obedience (to the one you trust and serve)
* Respect
* Humility (accepting mistakes and errors, willing to apologise)
* Putting the Alpha's desires first
A fag will often approach an Alpha with a list of expectations and requirements. This is the opposite of what it means to be a good sub. The instinct of a sub is a wish to please and satisfy the needs and desires of the man he is serving, before his own desires.
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Note that I don't mention tributes of money in the list, as this is secondary to the above. In findom, in it's real sense, tributing is a by-product of the above qualities.
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What is Findom, and where does it fit into BDSM?
Findom has many offshoots and vagaries, but this is how I understand the basic principles...
Findom is a curious thing. In the world where it is a sexualised practice, it is the opposite of how it is in the world outside of BDSM.
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'Findom' in the work place is a natural power exchange, where an employee is the financial subordinate of his employer. In the work place you will do as you are told, and do whatever the employer requires, because that is the way you get your wage, and hopefully, if you please him enough, you will receive a bonus. All the power is in the hands of the man who gives you money, and you will put up with all manner of things in order to avoid missing out on it. The more you please and are compliant to your boss, the more likely you are to get a bonus. You are the sub, and the Dom is the one giving you money. It is the manifestation of the saying 'money is power'. Money talks.
This scenario is obviously very familiar to all of us here.
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In the 'findom community', it is the opposite way around. The power play is not expressed by the Boss (Alpha) handing money to the employee (subordinate), but by the sub demonstrating his subordination and often obedience by handing over a tribute to the Alpha.
Be clear that in findom, a tribute is not a payment, but is simply a tribute, which expects nothing in return. If something is expected in return, such as time, cam, pics, vid or whatever else, then it is not a tribute, but a payment in return from what he has bought. In essence, this is not s********n, but a simple transaction. The Alpha may choose to spend time with the sub, do cam, send pics or whatever, in order to encourage the s********n and develop a bond, but that is because he chooses to. It is not part of a 'deal'.
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A tribute is an expression of subordination and worship. A sacrifice made. Nothing more and nothing less.
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On a simple level, a tribute is not pressured or demanded. It is freely offered and given.
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In a more advanced relationship, the power can extend to a deeper control of the sub's finances. FINDOM (financial domination) is just that in these cases, where an Alpha can extend his power to a control of spending in the sub's life, demanding when the sub hands over his money, and demanding when he is not allowed to. It can extend to moulding the sub's way of life by controlling what money is available to the sub. This is where Findom comes into it's own on a very powerful level, based on an enormous amount of trust on both sides.
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What about you?
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ONE VERY IMPORTANT THING for a sub to note is that the amount of tribute offered is of less importance than the level of sacrifice made. Some subs are deflated when they see other subs tributing large amounts to an Alpha. They look at the slave market and feel their efforts are wasted because they don't rank amongst the 'high flyers'. They feel they are 'useless' and bad subs. This couldn't be further from the truth.
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What the slave market doesn't tell you is how much sacrifice is made, how much the subs give up or go without, in order to hand over their tributes. Many of them have a much better income than you. In that regard, if you are making sacrifices in order to tribute, you are as good as those handing out large amounts of money, and you may be a better sub than some of the greater tributers if your sacrifices impact on your life.
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Money vs Sacrifice
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I make this comparison...A tribute of £10 from a poor student or sub with a low paid job who struggles to get by is greater than a £500 tribute from a wealthy sub who wouldn't miss it. Of course, there are many Alphas who prioritise levels of money obtained from subs, which is understandable. However, in the Findom BDSM world, it is not the amount of money, but your level of personal sacrifice that is important to a 'great' Findom Alpha.
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It is worth noting at this point that Findom is not an end in itself, but is a tool for expressing s********n in the BDSM environment.
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A top quality Alpha/Master isn't concerned about the amount of money you can tribute. He is much more concerned about the level of sacrifice you make for him.
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So... my point being, don't concern yourself with what others do.
Focus on what you can do.
Your s********n is between you and the Alpha you tribute.
If you serve with humility, obedience, respect, subordination, making sacrifice, and worship the Alpha by putting his wishes before your own, you are amongst the greatest subs.
Without these qualities, you are are nothing of a sub.
With them, you are amongst the best, no matter how much or little you are able to tribute.
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