I joined this site almost 3 years ago to encounter a Dom, to serve a Master and I was lucky enough to meet him. Sadly it didn't work as we would have hoped, sometimes it doesn't work but I have no regrets, only happy memories. Service isn't easy, it's complicated because there are often agendas, sometimes uncertainties and online life is never easy. Throw in the demands of the heart, hopes, fears and the expectations of a busy life and then long-term service is made almost impossible.
Some make it. Lucky them.
I came here to find a Dom and Master, but I also came here to meet friends, to speak with like-minded men, to engage, to smile, to laugh, fundamentally to find companionship. Life is often lonely and we must all do what we can to keep the loneliness at bay. I take responsibility for my words and actions and I've apologised often. I've behaved poorly. I've admonished myself and begged for forgiveness. I've hurt good men, both sub and Dom and I've hurt myself far more.
Please, time is painfully short and this place should be full of possibility and hope. I'm often foolish but I have no axe to grind and no judgements to make. If you find happiness and contentment, even for a moment, then I'll celebrate with you. It's a difficult world so I beg you, let's all take a breath and be kind to each other.
Sunday morning I sat watching ‘Only Fools and Horses’ with a cuppa thinking about the day and week ahead. Has the commitment phobia I experienced in my 20’s returned? How will it feel when I give the money over? I’m suddenly thinking about the times I reduced drinking or quit smoking… trying to rationalise any fear I have about it. What if i see something I really want? Not often I can’t just say ‘YOLO’ or ‘fuck it let’s get it’ - what if I miss out on a bargain?!
Hmmm 🤔 actually, what’s more important ? A ‘thing’ or my findom relationship with SHM. Easy answer really… the ‘thing’ 😂. Joking of course - I wouldn’t be doing this if it wasn’t an incredibly important part of my life. I tell myself to remember that.
The drain to hand over my wages was even hotter than ever. That added feeling that comes with the longevity of the control. That change in thought process, the sensation of handing over full financial control for a week just hit so differently. That feeling of transferring both the funds and power! It made me think and feel slightly differently about SHM - in a good way but I can’t quite find the words? They might come later in the blog - who knows. One thing that won’t be shared here are the numbers - they are private between us for various reasons.
The bond instantly became even stronger. Another new financial tie. Something that genuinely impacts every day life has a special feel, that’s difficult to describe - ‘connection’ doesn’t do it justice! That balance we have between outright friendship and findom gets blurred sometimes - not today! It played on my mind much of the afternoon, like it’s engrained there. What I’ve learnt from our relationship so far though, is that I never regret things I do with him because they are always carefully thought out and considered by us both. Trust and loyalty I’ve always found hot , this just took that up another notch .
Monday morning , bad 💤. Not findom related. Tired and grumpy. Commuting today, always a drag but always good when I get to the office and see people. Me and the Boss know each others routines inside out. I got up a bit earlier than normal and hovered around, waiting for the usual ‘good morning boy’ to come through. There it was, bang on cue. Usual exchanges then it starts… can I have money for the train? Agreed- gotta work as a finsub after all. Before i could even ask, coffee was to be in a flask though. No branded cappuccino extra shot. Fml 🤦
Normally I gap fill a lot of time by watching football or tennis on the tv whilst simultaneously looking at stuff online that I might want to buy. Just noticed I didn’t do that at all yesterday or on the commute 🤔.
I’ve also noticed that every now and then there is a small amount of panic about the situation. Not extreme or anything, but a sort of flutter in the chest. It feels a bit like a craving mixed with mild anxiety. Easily remedied, think Nike … you’re doing this with SHM - someone u trust more than anyone . Phew - crack on with the day.
Lunch was different today. The crew were going to a nice restaurant for a friends birthday . No such luck for me. Found out that Waitrose do a cheap meal deal. Who knew? The control has been exciting. And in typical Nike and SHM fashion kept quite light in style, but absolutely genuine in terms of obedience.
The balance of people’s reactions across platforms has been interesting . It’s ranged from Praise for the sacrifice and taking on the challenge, to being called a loser. I’m comfortable enough in my own skin to shrug off the latter, I don’t do bad for myself after all 😉. Either way i do feel a huge sense of pride making the sacrifice for my owner, even if only at this level for a short time, and no one can take that away 💪
To avoid boring everyone I’ll provide an update at the end of the week picking out any key moments, but for now , with a wet patch in my boxers I’ll leave it there 🔥💷
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The minimum amount of Tips needed to make a withdrawal has been lowered to 500 Tips (£50) from 800 (£80).
From November Tips will also be withdrawable after 2 weeks instead of the current 4!
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I got to thinking about this question the other night. So many guys around the scene dubbing themselves as Alphas, but what does that really mean? What *truly* makes some people Alphas and others betas/omegas?
My 2 cents: Alpha is an energy. A way of being. An undeniable power that can’t be learned. An innate ability to make subordinates approach with an equal mix of fear and respect without having to say a word (or stick up a middle finger for that matter). A quiet confidence that lures inferiors no matter how much they want to resist.
Having muscles doesn’t make you an Alpha, it makes you muscular.
Having a huge cock doesn’t make you an Alpha, it makes you hung.
Berating subs with insults and degradation without consent doesn’t make you an Alpha, it makes you a bully.
I’ve used & owned faggots with muscular, Greek godlike physiques and faggots with dicks bigger than any self-proclaimed Alpha I’ve ever seen, and they kneel at My feet and worship Me because they know its where they belong & what I deserve.
Sound off in the comments if you wanna share your thoughts.
On the 6th of January, the Epiphany is celebrated in Spain.
In the original Christmas story, the Three Wise Men (Melchior, Gaspar and Balthazar) brought gold, frankincense and myrrh as tributes.
Nowadays, on this date, ALL SORTS of gifts are delivered to kids that have been nice, and charcoal (usually edible black sugar cubes) to those who have been naughty.
c******n must go to bed early the night of the 5th and leave their shoes (polished and cleaned) outside their bedroom in order for them to get their presents delivered.
Kids also leave a pick-me-up d***k or a nightcap for the Three Wise Men for the long night ahead.
It is also customary to eat Roscon de Reyes, a big doughnut-like cake usually filled with cream or chocolate. The cake has two items hidden inside: a bean and a small figurine or toy.
The person who finds the figurine (be mindful of c*****g!) gets to wear a crown and is meant to have good luck for the rest of the year.
The person who finds the bean is meant to pay for the cake!
It is difficult NOT to make an analogy between this particular celebration and our beloved world of findom:
There is no question about there being plenty of “wise men” in OF, deserving all sorts of gifts, gold bars and crowns; but there are even more so naughty boys around us, deserving nothing but punishment.
Collections of shoes (or feet) are often displayed on the site, including trainers, boots and even a few pairs of high heels.
Subs often behave like c******n (even wearing diapers), but they dutifully lick their Master’s boots clean without question at any given time.
They can also be asked to go to bed early at their Master’s discretion (when their bed is not swapped by a cage or the floor, that is...) or even be deprived of any rest altogether, if it has not been earned.
Abundant supplies of pick-me-up drinks and nightcaps are often displayed on the site, from the basic coffee and beer, to the more elaborate, cheeky, and sophisticated cocktails prepared by some of the most dutiful servants.
And I do not think it is necessary for me to make a more explicit reference to subs burying their faces in donut-like areas which, as with the Roscon de Reyes, can sometimes be either plain, filled with cream or even chocolate...
But in our world, subs are always the ones finding the toys (and c*****g on them), and Masters are always the lucky ones being crowned, as we rightfully deserve.
So let’s celebrate the end of the festive season together in the best possible way.
Let there be crowns, gold bars, subs licking feet and shoes clean, stuffing their faces and chocking, providing pick-me-up drinks and nightcaps, plenty of gifts, and spreading happinesses as they spread their legs!
Almost every faggot, whether it is owned or whoring around, whether its new to the scene of has been around for ages, wether its a cashfag or a fuckhole, has its weak moments. Every faggot comes to a point, where it doubts what its doing is right. And where it feels like hiding from its Alpha(s), running away, backing off.
And that is alright. Even the BEST and most SUBMISSIVE cunt is still a human being. And every cunt is entitled to take its emotions seriously. Even more, the fact that a fuckhole reflects upon what it is doing, and what its role in life IS, is an important part of being a faggot and an (owned) slave!
So, what to do in these weak moments? How to deal with a situation that can (and most likely WILL) deeply affect your relationship with your Master, Owner, Alpha or God?
TAKE YOUR EMOTIONS SERIOUSLY!
If a fag is feeling overwhelmed or scared, it shouldn't just try to ignore those sentiments. Even if that might be a helpful copingmechanism in that specific moment, it WILL come back to haunt you later. Then, with an even stronger urge to run away!
TALK TO YOUR MASTER!
The best way to deal with these situations is to talk to your Master! A GOOD Master shows interest in his faggots, and wants them to feel as safe and heard(!) as possible. A GOOD master will allow you to work it through, and find a way that works for you both. Only THEN will you be able to become the best cunt you can be!
Talk to your Alpha! Tell him about your doubts, your weakness, accept the fact that you're struggeling and share your feelings. Only then, your Master will be able to walk you through it
TAKE YOUR TIME!
Last but not least, you should make sure to NEVER rush any decisions in a time of weakness. If a cunt runs away, hides and doesn't respond to messages, a Master is probably NOT happy about this behaviour. Take your time, tell your Master you need some time to think, and DON'T rush any decisions.
A deep, intense and long-lasting faggot-Alpha relationship should be based on trust, communication and mutual(!) respect. So trust in your Master to support you in times of struggle!
My blogs are typically about s********n. How to serve better etc.
This one is specifically for Masters new to the site. Read up & enjoy.
Feel free to DM if anything below is unclear.
1. Read the rules.
Read the website rules. Read about kink, about D/s ownership.
Read up on findom.
If you're going to try a new kink a sub proposes. Study it. Ask other Alphas.
Everyone starts somewhere. You are given the power to govern a slave's body, mind, and wallet.
Wield that power responsibly, within the guidelines set for this community.
The only tribute allowed here are those sent with OwnedFags tips. No other tribute methods allowed. Period.
2. It takes longer than you realize.
For every useful sub, there are 20 timewasting pretenders.
For every lasting sub, it takes 20 who are fleetingly useful.
So if you're a math guy: that's roughly a 0.25% ownership rate on every sub interaction you have.
Lots of empty-handed, empty-headed strokers. The truly servile sluts are few & far between.
3. Don't do it for the money.
Ultimately, no one is here for the money (or shouldn't be). It's a fun byproduct of a kink: findom.
Findom is about power exchange through currency transfer. Much like bondage is through mobility transfer.
It's just another vector for a submissive to surrender to its Dominant, whether in session or lasting servitude.
If you need money, get a job or sell items. Desperate Alphas are always see-through, and fail. Just truth.
4. Build relationships with other Alphas.
Focus on the other Dominants here. Chat with them. Learn without being clingy about it.
Some, like myself, occasionally whore out their owned fags.
Especially at first, do not DM any slave here that has a lock; that is officially owned. Never.
If that slave reaches out, message the Alpha first.
Once you create a rapport with the Alpha, learn which owned sluts are allowed to & choose to chat, then do so.
Ultimately, conduct yourself so that you are earning the respect of your Alpha peers first and foremost. Always.
5. Find your style.
Emulation is natural. As with any craft, there will be those you look up to.
Take care not to let emulation become imitation. No one likes a copycat.
Find your original voice within the aspects of others you admire.
Ultimately, the most successful Alphas here are such because they are true to themselves.
For instance, I'm a soft-spoken Master. At times, I get harsh, but it's not My innate voice.
I know that, and I stick to it. Others do the opposite. It's about range & authenticity.
6. Build your brand.
A fair bit of domination is marketing. Content is king, engagement is queen, context is god.
Post as often as you can (without spamming). Find a cadence that works.
Few subs are attracted to empty profiles. Post pics. Make vids. Write blogs. Chat publicly.
Engage with others' posts and content, esp Alphas. Care about this community; not just yourself.
7. Set limits, and respect others’.
Not every sub will be a match with you. Maybe you hate piss play; piss pigs won't align with your style.
Maybe you want to solely focus on findom. Maybe findom is secondary to you.
Many subs focus on real-time meets, and even within that types of meets (eg dungeon play).
Be clear about your desires, your dislikes, and focus on those with whom your dynamic could line up.
8. Recognize the toll this takes.
Drop is real. The defeat, deflation, or other such blues felt in kink.
It can be sub drop following a heavy drain or kink session.
it can be Alpha drop after 15 timewasters exhaust you mentally.
Maybe your personal life is impacting your motivation to dominate, or create content.
Be mindful of the weight of your work here.
Yes, dominance is effortless.
But domination is hard work. And acknowledging that is crucial to lasting success.
Take days off. Communicate them to your slaves. The real ones will understand.
Likewise, sometimes subs need to step away. Not all Alphas accept that, but it is equally normal.
9. It isn't a competition.
It's easy to get caught up in the points. The Pantheon & slave market positions.
I've been guilty of it, as I'm sure many others are.
Domination (and s********n) are about the intimacy & thrill of power exchange.
Owning a fag is about fulfilling Your Alpha desires together, through their sacrifice & your domination.
Each dynamic is unique. It's own singular bond. No two subs should compete, even serving the same Master.
And no two Masters should compete, because I'll never be Garboss, SkinbossDan, or Fidelio.
They have their styles, their successes, their subs. I have Mine. That's a great thing.
It's the range of kink, and domination.
10. Have fun with it.
I've learned so much about myself through domination.
How sadistic I can be. How compassionate I am.
If you aren't here to enjoy yourself, and create enjoyment for others (even with pain or struggle)
Then you're likely here for the wrong reasons.
Consider this an extensions of "don't do it for the money".
Cheers.
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