Reimbursement opportunities. I got some replies from subs stating I need money to pay my event tickets (which were listed as . Clearly these fags are a bit confused as one can only be reimbursed if the money has already been spent.
Now. I do understand why some subs are confused. Often I see on Twitter a picture of a shopping cart and a Dom asking for reimbursement. If the cart has not been paid for, than there is absolutely no reason to ask for reimbursement. In fact the Dom probably hadn’t the money to pay for the item in his shopping cart in the first place. Or the Dom never was going to buy the item but just wanted (begged) cash to pay other bills.
Where is the Dominance when you ask subs to pay for things that you actually can’t afford ? Honestly, this sounds dumb and desperate
Now back to the replies on my reimbursement opportunity. Every reimbursement opportunity or receipt I post here or on my Twitter have always been paid in full. I don’t need anything. I can pay my own bills and take care of all my expenses.
Now what I do like to
see, is that subs spend their hard earned money on me instead of spending my own.
It’s a hot game, they thank me for it. And as sub, who do you like to serve ? a
Dom that is needy or a Dom that manages his own money properly …
It is common for people to take a step back and dedicate a portion of their time to self reflection at the beginning of a new year.
As opposed to making that process coincident with the Earth completing yet another boring loop around the Sun, I like to entertain such thoughts closer to my birthday instead (the 5th of April), which seems like a much better occasion and excuse to celebrate and look back.
By the time I turn thirty seven next week, I will have been a member of this site for almost three years, and I think that it is fair to say that this site has changed me; not in a drastic, or in a bad way. But the more we grow, the more we find ourselves wanting to learn and experience new things, for which change is usually a suitable mechanism to go through.
This has always been a trait of mine, also in my personal and my professional life: I do not like stagnation and I do not do well staying at idle over extended periods of time.
My time in OF has not been any different.
When I first joined, I found myself surrounded by people who, for the first time, understood a very personal part of me that I had rarely shown to anyone else.
I would say that my communication style back then was certainly more assertive, if not borderline aggressive. Perhaps under the misconception (unfortunately shared by many) that such were the tools and characteristics of Dominants.
Being, at the time, surrounded by a number of very successful Alphas with a clear bias towards leather, boots worshiping, or pain-play (kinks which were not particularly high up on my list of preferences, or not as high as they were in theirs, at least), made me question my approach to domination compared to theirs.
I was still feeling a sense of belonging, but there were very significant differences between us that I struggled to reconcile.
Yet, these guys managed to pique my interest on a continued basis, and even brought a competitive side out of me, wanting me to do better within the scene. And the ability to motivate others is something that I will always admire in people.
The chat room was a fundamental tool for me to gain perspective. I found myself chatting with other users for hours, subs and Doms alike, getting to know them better, appreciating the nuances of their dynamics, learning about what made them tick, getting insights into their psyche, and eventually bounding with them.
And, as I learnt more from them and about them, I also learnt more about myself: what fascinated me the most about this site was and will always be the human interactions.
It is not about sums of money, it is not about the rankings, it is not about sex; it is about building trusting relationships:
With my fellow Doms, because they are individuals sharing a rather unique and uncommon kink with me.
And with subs, because the unquestioning obedience that most of us seek comes from building trust and developing relationships, rather than from proclaiming a title and dictating rules.
And, as it happens, I have always been good and thoroughly enjoyed building relationships.
I did not need the gear, I did not need the aggressiveness and, for what is worth, I did not even need a face. I just had to continue exploring the beauty of human interactions and their multiple facets to find my place.
As a wise submissive from this site said once (yes, there are A LOT of smart, incredibly intelligent, and wise submissives around): the rest are nothing more than tools to “lubricate” such relationships.
Fast-forward a couple of years, my approach has not changed much ever since that initial realisation. What has drastically changed is who I choose to cultivate those relationships with, and how much energy I opt to invest in each of them.
Arguably, it is a matter of deciding “whether if the juice is worth the squeeze”. And if you think I am talking about cash, think again; subs and Doms can offer a lot more than that.
I have significantly reduced my interactions in the chat room, I have not made as much contributions to the site as I used to, but I am still enjoying it, having fun and I plan to continue celebrating birthdays as a member of Submit for years to come.
I would urge you to dwell and dig deeper too. Open up (not only sexually, but also mentally), make your dynamics varied, get creative.
Transactional interactions can be fun, but they are usually short-lived.
As I often tell my subs: in a few years time, you will not remember the individual tributes you received or made, but you will certainly cherish the way some of them made you feel and the interactions that you had the opportunity to share along the way.
We all know there is a world out there of men that are turned on by being laughed at, humiliated, and exposed. In this short blog I want to focus on exposure subs and my findom.
b*******l is real and is getting more and more into findom. The master exposes the sub online (without consent). The sub is paying master to remove every single piece of info that is in the public domain. Myself I am not into non-consensual play.
Than we have exposure subs begging to be exposed. They want to get exposed, they actually kick on seeing their pictures and what they are doing all over the internet. If a master exposes the material which was send to him, than he actually helps realising the subs fantasy. It is as if the sub send a script to the master. I don’t see any power exchange here, there is no thrill for the Dom. If you are paid to expose the sub, it is rather being paid for a service. Yes I have exposed subs on their the demand for which I was paid. But I see it more like some marketing stuff. It’s a play which needs to be handled carefully, the last thing I want is to give the Sub some power. Also it gets boring after a while. Okay, not all exposure subs begging for attention are the same, if an exposure sub submits to a Doms superiority a relation can be developed like..
… Sub is tributing for you attention
… Sub is promoting his master
… Sub I getting mindfucked by his master and is showing his respect by tributing
I am sure there are more elements that can be added here, so comment or share experiences (let focus on he positive ones here).
Hot Takes
A few thoughts to stir the pot:
Feel free to challenge below (or call out if you find these to not be hot takes/you agree).
Cheers
_Saturday is Silent
sendings day. Chose a Sir or Sirs you like and send him or
(them)a silent tribute. A gift for
no reason except: I like you, This can go both ways from a sub to a
Sir and from a Sir to a sub, Domination and s********n goes both ways. Even in online findom. A sub will will be in heaven when receiving a hug, some extra attention a few special words, a teddy bear or a gift from his Master or a nice Sir.
Everyone knows where these tips will end up, it's only a special attention for those who are really trying to bring you more well being and happiness.
Silent
stands for giving a tribute without being ordered to give. Wwithout
asking a to tribute. Not
just giving a tribute to complete a target on time! Giving a tribute
for the joy of findom, serving and giving,
As for all my findom ideas, games and suggestions for findom fun ; ask your Master first if you are owned, Ask him before sending a tribute to other Sir(s),
Suggestion
to Sirs ; may I suggest you to allow your owned slave to play & have some with othersTake it from me, it's the best way to keep your sub fulfilled submitted, satisfied, honest and faithful.
More info, tribute ideas & serving games on my other blogposts on my profile,
Every sub has his ways to play, to Submit & to serve. Sirs are different and want different things. Find your match & most of all:
take care & have lots of great, hot findom fun.
Here I go again ; one more way to serve ! I can’t help it ; my creative brain loves findom !
A nice, hot option & many serving opportunities to Submit & serve,
For subs :
The Reimbursementsoption is wonderful option of the site to Submit and serveAlpha men,
This means participating in a refund with the amount of your choice. For your own Master or any Sir you like & want to please. An advice tor owned subs; ask your Master first before making a reimbursement, Unless you were alreadt given permission to serve other Sirs,
I wouldn’t want you to end in the dungeon because of my serving ideas & games
For Sirs :
Please add your receipt & give subs the possibility to serve & reimburse your receipt.
Reimbursing completely or a part of the price & amount, subs choice, An additional way to serve
you and be a little in your life to take part of your needs or your wishes, Isn’t it therole of a slave?
A bit like buying from your wishlistsbutexcept it is you who decide what you buy and when.
If I may say Sirs : be e nice, add yourreceips & allow us the the hot fun and joy to take part on your those reimbursements opportunities, Thank you Sirs.
More tribute ideas & serving games on my other blogposts on my profile,
A summary of my findom s********n, proposals,games & habits :
_Monday =
tribute day ; Master decides what, how much & when. Unowned (no Master?) Ask a Sir you like what kind of tribute you may give him
_Tuesday= rest day ! 1 day in the week to recover a bit, keep findom fun & hot.
here is nothing more boring than doing the same thing every day!
_Wednesday= wishlist
wednesday : on most Sirs profile & ont the wishlist group
among the other groups
_Thursday= £10 thursday .
_Friday= fagtax
_Saturday= do your thing
_Sunday= reimbursement day
Just my own habits & ideas for those who like games & creative s********n,
Still & Always :
MOA Master (the site owner) will be given a tribute whenever MOA will be written on the chat.Unless the very few times I don't have tips no more.
See my previous blogpost about this game!
I would like to suggest all users who likes this site to participate on this findom game to help the owner of the site and its many costs. There's also a donations option
Those who have been on the site for some time know I come up with new idea, findom games tribute habits from time to time.
I thought of a new game, Not about targets on me (for once) ! I'm launching this new game & challenge to play & help the site owner (MOA ), I think hard-working superior Alphamendeserve some extra help. Especially when they work hard for others to have fun as on this site, Great times & good hot findom fun we have & share, I will therefor give the site owner a tribute (or a donation for the site costs whenever someone will write MOA on the chat. When being online myself & & see it ! I thought of someone as a member of the site writing his MOA name. Not you who would write your name ten timesMOASTER(lol) ! Isn’t it a fun way to help & show apreciation to the site owner & this great site ? Site we all like & have lots of fun on everyday , About other games & findom habits ; I will keep on completing nice, hot targets for some new Sirs, not yet served Sirs & a few Sirs I know. Sirs whose profiles are as described on my profile. More usual findom playing as monday tribute wishes & orders. wishlist wednesday & £10 thursdays, Info about those on my other blogposts on my profile page. And of course not to forget : the great reimbursements option on the site to add your receipts & give subs the opportunity to reimburse you. Findom games and habits according to my financial possibilities. with Sirs whom I have good contacts and with & whom I communicate & regularly send messagesThose depending of course on Master's choices, decisions and permission,
IfI would ever get the chance to be owned in the future & have a Master to call my own to become his.
Before you ask : Yes Slave, you know how I do dread your hard, cruel, fearsomedraining,
take care & have fun everyone,enslaved
As a newbie you may wonder, when is the best time to consider joining a stable on this site? I have only been on this site a couple of days and wanted to share a reflection on how cope with the first day or two as a lone stray or slave on here and trying to navigate your way around the site, and come to grips with all its features... and possible early pitfalls!
On my first day after registration, someone said to me that it can feel like being ‘thrown into a pool of sharks’, and there is certainly some truth in that so prepare yourself!
However, if you explore that analogy a little further, you can actually find a solution in there too! For me, what I did was, when the first ‘shark’ or Master came along who presented as clearly powerful, dominant, charismatic and communicated a clear projection of an overall decent person with personality (yes, I’m talking about you, my beloved MasterZal, you can start preening your feathers while you smile that knowing smile!)… well, I bought him a beer and asked him about joining his stable. My initial judgement of him was confirmed when he advised not to rush into things too quickly unless I was absolutely sure. This ‘shark’ didn’t bite needlessly then and had some real and genuine empathy for me in my predicament. To be serious, being taken in by Masterzal is like walking into the corner shop and buying a lottery ticket and then winning big time! I simply can’t wait, and am giddy with excitement and butterflies, to begin deepening and strengthening our Master/slave dynamic, learn from him and open myself up to all the new opportunities for growth and personal development that comes with any new special relationship. I feel truly blessed to have stepped through the front door of OF and found Masterzal waiting there to greet me at the ‘welcome mat’ and show me around. How many slaves can truly say that they have had that same intensively positive and encouraging start to their life at OF? Quality conversations and interactions from the get-go! Comments below, please! Or drop me a message and tell me your story, I would love to hear it, both good and less good experiences!
Later that first day I wanted to thank him for his advice and his general good guy vibes (how they gently pull our strings so, eh?!) so I bought him a really nice blue camo computer mouse from his Amazon wishlist. When he later thankedme for it and commented that he would think of me when he used it, which on this site might well be quite a lot, I realised that he hadsussed me out! I wanted him to think about me a lot, every time his Master’s hand grabbed that mouse and clicked. It would feel like it was a little bit of me he was grabbing and giving me a friendly ‘click’ or nudge.Or for every mouse scroll.. like a soft stroke or pat on the head.
Masterzal very kindly accepted my application to join his prestigious stable only 24 hours after joining the site, and was probably quite right indeed to call me a bit of a stray puppy looking for a collar and a short leash! But power and control is always a two-way process, it is never all about one side of the coin. And it made me reflect on my own and my gorgeous beloved Master’s words and actions... who exactly was controlling who and how in this scenario I’ve just outlined? Worth thinking about, eh? Who has gained more from the ‘transaction’?
To go back to the shark pool analogy, my reasoning was this: where is the safest place to be in a pool of sharks? Ask the Remora or Pilot Fish… they swim close to the sharks, eat any parasites feeding off the shark and so have formed an inter-dependent, symbiotic relationship with them… a bit like Masters and slaves when they truly get it right and commit to taking the time to get to know each and walk a journey together. From the point of a newbie slave - as a ‘Pilot Fish’ in a pool of ‘sharks’ - my advice to newbies is this…find the very best ‘shark’ you can, the very best Master who will help you grow and deepen your slave mindspace... and also find great comfort and refuge from predators in these perilous waters! Happy Swimming!
Click here for info on the Pilot fish!" https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pilot_fish
Selfless sacrifice is a concept that is often discussed, but not always fully understood. It refers to the act of willingly giving up something of value, such as time, money, or personal desires, for the benefit of someone else. This selflessness is the driving f***e behind many acts of kindness and generosity, and it is a powerful f***e for good in the world.
There are many different ways in which people can show selfless sacrifice for others. For example, a parent may sacrifice their own career aspirations in order to stay at home and care for their children. A friend may give up their own plans in order to be there for a loved one who is going through a tough time. A person may even give up their own life in order to save the life of another.
One of the key reasons that selfless sacrifice is so important is that it demonstrates the purest form of submissive obedience. When you are willing to put your Master’s needs before your own, it shows that are willing to do whatever it takes to please them. This kind of selflessness can be incredibly inspiring to other subs, and can help to build strong, positive relationships both in M/s and among your beta peers.
Another reason that selfless sacrifice is important is that it can help to create a sense of community and unity. When there is willingness to put aside your own needs and desires for the benefit of your Alpha, it can help to create a sense of shared purpose and belonging. This is especially important in kink communities, where leading by example sets the cultural tone for a given space. It is why this site is so successful: MOA is fastidious in setting that tone & community right.
In addition to its personal and social benefits, selfless sacrifice can also have significant practical benefits. For example, when you devote your time and resources to your Master, it can have an additive impact on his life. From providing luxury and indulgence to his everyday routine, to offering support and assistance in the menial tasks he can’t be bothered to handle himself. Selfless sacrifice can make a real difference in his world. This is how you earn the privilege of existing in it.
Of course, selfless sacrifice is not always easy. It requires a great deal of courage and self-discipline, as well as a willingness to put your Master first. It can be difficult to put aside your frivolous desires, especially when we are facing your own feeble-minded impulses. However, the sense of fulfillment and purpose that comes from making a selfless sacrifice for your Master is rewarding beyond compare. It is the paramount reason for your submissive self.
In summary, selfless sacrifice is the fundamental concept that drives the growth between a submissive and its Dominant. Whether it is a small act of kindness or a major sacrifice, the willingness to put your Master first and foremost while setting aside your own lesser wants demonstrates the truest form of servitude. In a world that is often focused on self-interest and individual gain, selfless sacrifice is a reminder of the power of s********n brings to kink, to community, and to power exchange play as a whole.
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